open marriage, for or against? Options

[*mzkandi*]

here is the back story

Will Smith and Wife Have 'Open' Marriage

United Press International
Actor Will Smith says he and his wife have an agreement that they can
have sex with others provided they inform each other first.
Smith, 36, has been married to entertainer Jada Pinkett Smith for seven
years.
"Our perspective is, you don't avoid what's natural," Smith told
Britain's Daily Mail. "You're going to be attracted to people. In our
marriage vows, we didn't say forsaking all others. The vow that we made
was that you will never hear that I did something after the fact."
"If it came down to it, then one can say to the other, 'Look, I need to
have sex with somebody. I'm not going to if you don't approve of it --
but please approve of it.'"
Smith said he was forced to admit he had sexual feelings for other
women when working on his film 'Hitch,' in which he stars with Eva
Mendes, whom he described as freakin' gorgeous.
Despite that attraction, Smith says his second marriage is still solid.


my question is do you support or oppose open marriage??

me personally i dont care if other people do but i think it takes away from the whole point of being married.

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o.o' Well, I'll try not to take that personally since it wasn't actually pointed at 'me'..But in defense of those of us who dont see anything wrong with it, as long as everyone that are involved agree and understand to the situation..Then 'that' is personal choice. You can get pregnant just as easily in 'any' one night stand, so..That's all this would be, no? o.O

It's not about beong 'devoted'. It's about fun.

[*mzkandi*]

It's not about being 'devoted'. It's about fun.

you seem to be trying to make a strong point of the matter being about fun. and for some couples i am sure it is. but i think for a majority some would rather tell there husband/wife that they are going to sleep with someone else rather than go behind there back and do it

take note Will Simth said
"The vow that we made
was that you will never hear that I did something after the fact."

so i think the matter is more than the fact they want to have fun, they just cant control those hormones. they maybe have feelings (at least enough feelings to have sex with that person) and they dont want to sneak behind each others back aka cheating

with that said i still think its unfair to judge a couple based on what they decide to do in their marriage. what works for one couple may not work for another. i know i would never have an open marriage because for me marriage in a special bond between two people but thats my opinion and dont expect everyone to agree with that