open marriage, for or against? Options

[*mzkandi*]

here is the back story

Will Smith and Wife Have 'Open' Marriage

United Press International
Actor Will Smith says he and his wife have an agreement that they can
have sex with others provided they inform each other first.
Smith, 36, has been married to entertainer Jada Pinkett Smith for seven
years.
"Our perspective is, you don't avoid what's natural," Smith told
Britain's Daily Mail. "You're going to be attracted to people. In our
marriage vows, we didn't say forsaking all others. The vow that we made
was that you will never hear that I did something after the fact."
"If it came down to it, then one can say to the other, 'Look, I need to
have sex with somebody. I'm not going to if you don't approve of it --
but please approve of it.'"
Smith said he was forced to admit he had sexual feelings for other
women when working on his film 'Hitch,' in which he stars with Eva
Mendes, whom he described as freakin' gorgeous.
Despite that attraction, Smith says his second marriage is still solid.


my question is do you support or oppose open marriage??

me personally i dont care if other people do but i think it takes away from the whole point of being married.

[CrimsonSkyGraphi...]

Heya All,

Hm, well..I guess I'll be the first to comment from my perspective. My current bf of over 2 years and I..have a similar agreement. True, we're not 'married' yet..But we're planning on it. I've told him before that if he wants to, then he can..but only if I know about it first. Just as we're up for threesomes or whatever.

Now, I do know that he's really not 'interested' in another girl..which helps, and makes it that much more special cause he knows I woulnd'nt mind. But..I look at it as this: Sure, he may do and sleep with some other girl..but who's the one he wakes up with every morning? Who's the one he loves more than anything in the world? I'm comfortable he'd never 'cheat' on me..And I trust him with everything. Heck, he was even against the idea when I told him he could. o.O

Yes, marraige is about two people..and yes, I can totally understand why it should stay between those two. But I also know that it's okay to have a little fun sometimes..and if it's something you both enjoy, then what's the harm of it?

[pandamonium]

Heya All,

Hm, well..I guess I'll be the first to comment from my perspective. My current bf of over 2 years and I..have a similar agreement. True, we're not 'married' yet..But we're planning on it. I've told him before that if he wants to, then he can..but only if I know about it first. Just as we're up for threesomes or whatever.

Now, I do know that he's really not 'interested' in another girl..which helps, and makes it that much more special cause he knows I woulnd'nt mind. But..I look at it as this: Sure, he may do and sleep with some other girl..but who's the one he wakes up with every morning? Who's the one he loves more than anything in the world? I'm comfortable he'd never 'cheat' on me..And I trust him with everything. Heck, he was even against the idea when I told him he could. o.O

Yes, marraige is about two people..and yes, I can totally understand why it should stay between those two. But I also know that it's okay to have a little fun sometimes..and if it's something you both enjoy, then what's the harm of it?

you see just like you there are people who are open to these things and as long as they are ok with it they should be fine. i mean i may not support it but like crimson_sky she is alright with it and her partner it shouldnt be a big deal .