The Worst Mistake of MY life, Can I have advice? Options

[x3Death.By.Knife...]

Well, I need HELP!

In now in 8th grade.. but What i'm now telling you.. took place when I was in 6th grade. You see this guy that I liked starting talking to one of my friends on AIM. And she told me about the things they would talk about. So, one day I was online and he IMed me. [I assumed that my friend had given him my screen name] And we started to talk, and I found out that he liked me.. and I like him too. It was like a dream come true. Untill one day he asked me to be his girl friend. That's when I panicked. I told him that I'd think about it, and thats when I made the biggest mistake of my life. I told him NO.

You see, I am the youngest in my family.. I have two older brothers. And at that time neither of them had EVER gone on a date. So I told him no, because I thought that my parents would tell me that I was TOO YOUNG to go out. Now I'm starting to like him again.


Now, I'm in my last year of middle school, and I know that high school next year I'll meet cute guys, new guys. And What if I might want to go out with them. I want your advice. Should I go behind my parents backs and go out with a guy that I meet... Or should i tell them. But if I tell them, HOW? I feel so scared to tell them, cause my father seems so strict. He's going to have to meet the guy and make sure hes not someone my dad doesn't want me going out with. He hasn't said this, but I KNOW it will happen

Any advice? Please?

-Christina

[xoxoxx]

tell your dad you want a bf. tell him most 13-15 year olds get their boyfriends. And tell him it's a new generation, so if he says he didnt date that young when he was small, it can work against him. try not to be shallow, because bitches bitch you out. =P

[x3Death.By.Knife...]

tell your dad you want a bf. tell him most 13-15 year olds get their boyfriends. And tell him it's a new generation, so if he says he didnt date that young when he was small, it can work against him. try not to be shallow, because bitches bitch you out. =P

haha.. okay.. thanks

[inthemudhole]

Well...
I doubt that it'll be the worst mistake of your life. You're only going into the eighth grade....you'll meet a lot of other people as you get older, and relationships (boyfriend/girlfriend ones, anyway) shouldn't be your main priority right now anyway.

However, if you want to talk with him about it, I suggest you do it in-person. Basically just tell him what you told us just now.

As for telling your parents about it or sneaking around....the noble thing to do would be to speak with your parents about it, but that doesn't always get you where you want, so I guess if you want to risk it, you could sneak around. That's bad advice for me to give though.

[xoxoxx]

you're welcome. btw hi brie =P

[x3Death.By.Knife...]

Well...
I doubt that it'll be the worst mistake of your life. You're only going into the eighth grade....you'll meet a lot of other people as you get older, and relationships (boyfriend/girlfriend ones, anyway) shouldn't be your main priority right now anyway.

However, if you want to talk with him about it, I suggest you do it in-person. Basically just tell him what you told us just now.

As for telling your parents about it or sneaking around....the noble thing to do would be to speak with your parents about it, but that doesn't always get you where you want, so I guess if you want to risk it, you could sneak around. That's bad advice for me to give though.

haha.. not to me is it bad advice to give.

And you are right that its not the worst mistake of my life. I just feel that I had this GOLDEN opportunity. That a guy that I liked ACTUALLY liked me back, and then I turned it down. So maybe its not really the worst mistake of my life.. but I just feel like I regreted it especially since I like him now.

[inthemudhole]

you're welcome. btw hi brie =P

Hi Sean. :P

haha.. not to me is it bad advice to give.

And you are right that its not the worst mistake of my life. I just feel that I had this GOLDEN opportunity. That a guy that I liked ACTUALLY liked me back, and then I turned it down. So maybe its not really the worst mistake of my life.. but I just feel like I regreted it especially since I like him now.

Yeah, I see what you're saying. I was put in a similar position at the end of seventh grade. I had been liking this guy for a few months, we started to talk, he found out I liked him, he told me he liked me, he asked me out, etc. I was in the same position as you were because my parents are strict about things like that and have always stressed the fact that I couldn't date until I was about sixteen or seventeen years old. I went with it because I was so ecstatic at the time. Sneaking around can work, but only for so long... I mean, my parents figured it out after about five months or so.

Sorry for rambling. That really had no point to the thread, but I guess my final advice is to talk to him about it in-person. Things always go over the best in-person. Sure, things may seem smoother if you do it online or on the phone, but the results will be better if you do things in-person. If you end up going together, then I suggest you either have a nice, sit-down talk with your parents about things and that you'll behave yourself and still keep up your grades and such. If that doesn't work, then I don't know. I feel like a bad person for saying this, but I guess you could just sneak around if they say no.

Good luck. (:

[x3Death.By.Knife...]

Hi Sean. :P
Yeah, I see what you're saying. I was put in a similar position at the end of seventh grade. I had been liking this guy for a few months, we started to talk, he found out I liked him, he told me he liked me, he asked me out, etc. I was in the same position as you were because my parents are strict about things like that and have always stressed the fact that I couldn't date until I was about sixteen or seventeen years old. I went with it because I was so ecstatic at the time. Sneaking around can work, but only for so long... I mean, my parents figured it out after about five months or so.

Sorry for rambling. That really had no point to the thread, but I guess my final advice is to talk to him about it in-person. Things always go over the best in-person. Sure, things may seem smoother if you do it online or on the phone, but the results will be better if you do things in-person. If you end up going together, then I suggest you either have a nice, sit-down talk with your parents about things and that you'll behave yourself and still keep up your grades and such. If that doesn't work, then I don't know. I feel like a bad person for saying this, but I guess you could just sneak around if they say no.

Good luck. (:

How did your parents figure out that you were sneaking around?

I think if I do sneak around their backs I'd do it. But i'm thinking that i should first confront my parents about it when i get to the age 16.. cause that should be old enough to date. and they can't say no then

[inthemudhole]

How did your parents figure out that you were sneaking around?

I think if I do sneak around their backs I'd do it. But i'm thinking that i should first confront my parents about it when i get to the age 16.. cause that should be old enough to date. and they  can't say no then

Well, it was a combination of a few things. Once I forgot to delete his number off of the caller ID, I was spending more time than usual socializing, and I think they overheard me talking about my relationship with my best friend. Also, I think after they got suspicious, they started to read my Xanga a little bit. They then confronted me about it and I couldn't lie to them like that and say that I wasn't doing anything with a guy, so I ended up telling the truth. They then lectured me and told me to break up with him. I said I would, but I guess they figured I wouldn't, so they didn't allow me to go out with friends and such anymore.

And that's a good idea about confronting them when you're sixteen. That's a respectable age to start dating.

I ramble too much. /end random

[x3Death.By.Knife...]

Well, it was a combination of a few things. Once I forgot to delete his number off of the caller ID, I was spending more time than usual socializing, and I think they overheard me talking about my relationship with my best friend. Also, I think after they got suspicious, they started to read my Xanga a little bit. They then confronted me about it and I couldn't lie to them like that and say that I wasn't doing anything with a guy, so I ended up telling the truth. They then lectured me and told me to break up with him. I said I would, but I guess they figured I wouldn't, so they didn't allow me to go out with friends and such anymore.

And that's a good idea about confronting them when you're sixteen. That's a respectable age to start dating.

I ramble too much. /end random

oh, yeah. Well I just figured that if i did I'd just tell them that I was going to the mall with a friend, or the movies. And then they guy could just pick me up or my parents could frop me there. Or i could double with one of my friends and they could take me... i think too much

[inthemudhole]

oh, yeah. Well I just figured that if i did I'd just tell them that I was going to the mall with a friend, or the movies. And then they guy could just pick me up or my parents could frop me there. Or i could double with one of my friends and they could take me... i think too much

Yeah, I used to do that and I thought everything would be peachy, but I guess it just seems like you'll eventually get caught somehow. I was pretty confident about with what I was doing and all, and I made sure to cover my tracks a lot, but it'll eventually catch up to you. You can only really keep it a secret for so long.

[x3Death.By.Knife...]

Yeah, I used to do that and I thought everything would be peachy, but I guess it just seems like you'll eventually get caught somehow. I was pretty confident about with what I was doing and all, and I made sure to cover my tracks a lot, but it'll eventually catch up to you. You can only really keep it a secret for so long.

yeah, i guess you are right. But my friends and I go to the mall alot with guys [not dates just hanging out] and my parents just think my friends are all girls. Heh, I guess i just feel weird about talking about this stuff with my mom.. AND my dad

[x3Death.By.Knife...]

-> PM

If anyone has any more advice for me.. could you please PM me? I'm going to go look at other forums

[kill.t3h.r0cK]

Errm, besides that, yes, Christina, I'm gonna have advice for you. Doesn't Gab still like him?

Double date w/ me Or y'know you can go places w/ lots of friends and just split up w/ them to have some alone time w/ **** or someone you end up dating. I hope you don't get pissed that I know what's going on.

Your parents are going to find out sooner or later. But, they'll understand, it can't get worse than Ashly's mom, serious. I think it's best if you y'know talk to it to just your mom first and...yeah. Ask her for just one date and see where it goes from that. Or date him for a month or so...and then decide to tell her. I know, it's scary, but really, it's a lot better in the end if they know.

I mean...My dad was just like, "I hope you know what you're doing with broccoli head, Pam...I mean, couldn't you be more shallow?" Now that was strange advice from him...Much better if they know...eventually.

[crazeegirl411]

haha.. not to me is it bad advice to give.

And you are right that its not the worst mistake of my life. I just feel that I had this GOLDEN opportunity. That a guy that I liked ACTUALLY liked me back, and then I turned it down. So maybe its not really the worst mistake of my life.. but I just feel like I regreted it especially since I like him now.

Eh...that's not really as good as you think sometimes. You know, he might not be the greatest guy he is if you start going out with him, and there he is already, influencing you to sneak around (that's if you do sneak around).

I don't know though...it's not really advice. Just a little warning.

[_sarcastic_]

i don't think you made the worst mistake of your life i mean he's only a guy, and you were only in sixth grade. if you really want to start dating then, you could just tell your parents that you want and is ready to have a bf.

[audory]

talk to your parents about relationships in general, just to get their general attitude towards relationships. if they have a positive attitude towards it, then you're good. just tell them that you want to have a bf. if they have a negative attitude towards it, then either a) ask them anyway. tell them you'll be responsible and ask them to trust you on your decision. or b) sneak behind their back. it's what i do, but if i could choose "a" i would. as long as you know what you're getting yourself into and you're responsible enough to get yourself out of any mess you get into, then go for it. :) good luck!

[ClaudelGFX]

You see, I am the youngest in my family.. I have two older brothers. And at that time neither of them had EVER gone on a date. So I told him no, because I thought that my parents would tell me that I was TOO YOUNG to go out. Now I'm starting to like him again. 

Should I go behind my parents backs and go out with a guy that I meet... Or should i tell them. But if I tell them, HOW? I feel so scared to tell them, cause my father seems so strict. He's going to have to meet the guy and make sure hes not someone my dad doesn't want me going out with. He hasn't said this, but I KNOW it will happen

Dunno what to say,but i always knew how to explain to my folks ,that my life is MY LIFE,and i dont need anything,nor even advice's from them,so my point is,not they go out my GF,so its ONLY my problem,not their. (but yanow im male,not girl,on your side its kinda important for your dad,to protect you,because all of you may know,this strict things can "keep you alive",why i say this? because there are 23040230 pervs who for 5 minutes of his happyness,hurts a girl and maybe she will remain shocked for her entire life,for that 5 minutes:/ (i was talking about "rape's), that's why every parent are thinking this strict things could help you to stay outta problems,day by day... that's all, you should appreciate this,cuz there are parents who dont even care.... but when you think they are more then strict and they overreact you can explain what you're thinking,and what are your feelings for that person,and if they "CARE" about you,they will accept any1 YOU like. (the age is not important)

PS:i have 1 guy who lives in the same block with me,he's 38 years old single man doh! why ? she always listened to his mom,when he liked a girl,he always was asking his mom,if its good what he wants to do,if that would be the woman his mom wants to have in their home,doh <- really retarted, basicly all his life, his mom,thinked for him. doh.

You should know what's best for you,not others.

[mouse_3k]

oh well u made a mistake u have to live with it. He probably moved on cause he was turned down. oh well, get ova it. theres more guys out there

[coconutter]

My mom said she didn't want me to date until i was like 16, but I dated when I was 12 and my parents didn't know, but I told them about one dude I liked and was going out with and they didn't really care. Somebody had to drop me off at the movies =D