he's 26..., ... and i'm 17 Options

[Haruka]

ok i'll try to make this as short as i can, but i'll elaborate more later.

i've known this guy for about 3-4 years, but when i first met him i didn't ever think about going out with him. He lived in my house b/c he didn't have papers and needed some where to live until he had a job. Then he moved out after a few months and after that i went to live in another country for about 2 years.

My mother talked to him when he was living with me and it turns out he's my great grandmother's decendant so he's like barly my cousin or wut ever relation he would have with me, but i still call him my "cousin"

Ok so now i'm much older, more developed and he sees me again after 2 years and he thinks i'm hot and he thinks i'm so mature for my age and is pissed off that i'm not older. he tells me that he loves me and he wants to live with me, and take care of me

One day we had a get together of my bro's and my friends and at almost the end of the night when i was full of wine coolers and shots of singani (and so is he) he starts to kiss me, and i like it, i let him. but then i get scared, because my brother's right behind us with two other people looking at pics on the computer, thier backs to us (they can't see us)

We start making out a bit then we stop b/c my bro and his friends start talking to us again.

then about 2 weeks later we have another gathering of friends, we drink and at the end of the night i'm drunk like hell (more than i have ever been) and we make out some more, but he starts doing other non pg-13 things to me (but i'm still a virgin) and my brother calls me upstairs and i don't see him for the rest of the night.

ok so what's the problem, you ask?
he's 26 and i'm 17
and everyone thinks he's my "cousin"
and not to mention if he EVER breaks my heart, then my bro and his friends will beat the living @#$@# out of him (but they are just tooooo over protective)

any advice?

[starlette]

sweetie, not to judge, but hes taking advantage of you. when I was about 12, I knew girls who were dating guys 9 years older than them, and I continue to see it now when I'm 19. Men know that younger girls will feel special when they pay attention. They know that an older guy makes a girl think saftey. So they trust them, and do a lot more with them. And guys like tight p**** Please. I'm asking you to be smart about this. If hes so great, couldnt he get girls his own age? 26 years old is an entirely different level. I just don't think its wise that you go that route. Thats just my humble opinion, but older guys are stronger and meaner too. they are capable of more damage, and u could really get yourself hurt. I suggest you find someone within about 3 years of your age. I wont hardly date anyone much older than me than that. just be safe and careful. when it comes down to it, its your body, and your life. Just choose wisely, cuz this is the only chance u get with it.