help me figure this out?, me + this girl = ? Options

[sadolakced acid]

ok. so. let's go with some background.

i'm asian. she's asian. we have mostly the same friends.
yada yada, all that good crap about parents and gradeas and stuff usually associated with asian nerdiness.

so we start 9th grade. from the first day of school i think, dang she's hot, i should talk to her.

bleh bleh. i talk to her on AIM and between classes.
bleh bleh bleh. so i start liking her, right? ( in about a month) and then her friends would be like, are you ___? ___(her) talks about you all the time.

yea, so i figure she likes me.

so i deliberate whether to ask her out and all, and in the end not asking her out comes up as my choice, because our parents wouldn't let us go on any dates anyways, and 'going out' without actually going out anywhere is... kinda stupid.

ok, so i tell her this on AIM that day, except stupid me didnt' word it right and she thinks i was asking her out.

anyways: so she says yes and we do the whole hold hands/ walk to class thing in school.

which of course makes me like her more.

goes on for a month, she gets report card, and then breaks up with me. (dumps me, whatever you want to call it.)

(yes this is still background. )

her reason? her grades aren't good enough and i'm distracting her. bleh. stupid nerdy reason for you.

anyways; i got mad at that because she told all my friends she was going to break up with me before i knew. In fact, the way i found out was one of my friends told me "i'm sorry" BEFORE she(the girl) broke up with me.

(still background..)

yea so, i'm distraught, i still like her, she still wants to be friends.

(notice that about 2 months has gone by)

ok. so i'm angry at her so she kinda avoids me for a while.
bleh bleh bleh i'm not over her.

FF (fast forward) to end of school year.

yea i've gotten over her some, and then liked her a bit, etc.

this year ( sophomore) i finally go over her, and the realized what a bad friend she was, and told her i don't want to be friends anymore.

yada yada (still background) she gets mad at me, bleh bleh gets all our shared friends mad at me so i have to be friends with her again.

i have to admit i did want to be friends with her a bit, because i still kinda liked her. you know, where you still think someone's hot but you know they're terrible... no? oh well...

ok so then in about a month or so i tri y again, except this time i have a plan. since if i try to not be friends with her, all our shared friends will be like, GRR to me, i decide i'll make her mad at me and so then our shared friends can't say it's my faults... ok. so that doesn't work either, as they know it's me behind it.

(yes, that was background. quite long. i know. it's complicated?)

alright so:

now i sorta like her; but i wouldn't really care if she never talked to me again. however, if i try to never talk to her again, bad things will happen.

what the heck do i do?

[alsex]

listen i'm not saying you gotta act shady towards her but if you dont really wanna hang with her at least be able to respect her by acknowledgin her prescence and what not... discreetly try to avoid her... if she shows up at the same thing that you are at go to an area where you won't be next to her... if she tries to make plans with you be busy... if she wants to make small talk answer in yes or no form... one word answers if yes or no wont help...
2 try finding new girls to hang with...
she aint all that, but shes cute... go to other places wit yer boyz and pick up some girlies elsewhere...
3 if shes really a bad friend the guys will know, the ones that wanna hook up with her wont mind that shes a bad friend... the ones that dont will side with you... the girls on the other hand are young and dumb... they will be on her side and just stab her in the back. when a guy gets between them, then itll change things so if you really wanna change things date her friend... but you'll be known as that guy so just pick up girlies at other places clubs, malls, comic book conventions what ever you kids do now a days