would u go out with....ur friends ex, even if they said it was ok?? |
 Aug 29 2005, 06:21 PM
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 Jus Sweet Chocolate  Group: Member Posts: 739 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 216,959  |
wow!!! man o man, i just need to kno wut ppl think
 this is just a question that has been bothering me
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Aug 29 2005, 06:22 PM
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 I like it like that Group: Member Posts: 1,248 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 5,961 |
If they said it was ok? Yea, if i like the guy
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Aug 29 2005, 06:23 PM
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Jus Sweet Chocolate Group: Member Posts: 739 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 216,959 |
QUOTE(teenprincess @ Aug 29 2005, 7:22 PM) If they said it was ok? Yea, if i like the guy  but wut if, ur friend is tryin to get back with there ex....??? |
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| *StanleyThePanda* |
Aug 29 2005, 06:29 PM
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No, because all of my friends ex's are stoners.... =]
Thats why they are my friends "ex"s, because my friends dont like stoners and they started doing drugs. plus I dont like any of them... |
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Aug 29 2005, 06:33 PM
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 I come from East Oakland where the youngstas get hyphy! Group: Member Posts: 1,821 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,942 |
I would there is no shame in my game. Only if the friend said I could though, but then sometimes people say yes but on the inside they really mean no. I hate when people do that.
EDIT// Hope I didnt come off like a messy friend. This post has been edited by littlebit2006: Aug 29 2005, 06:36 PM |
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Aug 29 2005, 06:33 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
Err, relationships?
Anyways, well I suppose it depends. If my friend was trying to get back together with her ex, I wouldn't interfere, but if they both were fine with it, and I liked the guy, I might. |
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Aug 29 2005, 06:35 PM
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QUOTE(jEllyBeaNs @ Aug 29 2005, 7:23 PM) but wut if, ur friend is tryin to get back with there ex....??? then why would they say it's okay? should be in relationships. possibly. if i liked him and he liked me and everything just clicked and all. there are exceptions. |
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Aug 29 2005, 06:35 PM
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 cameraman swing the focus! Group: Member Posts: 1,880 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,328 |
No, because my friends and I have different tastes in guys
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Aug 29 2005, 06:35 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 1 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 219,238 |
well if they just broke up during this year, than no, but if it was like 2 or 3 years ago and they don't talk anymore than I would
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Aug 29 2005, 06:54 PM
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 This bitch better work! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,681 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,095 |
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 TOPIC MOVED TO RELATIONSHIPS |
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Aug 29 2005, 07:30 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,152 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,818 |
Yes. It's happened.
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Aug 29 2005, 07:30 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
HELL NO i would never, that's like an unwritten rule.
usually, friends just say that it's okay to make you happy when it's really killing them inside. it doesn't matter if you wait one hour or one decade, it's still going to hurt your friend that her ex is having such a great relationship with you and that her relationship with him didn't work out. |
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Aug 29 2005, 08:28 PM
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 Ms. I Can't Tell Pants From Math Group: Member Posts: 371 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 191,034 |
Depends, really.
I'm dating a great guy, he's one of my friends though, so yeah. He went out w/ my acquaintance because her friends pressured him into it, and he avoided her for a month or two until he couldn't take trying to make her break it off with him so he broke it off w/ her...Yeah, now we're dating. I'm not a slut, really. Do acquaintances count? |
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Aug 29 2005, 10:02 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
i probably wouldn't but i did go out with my friend's ex anyways (she said i could and told me she was totally over him) then i found out she still had feelings for him so we didn't last long cause i felt really bad and actually had no feelings for him anymore.
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Aug 29 2005, 10:10 PM
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 Being happy...is all that matters Group: Member Posts: 765 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,284 |
Never. It's just one of those unwritten rules regarding friendship. I'd never go out with one of my friend's ex's, because I don't want to hurt my friend, directly or indirectly, by dating her ex.
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Aug 30 2005, 06:20 AM
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Okay..I would never ever date my friends ex boyfriend..It's like..One of those unspoken rules. You just don't..To your friend it would seem spiteful of you..Even though they say they understand and that you should, it's not alright. No matter how long its been since hte two of them were together, it still isn't right. She might be over him and he, her, but it makes no difference. If you date your friends ex, to them it seems cruel or mean or whatever of you..So yeah...Wouldn't do it.
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Aug 30 2005, 08:50 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
no i wouldnt. our motto between my best friends and i, is the cliched "chicks over dicks"
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Aug 30 2005, 10:14 AM
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 whaaaaaaat? Group: Member Posts: 2,293 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,660 |
no. cause always on some level, it's not okay.
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| *iNyCxShoRT* |
Aug 31 2005, 08:26 PM
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I wouldn't, no matter how much my friend and her ex hate each other. That's just not right.
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Aug 31 2005, 08:34 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
QUOTE(jEllyBeaNs @ Aug 29 2005, 6:23 PM) but wut if, ur friend is tryin to get back with there ex....??? but my friends just said it was okay...she should have said something she can't always get what she wants |
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Aug 31 2005, 09:15 PM
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 My name's Katt. Nice to meet you! Group: Member Posts: 3,826 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,674 |
If they think it's okay, why not? If you like them and they like you and you have your friend's approval, what can be holding you back?
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Aug 31 2005, 09:16 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 4,882 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,064 |
Even though they'd say they were perfectly fine with it, I'd feel uncomfortable. Especially if we were all haning out and we were hugging or something. It's just toop weird.
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Sep 1 2005, 09:23 PM
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 Unlock the Darkness Group: Member Posts: 305 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,967 |
If I didn't, I wouldn't be involved in my current relationship. In fact, if it weren't for him, I never would've asked her out.
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Sep 1 2005, 11:31 PM
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 lick me Group: Member Posts: 3,044 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 44,013 |
If the situation was good enough. Like, if they were well over each other with new lives and it happened a long time ago - and we really liked each other than why not?
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Sep 2 2005, 02:45 AM
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totally no.
dating your friend's ex is a big nono. it's just be weird having the friend watching u do the same stuff to the ex as the friend did before, and that would make your friend want the ex back and that would be tumultous. That would in turn complicate your friendship. |
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Sep 2 2005, 03:00 AM
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 RAWR. Group: Member Posts: 2,585 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,641 |
lol..I am right now. I have been for 2 and a half years. She doesnt care. in fact, she supports us 100%. Yall need to get over this whole uncomfortableness and not wanting to hurt your friends feelings. Some things are unstoppable. Besides, she only used him for his money. He was in love with her ( he thought so, it was hi school) and she threw him out when she got bored. SO he and I became friend throughout their relationship because he wanted to understand her better. She and I have been friends for 10 years now. I know her better than she does. So after that I helped him get his life back together, and 8 months after their breakup, we got together. She was a little shocked at first because she thinks he a loser, but now we all get along really great.
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Sep 2 2005, 01:28 PM
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To an extent I use the best friend's rule, if they were together for a REALLY long time (6 months+) and broke up badly then No. Because for me that is not right, especially if you were there for your friend through the whole break up and supporting them and all. Now if they were together a really long time, but broke up over mutual reasons and their are still good friends and don't care about dating each others friends, then its okay.
Basically I did the same thing once, my use to be friend was dating this guy off and on. She pretty much cheated on him, and was very abusive to him, part the reason why we aren't friends anymore, and so he ended their relationship. Now I had known him before she did, and infact me and him had been friends for a REALLY long time. About 3-4 months after they broke up, and we stopped being friends, he asked me out. Well of course when she found out, she went nuts. She tried telling her mother that supposedly they were going out and I had broke them up so that I could go out with him. And she spreaded a ton of rumors of how I had backstabbed her and done all these horrible things. It was a bad beginning for our relationship together, because between the both of us constantly trying to tackle all these rumors and with her still calling and harassing us both, it was rough. At one point her own mother cussed me out calling me all sorts of names and saying how I was a horrible friend. In the end, me and the boy lasted about 4 months together before we realized that we were more like friends than like g/f and g/f. Basically what I'm trying to say is that be careful before you get into any relationship that has an iffy past. Especially if the friend is still wanting to get back with their ex. It can cause a lot of issues and hurt feelings. In the end its really all up to you and what you feel for the person, and if they feel the same way. Man I feel like some sort of love doctor hah. |
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Sep 2 2005, 01:33 PM
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 F**k me Beautiful Group: Member Posts: 3,126 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,124 |
yes i would if i either had "permission" from my friend saying it was okay, cuz i mean come on , if hes not banging her, why shouldnt i? ROFLMAO IM JUST KIDDING. or am i?hah. seriously though, if i loved the girl and i have my reasons, nothings gonna stop me.
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Sep 2 2005, 03:07 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 147 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 217,916 |
If my friend said it was okay, then yes...If they really meant it, but if they didn't, then no, unless I was in love with the guy or something.
It's just something that really depends on the situation. |
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Sep 2 2005, 03:36 PM
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 Break My Heart Again. Group: Official Designer Posts: 480 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 198,983 |
depends on how close i am with the friend...if it was one of my best friends, than def. not...i
 them too much for that...but if it was a casual friend than yea, i don't see why not. 
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Sep 2 2005, 03:49 PM
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 I love you more than sex appeal. Group: Member Posts: 3,045 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,932 |
Probably if I liked the guy.
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Sep 2 2005, 04:04 PM
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 M.a. x. Group: Member Posts: 1,913 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 148,641 |
QUOTE(XKali_chik_4_lifeX @ Aug 31 2005, 10:16 PM) Even though they'd say they were perfectly fine with it, I'd feel uncomfortable. Especially if we were all haning out and we were hugging or something. It's just toop weird. I agree.....the same with me..i will but then i wont..its differ..and depends on who and how is the relation between me and my ex's friend |
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Sep 2 2005, 04:09 PM
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 that heaven is overrated Group: Member Posts: 5,096 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 53,124 |
Maybe...but most likely not. That would be too awkward, plus there is a possibility that it would cause some issues with my friend even if they did say it was okay.
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Sep 2 2005, 04:12 PM
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 I LiKe CoOkIEs O_o Group: Member Posts: 134 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 196,840 |
in one word: NO
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Sep 2 2005, 06:03 PM
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 Heh, I'm so cool =] Group: Member Posts: 74 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 221,660 |
I don't know. I guess it all depends...
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Sep 2 2005, 06:15 PM
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 show me a garden thats bursting to life Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,303 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,987 |
If they said it was okay, well then, OKAY!
Just talk if it's uncomfortable. Yeeeesshh. I've done it before. Nothing bad happened. She didn't mind at all. But we weren't all over eachother... |
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Sep 2 2005, 07:22 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
no way! thats like against the book oF BEST FRIENDS... if it were just A FRIEND.. then sure.. why not?.. but if it were a BESTFRIEND and she said it was okay still.. i wouldnt do that!
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