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 Aug 19 2005, 07:59 PM
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 wanderlust personified.  Group: Official Designer Posts: 7,515 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 797  |
how many of you have been in one and share your experience.
i ask because i just recently fell into an open relationship. sort of like "friends with benefits" but a little more serious than that, and we're allowed to date other people. he and i agreed to to this because both of us had just gotten out of really long-term relationships, don't like the drama that accompanies a relationship, and feel that we're too young to be tied down and should be having fun. however, since the agreement, i've sort have found myself catching feelings and thinking about him and missing him more than i should for something that is suppossed to be "open" and "casual". i also hate the idea of potentially sharing him with other women. i don't know how long this is going to last without me wanting more out of our relationship. i wish i didn't fall so easily.  perhaps I'm just not cut out for this.
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Aug 19 2005, 11:44 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 394 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,231 |
why dont you tell him how you feel?
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Aug 20 2005, 01:22 AM
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I never been one.
------ Dont share anybody with him. =D Keep it yourself. puwahaha. 
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Aug 20 2005, 10:04 AM
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wanderlust personified. Group: Official Designer Posts: 7,515 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 797 |
QUOTE(MetalChick77 @ Aug 19 2005, 11:44 PM) why dont you tell him how you feel?  because i'm worried he doesn't feel the same way. and i can't take rejection well. 
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| *Programmer* |
Aug 20 2005, 10:20 AM
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Open relationship....as in you two are just messing around?.....well im not trying to be the person who brings bad news.....but im sorry to say it roxy....most of the time that doesn't work out.....i know plenty of guys and girls...who have had "open relationships" in the area we live in...that usually means that the guy or girl wants to mess around but doesn't want to commit because either there afraid or messing with other people....at the same time...if you keep this up your going to end up in heart break if you continue to feel the way you do...about him....i know i don't know the guy....he might be different...but it sounds like he doesn't want to be held down from the responsiblities of a relationship from what i've heard...i hope you can see this comment as coming from a freind and i hope it doesn't shatter your hopes...
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Aug 20 2005, 05:11 PM
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 dizzy me up. Group: Member Posts: 3,191 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,139 |
well not really but, i guess i never really planned for a serious relationship kind of thing either, but i find myself adoring him more and more... =x
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Aug 20 2005, 06:38 PM
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 I love you more than sex appeal. Group: Member Posts: 3,045 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,932 |
QUOTE(xquizit @ Aug 20 2005, 9:04 AM) because i'm worried he doesn't feel the same way. and i can't take rejection well. why dont u ask him if he still have feelings for you or is there any hints from him that made u think he likes u? |
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Aug 20 2005, 11:58 PM
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I think open relationships jusst leave the door open for the green monster (jealousy)..& it jusst complicates your friendship too...So I think you should either choose to be with him (& get over the drama part) or you should jusst decide to be best friends (& deal with other girls being with him)...it's really your call..you have to decide which emotion causes you less pain..I guess...
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| *RiC3xBoy* |
Aug 21 2005, 01:51 AM
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QUOTE(xquizit @ Aug 20 2005, 8:04 AM) because i'm worried he doesn't feel the same way. and i can't take rejection well. Although I understand what your feeling, I still say that asking him about it is the best way. I also highly doubt he will reject you. |
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