I need advice, I cannot take it anymore! -_- Options

[BrokenDream]

first of all, I am not jealous. just wanted to say this. and also, I don't know where this goes. so if a Mod can move it to the right spot, you may.

have you ever felt happy, or sad, or angry? I am right now at the same time. all of them. I went to six flags today with my sister, her boyfriend, and myself. I thought that it wouldn't be a problem with my sister's boyfriend there.
I WAS WRONG!

here we go. (LONG story)

you see, the whole time my sister and her boyfriend were holding hands, leaning on each other, and all this other stuff. wouldn't that make you a little angry? I haven't spent time with my sister in such a long time. and most of the time, she was holding hands, or whatever with her boyfriend. her friend seems a little upset just like me. because she can barely talk to my sis anymore because of those two doing something.

I tried talking to my sister to lay off. because this is a time to spend time with me (mostly) and friends. you can still be together with your boyfriend? but, it hurts the feelings of my sisters friend, and me (I am the little sister in this point of view. not that little though, lol) I thought to myself, "do that holding hands, and blah on a freaking date. not here. you are making us feel lonely. you are always with your boyfriend doing something).

she spends time with us, still, and we did have a great time. but, this really bugs me. and most of her friends. well, her friend that was there anyways.

my sis is not a bad person. she comfort my fear on one of the biggest, and fastest rollercoasters in Texas (Mr.Freeze). thank you, my sis. but, her friend, and I are sick of them not paying that much attention as she is surpose to, with us! so, I talked to her. but she did it again. why didn't you just talk to your boyfriend, and say to stop? thats my question. no, I am not jealous. don't think about saying this. I don't live with my sister, and it's hard being apart. I haven't seen her in a long time, and I have to deal with this crap!?

at this church thing, my sisters friend, my sister, and her boyfriend (again.. sigh) went to this party thing. I wasn't there because I was going to six flags with them on Saturday. so, once, my sisters friend sees my sister, and her boyfriend kissing in the hallway. not paying ANY attention to my sisters friend. notta. none. zip.

can't you see how obbsessed they are with each other? I do not mind, but this is where I draw the LINE.

you see what I mean? if my sister has a problem with this, I have a problem with her. this is the first time that I have ever had a problem with my sister. now her boyfriend?

okay, so, what should I do? I tried talking. but that doesn't work. I don't want them to break up, or whatsoever. help? please.

[shortiiex]

you can try to talk to her boyfriend instead of you sister
or
you can have a very emotional talk with your sister untill she listens





my idea : kill him

[o0olaalaa]

hmms well you should just tell both of them to sit on the couch and you tell them how you feel and how her friends feel and maybe they wont be so clingy

[topsyturvy]

I think your sis and her boy are just infatuated with each other. And there's nothing wrong with that. It's love

But what you can do is, like o0olaalaa said, talk to them. Both of them. Only talking to one of them might not necessarily work. Tell them (together) that you want to feel less excluded when y'all go out. Say it goes for her friend(s) too. Hope it goes well

[mouse_3k]

let her have her fun. They probably gon break up NE wayz unless they gon get married.

[technicolour]

Ignore them.
Forget about them.
Talk to them.
Make 'em get a room.
Make them break up.

If I think of any more..i'll edit.

[Chii]

quite frankly what did you expect?

your older sister is with her boyfriend, do you really think that she'd want to hang out with her little sister when he's with her?

step into reality honey, she invited you and her friend so there would be no third wheel. you and her friend were there soley to keep each other company yet be in her presence which to her kills two birds with one stone.

she's in love, they love each other. what do you want them to do? take a break every five minutes to talk to you and whatnot?

she's your sister, she's always going to be your sister. just because she's in this stage in her relationship doesn't mean she's lost or that she shouldn't be with her boyfriend. stop trying to compete for her attention. she'll come around someday.

[Saeglopur]

Thinking about it ... this reminds me of a conversation I had with my friend last night. Her boyfriend was being selfish and all. I'm not sure or anything but could it be that her boyfriend is being selfish? (Not always ... just that day, I don't know) Just a suggestion.

[_sarcastic_]

quite frankly what did you expect?

your older sister is with her boyfriend, do you really think that she'd want to hang out with her little sister when he's with her?

step into reality honey, she invited you and her friend so there would be no third wheel. you and her friend were there soley to keep each other company yet be in her presence which to her kills two birds with one stone.

she's in love, they love each other. what do you want them to do? take a break every five minutes to talk to you and whatnot?

she's your sister, she's always going to be your sister. just because she's in this stage in her relationship doesn't mean she's lost or that she shouldn't be with her boyfriend. stop trying to compete for her attention. she'll come around someday.

i agree, she'll always be there with you, she's your sister. so let her have her fun, it's not like they're doing anything obsene right? leave it alone.

[xldubaliciousx]

I think she'sjust going through a phase right now with her boyfriend.. You know how a beginning of a relationship is when you just like eachother so much and everything is new..

So eventually she'll come back around. And if not then you can just try talking to her AGAIN. Make sure she understands where you're coming from.

[squashie]

i would say try to spend as much time with your sister as you can when shes not around her bf. i dont know what else sorry.

[yukichan]

quite frankly what did you expect?

your older sister is with her boyfriend, do you really think that she'd want to hang out with her little sister when he's with her?

step into reality honey, she invited you and her friend so there would be no third wheel. you and her friend were there soley to keep each other company yet be in her presence which to her kills two birds with one stone.

she's in love, they love each other. what do you want them to do? take a break every five minutes to talk to you and whatnot?

she's your sister, she's always going to be your sister. just because she's in this stage in her relationship doesn't mean she's lost or that she shouldn't be with her boyfriend. stop trying to compete for her attention. she'll come around someday.

I completely agree..My friend is like that too..So I understand..Maybe you should get to better know your sister's friend while she talks to her boyfriend?

[*takingbacksandy*]

you know all sisters, friends tend to do that at first. they become obsessive over their boyfriends/relationships. they spend all their times with their boyfriends, only thing they would talk about is with their bfs, and if the boyfriend isn't there.. he's here in spirit on the PHONE with her.


thats how all my friends are, even when i say something to them. thing is when they spend too much time together, they might eventually get sick of each other. when they break up, she'll be with you again. i don't reccomend you breaking this bond between them though, because she's happy right?

i suggest you ask her to chill with you, only her. not her boyfriend. its not her boyfriend you really want to hang with, just her. but certain occasions its okay to bring her boyfriend or w/e.

[ParanoidAndroid]

first of all, I am not jealous. just wanted to say this. and also, I don't know where this goes. so if a Mod can move it to the right spot, you may.

have you ever felt happy, or sad, or angry? I am right now at the same time. all of them. I went to six flags today with my sister, her boyfriend, and myself. I thought that it wouldn't be a problem with my sister's boyfriend there.
I WAS WRONG! 

here we go. (LONG story)

you see, the whole time my sister and her boyfriend were holding hands, leaning on each other, and all this other stuff. wouldn't that make you a little angry? I haven't spent time with my sister in such a long time. and most of the time, she was holding hands, or whatever with her boyfriend. her friend seems a little upset just like me. because she can barely talk to my sis anymore because of those two doing something.

I tried talking to my sister to lay off. because this is a time to spend time with me (mostly) and friends. you can still be together with your boyfriend? but, it hurts the feelings of my sisters friend, and me (I am the little sister in this point of view. not that little though, lol) I thought to myself, "do that holding hands, and blah on a freaking date. not here. you are making us feel lonely. you are always with your boyfriend doing something).

she spends time with us, still, and we did have a great time. but, this really bugs me. and most of her friends. well, her friend that was there anyways.

my sis is not a bad person. she comfort my fear on one of the biggest, and fastest rollercoasters in Texas (Mr.Freeze). thank you, my sis. but, her friend, and I are sick of them not paying that much attention as she is surpose to, with us! so, I talked to her. but she did it again. why didn't you just talk to your boyfriend, and say to stop? thats my question. no, I am not jealous. don't think about saying this. I don't live with my sister, and it's hard being apart. I haven't seen her in a long time, and I have to deal with this crap!?

at this church thing, my sisters friend, my sister, and her boyfriend (again.. sigh) went to this party thing. I wasn't there because I was going to six flags with them on Saturday. so, once, my sisters friend sees my sister, and her boyfriend kissing in the hallway. not paying ANY attention to my sisters friend. notta. none. zip.

can't you see how obbsessed they are with each other? I do not mind, but this is where I draw the LINE. 

you see what I mean? if my sister has a problem with this, I have a problem with her. this is the first time that I have ever had a problem with my sister. now her boyfriend?

okay, so, what should I do? I tried talking. but that doesn't work. I don't want them to break up, or whatsoever. help? please.

I agree with you. I don't like my brother's gf. I am not jealous that he has a relationship or anything it's just that I am grossed out from the making out thing. But I really don't think whatever you do can change anything because I tried talking to one of them and it just ended up the same. But I ended up liking her anyways because she's very nice once I got to know her and she practically showered me with presetns ^_^. All I can say is be a little optimistic about your sister's bf. I mean how would you feel if you get a bf and suddenly someone complains that your relationship bothers them? Try to let loose and stuff.

[mai_z]

first of all, I am not jealous. just wanted to say this. and also, I don't know where this goes. so if a Mod can move it to the right spot, you may.

Yes you are. You can deny it, but you are jealous of the attention that her boyfriend is getting and you're not. She is your sister no matter what, and she will still be there for you. However, your sister and her boyfriend are infatuated with each other, and stuff like this is going to happen. If you want something to change, then go ahead and speak to your sister about it, but put yourself in her situation. It would just make her uncomfortable, and potentially unhappy about the situation, and about upsetting you.

Personally, I would just let it go, and if you want alone time with your sister, then make it *alone* time (alone...as in JUST you two)

[SSJ Kenshin]

quite frankly what did you expect?

your older sister is with her boyfriend, do you really think that she'd want to hang out with her little sister when he's with her?

step into reality honey, she invited you and her friend so there would be no third wheel. you and her friend were there soley to keep each other company yet be in her presence which to her kills two birds with one stone.

she's in love, they love each other. what do you want them to do? take a break every five minutes to talk to you and whatnot?

she's your sister, she's always going to be your sister. just because she's in this stage in her relationship doesn't mean she's lost or that she shouldn't be with her boyfriend. stop trying to compete for her attention. she'll come around someday.

Couldn't have said it better myself

[ClaudelGFX]

my sis is not a bad person. she comfort my fear on one of the biggest, and fastest rollercoasters in Texas (Mr.Freeze). thank you, my sis. but, her friend, and I are sick of them not paying that much attention as she is surpose to, with us! so, I talked to her. but she did it again. why didn't you just talk to your boyfriend, and say to stop? thats my question. no, I am not jealous. don't think about saying this. I don't live with my sister, and it's hard being apart. I haven't seen her in a long time, and I have to deal with this crap!?

at this church thing, my sisters friend, my sister, and her boyfriend (again.. sigh) went to this party thing. I wasn't there because I was going to six flags with them on Saturday. so, once, my sisters friend sees my sister, and her boyfriend kissing in the hallway. not paying ANY attention to my sisters friend. notta. none. zip.

can't you see how obbsessed they are with each other? I do not mind, but this is where I draw the LINE.

okay, so, what should I do? I tried talking. but that doesn't work. I don't want them to break up, or whatsoever. help? please.

I think you should take,what you can get,pushing your sister's hand,with this things wont do anything then,make the relationship between you and har more colder and distant? why ? because she is more older then you (i guess),and now she wants to have something that she didnt have untill now,something new,different,and NOT EVEN 1 RELATIONSHIP IS THE SAME,she can have 239492394 BF's that doesnt mean it will be the same,what you could do,its to stick to her,ONLY when she is alone,BECAUSE EVERYTIME SHE WILL BE WITH HER BF,YOU WILL BE LEFT OUT.so for her at this point, her relationship/BF is more important then you,you can't understand why now,because you're too young,you'll understand this things when you will growup and you will see that its not so easy to keep relationship this days to work,you have to do somet sacrifices,you have to loose something to gain something else....its like a trade,but not always it will be fair enuff for all,so anyway,anyhow you can't do anything,even you will try to brake that relationship,its only up to them,you can't do anything,
you should thank her,for the LITTLE but PRECIOUS time you have her beside's you,if you do argue with her,because she spends more time with her BF then with you,you wont do anything then making all things worse between you and your sister.

PS:try to explain her,that you miss her more then ever,etc...with this kind of words all will work better
PS2:BE SURE when she feels that something is not good and or she has problems,she will come and TALK TO YOU,not with her BF.(depends the type of the problem and or what kind of relationship they have)

Be Happy you're still young,time goes by so fast and it will be your turn soon to be just like your sister,and you'll remember that you was asking for an advice about this kind of problems on CB ;-)

all IMO.

[blucheri]

aaww. Shes showing off a bit to much. doesn't mean it. but shes probably doesn't know when to cuddle and when to just act normal.

aahhh i dunno.

try doing stuff without her Bf around. hehehe

yeah... so when you guyz r out she has no one to cuddle and she'll have no choice but to listen.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

quite frankly what did you expect?

your older sister is with her boyfriend, do you really think that she'd want to hang out with her little sister when he's with her?

step into reality honey, she invited you and her friend so there would be no third wheel. you and her friend were there soley to keep each other company yet be in her presence which to her kills two birds with one stone.

she's in love, they love each other. what do you want them to do? take a break every five minutes to talk to you and whatnot?

she's your sister, she's always going to be your sister. just because she's in this stage in her relationship doesn't mean she's lost or that she shouldn't be with her boyfriend. stop trying to compete for her attention. she'll come around someday.

i agree.
dont worry about it. she'll always be there for you.

but if it bugs you soooooooo much. talk to her boyfriend if you want. i suggest you dont though.