Can you help?, unsure. Options

[x3chrissyx3]

Okay, so Brett* my boyfriend and I hav been together for a good amount of time. I love him with everything I have, and he says he loves me. This past summer, he started to act more like an a-hole than ever. He used to call, and he'd tell me about this girl he thinks is hot, and how he likes her. I dont know...but that got me pretty badly. Then, it started with the phone calls just to tell me goodbye, and he's walking out the door and I wouldnt hear from him in 3 weeks. In October, i found out about this girl who he'd been seeing more of, and he slept at her house, etc. Now, he started to blow me off for her....but still in all, I tried not to love him, even though I wanted him sooo badly. Meanwhile, we broke up for a month, and then he came crawling back. And since then...one day it's like "I love you" then the next day "we dont belong together" and then back to "I love you."

-So here I am, hurt and confused. We've been together for 2 years, and I would hate to break up over this. I've gotten no explanations for the way he's acting...except for the girl thing which he told me he was "kidding" - but obviously it's bullshit if it went on everyday for like, a half hour. I have ppl tellin me to stay with him, most importantly myself, and then people saying to dump him, which I want to do...I think?

I really need more opinions.

Thanks!

[nerdish]

Y'know, I've had boy problems like that before... and seriously, it sucks. I know, but sometimes... if the problem persists, it's only healthy for you to just... end it. I know that's probably something you don't want to hear-- but in time you'll find that you're better off without that drama. And really, if he's causing all this grief to you, then he isn't worth it. And I'm thinking... sometimes, guys like that have the tendency to talk out of their ass. But who knows-- your boyfriend could actually be genuine about he feels for you. But if he has the audacity to keep leading you on like this, he just needs to burn. I don't know, I guess it's just me, but I don't have any tolerance for scumbags like that. Two years is a long time though... but if he's actually changed, like altered his behavior and personality, it might be pretty hard to change him back to the way he way. It's common for that to happen... I mean, people change, and people grow... maybe you need growth-- without him. I don't know, but if you choose to stay with him, the best of luck to you, and I'll support your decision, because you're the only one who can determine your self-happiness. But take care, and keep safe <33