My daughter... Options

[iheartjohn]

As some of you may know, I have a 4 yr old daughter (Geena, look at sig for pictures) and if you read this post I made a while ago you already know about my ex boyfriend, Tom.

I couldn't really get advice from my friends, because they got really weird on the subject and weren't much help, but I figured since you guys don't really know me, it'd be easier for you to say what you think.

I followed your responses about my problem with Tom (I left him), and ever since then, now he wants to see his daughter, Geena. I'm really scared to see him again, because every time we do talk it turns into an arguement and I end up crying and Tom manages to revert back to his old self and he hits me.

A week ago, Geena asked me "Why does Daddy hurt you?" and I really didn't know what to say.

I don't want Geena to see this stuff, especially at such a young age, but last night Tom and I got into a fight on the phone, and he thinks he should see his daughter. (BTW he's 24).

Of course I don't trust him and Geena alone, I'm afraid he'll hurt her, but I don't want to see Tom again.

Do you think he has a right to see his daughter? I mean, he did pay for a lot of her necessities when I was pregnant and when she was just born...

Sorry if this is too long. I just wanted an opinion/some advice.

EDIT // I didn't think this should be in relationships, since it's about Geena's sake.

[starlette]

I say you should possibly get legal intervention. I admire that you want safety for you and your daughter. You are very strong for being able to leave him. My mother went through the same thing, and I lived my entire life without my father. Because she didnt want him to turn and beat me later. So I suggest that if he does want to see her, you should get a shaperone. Someone to keep you safe and your daughter safe. because a man that hits is not safe. And if you have to call the police or something, do what you gotta do. But dont risk you and ur baby girls safety. It may be hard, but you need to make it clear that if he wants to hit you, he wont see that little girl. She doesnt need to be raised in that kind of environment, and if he really wants whats best for you, hell keep his damn hands to himself. I really wish you the best of luck. you are so beautiful. You do not deserve to be trated that way. good luck. hope everything works out.