Am I out of line? Options

[x3chrissyx3]

I have been with my now, fiance for 3 years, we love each other dearly, but we were talking yesterday and what came out of his mouth truly upset me. We were talking about him getting turned on...and then he goes "I mean, guys get turned on at least 4 times a day" By a pretty girl or whatever. But then he was like "It's not like I walk around with a hard-on all day" Then he goes yeah, I'll see a pretty girl and be like "She's pretty. Cool" and that's it. But...I mean, I'm a girl, and I know we're different than guys, but it honestly hurts me so much when he says stuff like that, knowing that EVERYDAY he's turned on by someone else, and I don't give another guy a second glance. I got really frustrated, and to be honest, I'm EXTREMELY pissed, I just feel offended, ya know? This to me, is complicated. I'm not really a jealous person, but I feel like there are things that should and shouldn't happen, and I don't think he SHOULD be turned on by another girl...or other girls for that matter. I'm really upset, and it changed the way I look at him because I always thought he was..."better" than that. Am I out of line for feeling this way? Do you think it's normal? What would you do?

Thanks...

[x shootingstar x]

as everyone said, he's a guy.. and guys can't help it..
you should really have a deep talk about that to him... maybe he can help it? i don't know..

to answer your question, i don't think you're out of line..
i know what you mean.. if he's YOUR man, he shouldn't be looking at other girls.. that's just annoying.. and it seem at least somewhat unloyal. BUT, if you think about it another way, you can also be touch by another guy's smile. maybe YOU don't.. but i was just trying to give an example.. but you are DEFINITLY NOT out of line.

There was once a quote i've heard. "it's the hormones that make the gentlemen JERKS!"

hmm well.. i'm just rambling because i'm thinking myself..

how about this.. think it THIS way..

if YOUR GUY watches porn.. no matter how much.. [everyday, twice a week, once a month, or whatever] doesn't he get turn on? yes he does. and when he watches porn, he's looking at rated R girls.. (i wonder if this is pg13) but yes, that is annoying..

i was and sometimes still am annoyed by this truth.

but you are NOT out of line and you should have a DEEP TALK ABOUT ALL THIS WITH HIM!! trust me, it's for the better. he'll feel better knowing how you feel and you'll feel better knowing that he knows..


i hope i helped!