how awkward., parents and their assumptions... Options

[*stephinika*]

okay well this is kind of a ranty post but there is a point i swear...
well i went away to whistler from friday to sunday with my best guy friend and his family...now we're nothing more than that and i have a boyfriend...
so anyways, i'm really close with this guy and yeah so i hug him a lot and whatnot but that's normal...and on the way home in the car i was sleeping and leaning on him. thats not that bad is it? and we went to the hot tub at the hotel together alone (like just us 2)...and duh we didn't do anything bad. and we're both 16 btw. and we're asian.
anyways, when we got home we were chatting and he said his mom was mad but wouldn't say why...eventually she did. she thought we were too "close" (for ex. the leaning in the car, hot tub) and according to him her view of me has "changed". crap. what the eff...how awkward is that.
what would you do in this situation? he's going to talk to her tomorrow he said when he gives her the thank you card from me (my mom told me to give them one and yeah thats understandable since they took me with them) so yeah i hope he fixes it but still...he didn't say it but i understand what she's thinking - his mom thinks i'm a ho.
opinions? what would you do? etc...

sorry its long. but yeah. this is kinda upsetting...i thought she liked me.
well she did. but yeah. bleah.

[gigiopolis]

That is quite upsetting. I understand your situation, but coming from your guy friend's point of view. This is exactly the type of thing that my mom would do.

My mom is very emotional at times, and whenever one of my friend or his/her parents do something to annoy or offend her, she completely turns around them. She always goes around calling my friends whores, good for nothing, idiotic people. She's racist too, and she calls my friends racist names.

It's really really upsetting to me, I cry all the time over it, because she never understand the situations. I get mad at her for getting mad at my friends, which in turn gets her mad at ME because she thinks that I think my friends are more important that she is.

I think if you apologize to her, it'll be fine. Of course, it's hardly fair for YOU to be the one to apologize, but do it anyway. She'll appreciate the act.

[topsyturvy]

My mom is very emotional at times, and whenever one of my friend or his/her parents do something to annoy or offend her, she completely turns around them. She always goes around calling my friends whores, good for nothing, idiotic people. She's racist too, and she calls my friends racist names.

It's really really upsetting to me, I cry all the time over it, because she never understand the situations. I get mad at her for getting mad at my friends, which in turn gets her mad at ME because she thinks that I think my friends are more important that she is.

Wow. That's just not right. Your mom should know that she isn't any less important than your friends, or more, for that matter.

I think if you apologize to her, it'll be fine. Of course, it's hardly fair for YOU to be the one to apologize, but do it anyway. She'll appreciate the act.

Well.. she might think it's weird that you're going up to her and apologizing for nothing. You did nothing wrong. It's her that should get a life.

But maybe she's mad at you for your actions (leaning on him, hot tub) cuz from what I understood, I thought you liked the guy. I think your actions are a bit too provoking / leading him on. Maybe she's trying to protect her son from getting a broken heart.. since you already have a bf.

I think you should wait till after your bf gives her the thank you card. If she's still being unfair, then think about apologizing or confronting her.