hurting self, my friend Options

[love-issosweet]

Well, I have a good friend who has pretty abusive (emotional and physical) parents from what he told me. They hit him, yell at him, not allowing him to eat and/or, and making him do constant chores that sometimes he almost faints. These problems basically just brings him down and being the person he is, he takes it really hard. Instead, to make those problems go away, he tries to hurt himself such as cutting, whacking himself, punching the school walls and ends up bleeding, and more. My other friends and I have been telling him to quit and that talking helps, not pain. He always responds that we don't need to worry about him and that he's fine and obviously, he's lying. I have been considering a therapist or a school conselor but then again, I'm not quite sure. He seems fine and happy like everyone else usually at school. But when on instant message and during night time, when his parents are home, his mood just dies. I just need some advice for what to do. Thanks :]

[mzislandpinay]

well you should kall child services and they can help alot! and just keep in touch with ur friend.. always talk to him.. doesn't have to be about his family life.. just talk about normal things.. lyk places.. friends.. so it can get his mind off about his family life and stuff

[tetrastar]

I don't think he'll open up to a counselor as much as he'll open up to his friends, but getting help is definitely a good option, I think. If he keeps on hurting himself like this, it's only going to get worse. I think you should tell an adult though. I can't believe his parents- they should NOT have children.

[shortiiex]

you should ask him desperatly to help and say that he is scaring you...your a friend and friends are there for each other and always butts in their probalems

[_sarcastic_]

you should tell him to seek help and fast, talk to the school conselor or someone he can trust. be there for him

[aera]

child services...

at my school, we have some program where we have these forms in the counselor's office and we fill it out if we're concerned about a friend. then the teachers do some investigating (secretly) and if they find something, the school steps in.

[littlewhite]

He needs to consult someone, possibly a psychiatrist.
The "fine" emotions he had at school are fake. He is trying to make himself not emotionally hurt. (according to my interpretation)

And you need to help him to get through this tough phase, be there for him and don't let him hurt himself, always as possible. Show him that you care about him.

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

You either need to tell him to tell someone like a relative or some sort of counseler or therapist. Or You should .

but before going overboard make sure hes tried to tell his parents that what they're doing is bringing him down and they need to stop. I know its very hard to talk back to parents let alone the fact they're trying to beat him and such. he just needs to be like "SHUT UP!! LISTEN!! im tired, i dont like getting beat, u make me work too hard , and if u dont stop im seriously gonna hurt my self" something along those lines lol. Problems cant be fixed if they arent brought up.

[mai_z]

He needs to find someone he can trust, just to talk to. Before anything can happen, he needs to know he can depend on someone, preferably an adult. After that, he can work with that person and/or you to see what he wants to/should do next

[shereyol]

tell him he should talk to someone before things get out of hand. or ask him to talk to his parents

[xXMomoBubbleTeaX...]

You should call an abusive or child services hot line...but make sure he's okay with it..cause I know sometimes friends say they're fine when they're not..but if you know he's hurting seriously make sure he gets some help no matter what he says..he'll thank you later...even if he might not like you right now if you do call the services on him...His life will be far much greater if you help him..& then you'll really be considered a true friend to him...I hope everything works out..& if you are to scared to help him out physically by calling the hotline..make sure you keep him in your prayers..

[elaboratedream]

the abusive parents situation is the only problem I see... talk to him about that one, try to get him to tell someone... but don't do it for him.

telling people about cutting and stuff only makes it worse. If he's anything like any of the cutters I know, he doesn't want help for that. If cutting helps the person, let them do it it's better than suicide.