My daughter... Options

[iheartjohn]

As some of you may know, I have a 4 yr old daughter (Geena, look at sig for pictures) and if you read this post I made a while ago you already know about my ex boyfriend, Tom.

I couldn't really get advice from my friends, because they got really weird on the subject and weren't much help, but I figured since you guys don't really know me, it'd be easier for you to say what you think.

I followed your responses about my problem with Tom (I left him), and ever since then, now he wants to see his daughter, Geena. I'm really scared to see him again, because every time we do talk it turns into an arguement and I end up crying and Tom manages to revert back to his old self and he hits me.

A week ago, Geena asked me "Why does Daddy hurt you?" and I really didn't know what to say.

I don't want Geena to see this stuff, especially at such a young age, but last night Tom and I got into a fight on the phone, and he thinks he should see his daughter. (BTW he's 24).

Of course I don't trust him and Geena alone, I'm afraid he'll hurt her, but I don't want to see Tom again.

Do you think he has a right to see his daughter? I mean, he did pay for a lot of her necessities when I was pregnant and when she was just born...

Sorry if this is too long. I just wanted an opinion/some advice.

EDIT // I didn't think this should be in relationships, since it's about Geena's sake.

[cHuNsAbAbIe012]

well i think u should definitely go to court n get custody of ur daughter. it may use up a lot of ur money but that is the best options. have any friends or family who have witnessed the abuse to testify for u. im not sure if ur daughter's testimony will be allowed since she's only four. but i do think he has full rights to see his daughter. a father can treat his children decently even if not the mother n lawfully he has the right but morally...he doesnt deserve to see his daughter if that's the kind of person he's gonna be. n u could report domestic abuse if u lived with him bfore...i dont know if u lived with him or not. i think u really should take this to court. so wat if he provides physical neccessities for her? there's a thing called mental abuse. even if he doesnt do it directly to her he's still doing it to her by the way he treats u in front of ur daughter or if she even hears ur arguements.