hard to admit?, being dumped Options

[lexaa621]

why are some ppl in denial of having been dumped?
two people i know were definitely dumped, but they claim it was "mutual"
if it was "mutual" they probly wouldnt have been as pissed off/upset about it, no? they wouldnt be saying "man shes such a bitch" or "omg i hate him so much" if they "agreed" to break up, right?

sorry i just felt like complaining about ppl like that. anyways....
whys it so hard to admit youve been dumped?

[SimplicityGirl]

When you get dumped...you lose your pride, your confidence in yourself, your self-esteem and how you see yourself. Of course, you also get heart broken.

When my ex broke up with me, I was in denial for 2 weeks or so. I couldn't believe that he would just dump me like that, after spending 35 days together and having lot's of fun along the way. I felt that if only I had been a better gf to him, he wouldn't have broke it off with him; I just kept on blaming myself, and telling myself that if I had just know what the limits were, he wouldn't have done that. However...after a while, I just learn to pick up the pieces and move on with my life. There is no point in crying over spilt milk.

Also...I think that people are often in denial after breaking up is because it came as a shock. People often didn't see it coming, so when they do get dumped..it came as a real big shock to them. And one of the ways that we deal with shocks is by being in denial about it and that by pretending that it didn't happen, they can go on living their lives the way it was before it happened.

But mostly, I think that they don't want to admit it is because it takes a lot of courage to admit that you weren't the right person for another person, and basically admitting that the breakup happened because of something that you did or didn't do, however minor. And it takes courage to tell people what happened, because it hurts.