Easy but Hard Question: How Do You Make Friends?, Yup, this is the most juvenile question Options

[xx_Fashionista_x...]

Okay, thank the good creator that I've been blessed with best friends and friends all my life until now I am starting a new school without anybody from my school last year. I had many friends before because I've known the majority them since elementary school, and all it takes is a new barbie for someone to be your friend. I'm not really a "social" person without my friends. I'm not all that shy but I have a fear of people but then I have a fear of being alone. I just find it hard to approach someone and say "my name is Keely, can I eat lunch with you", I like being approached to people rather than talking to strangers. If you don't get what I'm saying, basically, this year I'm starting a brand new school with new people and I don't know nobody at all there, and I have no people skills ... any tips on making friends?

- I know it sounds really stupid but I had bad experiences trying to make friends at sleep away camp a few years ago, lol.

- I know I should let things happen naturally but I have a fear of not fitting in, and I'm a worry-wort to the extreme. I had a dream that I went to my new school and nobody noticed me at all and I couldn't sleep the rest of the night (or the next night)

- yes, lol, I know, I'm weird.

[*suddenly she*]

the thing about fitting in is that if you fit in, you fit in, and if you don't fit in, the people that you should be friends with won't care.

eh, i get the feeling i didn't help much - or at all.

[HoodieObsessed]

I'm going through the same thing. Except I'm joining school at grade 10 (here in bc are highschool is from grade 8 to grade 12) so everyone else will have their friends and I will have none.

for the first couple days I MIGHT hang out with my brother and his friends, but I don't want to be a pest and annoy him so I know I'll ahve to try to make some friends. I just hope I find some. I know what your'e going through, I'm a worry wort too, I jsut try not to think about it too much.

[xx_Fashionista_x...]

suddenly she, lol, you helped.

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for the first couple days I MIGHT hang out with my brother and his friends, but I don't want to be a pest and annoy him so I know I'll ahve to try to make some friends. I just hope I find some. I know what your'e going through, I'm a worry wort too, I jsut try not to think about it too much.

Lol, my brother has already told me that he doesn't want me to eat lunch with him for longer than 2 days. But I could understand my brother not wanting me to pester him because I would feel bad and embarrassed that he knew was a loser if if my brother was annoyed that I have nobody to hang out with. Well, it's nice to know that I'm not alone going through this, gosh I hate new schools. Like finding something to wear on the first day wasn't hard enough, now I need people to eat lunch with.

The first two days will probably be rough, you might not talk to anybody. I guess, just try to be yourself. I know, I am horrible at this.

Just let things flow, I am sure there will be somebody there that will be glad to meet and know you. Just try your best to say, "Hi" to someone. Pay attention on the first day.

I don't know..I'm horrible at this to. On my first day of 6th grade, I just didn't talk to anyone, I was just by myself, and I would blend in with other students. In about like, 5 days, I started to talk to more people, and now I have the coolest friends ever.

Hope things go out great for you!!  Good luck!!

Great advice. I suck at being myself, I just don't know who I am really when I'm in school. A part of me wants the students at my new school to be like me so I can blend in without the humiliation of not having friends, but then again I want to be different, because when I was in junior high, when a new girl came dressed totally different than everyone else, everyone wanted to talk to her because she stood out. I just don't want a neon sign over my head that says "Mrs Lonely right here, I have no friends here what-so-ever". Thanks, I hope this making friends thing works out, I have a few days left to worry myself to death until school starts,lol, but I'll survive (if my fear doesn't eat me alive)

[Skyline Drive]

Chances are you won't be the only new kid. I actually think it's easier to make friends when you are new because most people will notice you that way. If I were you I would try to make conversation with everyone I come in contact with. People will want to approach you if they see that you are friendly and open to talk.

[*takingbacksandy*]

i'm kind of goofy. i wouldn't say i'm out-going. i won't approach anybody with "hi my name is sandy".. and besides i find that kind of lame anyway.

use whatever skill you possess. in my case, i use humor. i usually crack a few jokes (not to the whole class but like to certain classmates).

and it might be easier to just blend in, but its funner to meet people that are out there. i find them to be interesting. just try to find people with similiar interests ;p

[shannoniwamoto]

I'm going through the same thing. Except I'm joining school at grade 10 (here in bc are highschool is from grade 8 to grade 12) so everyone else will have their friends and I will have none.

for the first couple days I MIGHT hang out with my brother and his friends, but I don't want to be a pest and annoy him so I know I'll ahve to try to make some friends. I just hope I find some. I know what your'e going through, I'm a worry wort too, I jsut try not to think about it too much. 

Ahh, at least you have a brother! I am going through the same thing ( and I will be an incoming 10th grader too! ) sigh*

[Xprezsion]

Don't sweat it, when I went to middle school I didn't know anyone because I went to school in manhattan for the first time and all my elementary school friends choose Brooklyn schools (for those who know New York would understand this). Just basically be very friendly, I was shy too, and gradually you will meet people who are just like you, looking for friends. But yea then going to high school, I realized that everyone in my "group" is practically from all different schools anyway, so all the friends that came with me to high school from middle school are not that close with me anymore cause they found other friends and what not. Ok now I'm just rambling, goodluck

[silver-rain]

Well, I know how you feel. When I started high school, all my friends from middle school went to different school, so I only knew a few people from middle school that went to my high school. So I just got to know them better. And in some classes where I didn't know anyone, I just started talking to some people about the class, and soon it expanded into a friendship outside the classroom.

[maia_dc]

I don't mind hanging out by myself, so I guess I just go with the flow. I don't try extra hard to make friends, it just happens. Be yourself, and that will attract people to you.

[shortiiex]

i am just like you..i like it when peopel come to me
you can draw attention to yourself..so peoepl would notice you and become friends

[angelrevelation]

i try to keep a positive and open mind, be friendly but not overly... i dunno. sometimes people become friends naturally, or by chance