Help me.., Arr Options

[Paradox of Life]

Okay, I'm back again for help. I bet you're thinking I'm one of those immature 7th graders that would trade boyfriends on and off, but I'm really not like that. If I were like that, I would've said yes to the several people that asked me out just for the publicity. Truthfully, I don't give a damn about any boys that I don't like. But ANYWAY, this is the problem...

One day at school social, my friend and I were just hanging out, talking, socializing and my crush comes over like "Hey, what's up?". So yeah, we kind of eye each other and start talking with him. I always thought he had a crush on my friend, but my friend thought he had a crush on me. Anyway, when my friend went to call her mom to pick her up, he asked me out and I said yes, without thinking, I guess..

So, after that, we hung out a lot and saw each other all the time between classes. He has a friend I'll call D. So D would always be trying to get him to talk to me, hug me, kiss me, etc. We nicknamed him the 'matchmaker fairy'. And I ended up getting pretty close to D and obviously close to my boyfriend, which I'll call N. I always felt a bit distant from him though.

So my problem is.. I was talking to him and I asked him why he asked me out. And he said "Because you're hot". Okay.. I found that kind of rude, but then again, I've had so many bad relationship problems, I really couldn't just let him go. I mean, he's the only kid that's hugged me, kissed my cheek and said he loved me without being ashamed of it.

We had planned to hang out next weekend and take guitar lessons together if his mom would let him. It was so convenient for me. And he seemed like a really good friend.

And then I asked him how many girls he'd asked out. And he said a bunch. And I said, how many accepted? And he said about 5. You can't help but think he'll dump me in a week and move on.

AND THEN I saw him in the hall talking to D about how hot this one girl was and how hot she thought he was. And so I got really pissed off then and walked to class without him.

Then in the hall, when I was walking to lunch, he caught up to me and I said "You have some explaining to do" And he said "I'm sorry!" And then I said "Forget about next weekend, forget about guitar lessons, and forget anything that happened between us. I'm just too good for you." (Everyone was like "Ooooh..")

And so I ate lunch by myself, occasionally looking at him. HE WAS THE ONLY KID THAT WAS GENUINE TO ME. Or maybe not. I wouldn't know. I just feel so bad that I let this oppritunity go.

Then at advisory we had to go watch a presentation and he's in football, so I snuck over to that section of the cafeteria and sat next to him. And he just smiled at me real sweet and D was with him as well. And he was all "Awwwwww." And N said he wanted me back. But I said I never asked for him back, but I didn't know what to say at the time.

SOOOOOOOO, WHAT SHOULD I DO?

[5ayuri]

Well I think that if you really like him then just give him another chance.
But if he does it again then just dump him.

[technicolour]

Genuine things are..genuine. Fragile and delicate and when they break you can't get over it. I know how you feel, terribly.

If You still REALLY like him:

Talk with him, yes communication, about it. IMO, a guy can look, but if he touches, then dump him like a hot potato. From what you've told us, it sounds like he just looked. Looking shouldn't damage his rep completely...

If You dont like him:

Attempt to get over him. Easier said then done, eh? But that's why I said attempt. Sure he'll want you back, but it is COMPLETELY AND UTTERLY UP TO YOU whether you want to take him back.

I'm really sorry if this made like no sense, but, i tried, right?

[Chii]

he may have been joking when you asked him why he asked you out and he said because you were hot. my boyfriend and i kid around like that, we pretend we like each other or don't like each other because of superficial things, i always say to him "eww you're ugly" and "you're so hot."

but, he could have just been trying to show off to his friend by saying that some girl thought he was hot. it's just an ego boost.

if your gut feeling tells you that he was genuine, then he was genuine, give him just one more chance.

[_sarcastic_]

give him one more chance if you really like him.

[Paradox of Life]

That helped alot. Good thing I have the weekend to think over it. But I pretty much know what I'm going to do. Communication is the key. And peaceful breakups are always better.

[shortiiex]

you can't blame him for being a guy...he's innocent

[*chaneun*]

Give him the cold shoulder. Or, just ask him "What are other reasons you asked me out?"

[chibibunii]

well, sounds like you really like him.. and even though he was talking about the other girl - it doens't always mean that he likes her. i mean, you could say, omg this guy is so hot! i think he thinks i'm hot too!! and not give about him. and he's probably is for real. how could you know until you try, no? :] well, before any relationships - try getting to know him first, you know? i did that before, get with a guy that i really really liked for two years - and then..when i was wiht him, i wished that i could've gone back to get to know him first, because when i got with him, i found out so many bad qualities of him that i never knew of. so, take your time with him, and if he does really really like you.. he'll think its worth the wait.

or..
talk to him about it, aside from everyone else, at the park, anywhere. remember to keep eyecontact. look at him straight into his eyes and ask: do you really like me? because i dont think we would want to waste eachother's time if you didn't.

but remember: everyone deserves a second chance

but before all that, see if you REALLY do like him, or if its just infactuation. there's a difference :] one way to do that is .. sit in a really peaceful area, close your eyes, and just calmy think about it.

[technicolour]

That helped alot. Good thing I have the weekend to think over it. But I pretty much know what I'm going to do. Communication is the key. And peaceful breakups are always better.

You seem like a very smart girl. Communication is key, and peaceful breakups are SOOO much better. I have bad experiences with those.

[*mipadi*]

You seem like a very smart girl. Communication is key, and peaceful breakups are SOOO much better. I have bad experiences with those. 

Communication. Say it with me now.

[technicolour]

Communication. Say it with me now.

Oh. Em. Gee.

I didn't feel it needed to be BLOWN UP for the situation. Gorrsshhh..

[xXMomoBubbleTeaX...]

I can't believe I read all of that.. ..but I think that you should say yes...I mean all guys may talk about other girls but think about it..he prolly thinks your the most beautiful..

Cause when a guy says your hott
He's looking at your body
When a guy says your cute
He's looking at your face
But when a guy says your beautiful
He's looking at your heart

Also I think he feels really bad for what he did..soOo I think you should go out with him..& if it all goes wrong at least you know now..instead of thinkin of what could have, would have been..soOo jusst got for it..& take a chance..

[megan_x3]

hmmm ... many guys in my school just wants to play around. never really had a real relationship. =P but .. as for a 7th grader .. im not sure about middle school. glad that you thought it through !!

[ichigofan]

The impression that the story gave me was that you stayed with him because hes the only guy that treats with affection [somewhat] well if this is true then you should move on because just cuz a guy hugs you and kisses you doesnt mean he respects you and I know that guys will be guys and talk about other girls cuz thats their nature.. but by the way he asked you out and the reason he gave you as in why he did ask you out.. hes the kind of guy that a girl like you doesnt deserve.. hes only interested in the superficial.. just think if you werent hot would he still be with you and if your gut feeling is no then move on cuz a girl like you deserves much better

sorry i type too much lols

[Paradox of Life]

Blah, so I talked to him yesterday and today and he didn't seem so excited about talking to me. I asked him if he could sit with me at lunch, but I ended up sitting all by myself. I suppose I'm not even significant enough as a friend for a lunch date. And then I heard from his friend that he was going to ask an associate of mine out just for the sake of pissing me off. I don't know what has gotten into that guy... So .. I don't think he deserves another chance. Thanks for helping though. You made my decision a lot easier.