should I ask him out?, I don't want to ruin our frienship Options

[elaboratedream]

I have this friend and we talk all the time, but he's sending me mixed signals... I don't know if I should ask him out or not because I really don't want to mess up our friendship because he's my best friend right now. I know he's a shy guy and he has a rep for never asking the girls he likes out and I want to go out with him... but I still don't know if he likes me.

[jennyjenny]

That, is a tough one. Really.

You should ask around if he likes you. And if people say that he does, then ask him out. But if it doesn't work out, you should still try to stay best friends even though I hate to say this but it could ruin your friendship. But if you like him that much then ask him out.

[lKVNiiKINKYl]

You should ask because if says yes then good =) if he says no then tell be oh cool at least we can be honest about it =)

[visualfusion]

And if people say that he does, then ask him out.

Don't listen to what people say... just listen to yourself. Just ask, and if he says he wants to be friends... just be friends.

































ps, do not listen to my advise about the "be friends" part because that rarely works.

[iTS PATiLLA xP]

How long have you guys been so close? If it's been a long time, and he hasn't been mentioning other girls, you might as well just try. If it doesn't work out, then just tell him that you wanna keep it the same way as before. I had a close guy friend who was shy and didn't ask girls out AT ALL.. when I told him I liked him and he said he liked me too, we never went out and things were just normal.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

First of all do you like him? 'cause you didn't seem to mention it in your post. I don't recommend asking your best friend out because well if it doesn't go well good bye same old friendship. Sure you can be friends again but I doubt It'll be the same. But hey life's all about taking chances.

[pinayprincess]

if its mixed signals... TALK TO HIM... to go RIGHT into it... a boy i like did that to me.. it turned out that he kept calling me and calling me [on the phone] we talked it out, so in the end, we're now together =)

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

i say ask him. its better to know what could have happened instead of wondering what would have happened

[technicolour]

Ask if he likes you.

yes?- THEN GO OUT WITH HIM

No?- THEN BLOODY KISS HIM...and then see.

Communication, come on now. Say it with me.

[elaboratedream]

Ask if he likes you.

yes?- THEN GO OUT WITH HIM

No?- THEN BLOODY KISS HIM...and then see.

lmao, I'll try it... don't know if that would work... lol, and the kissing thing would mostly end all chances of normal conversation (void of akward silences) and I like talking to him... lol

[shanny]

Ask if he likes you.

yes?- THEN GO OUT WITH HIM

No?- THEN BLOODY KISS HIM...and then see.

hahaha. sounds like a plan

but you should definately tell him that you like him.
but don't tell him all your deepest feelings...that would totally freak him out.
just casual like. that way if he doesn't like you back, it wont be hard to stay friends.

[Oranite]

hmm this is a toughy. I lost a very good friend once because of it... so you better be very careful on this... especially if hes a really good friend

[*tweeak*]

what you shouldn't do is ask someone else to ask if he likes you. too 4th grade.

[Paradox of Life]

Don't. Obviously you're not ready.

[shortiiex]

First Keep flirting...and see if he flirts back
Shy guys don't really flirt but if he does, then ask him

[DrSMooTH]

i asked ou a friend once. She said no, but our relationship wasn't strained in any way. Just ask him and say "whatever your answer is, i hope we can still be friends", or something to that effect.

[jue]

you could start a chat with him and like somehow lead it into relationships and see how he feels about girls and if he has any girls in his mind or something. That way you can find out somrthing about how he feels towards anybody or just how he fels about have a girl.

[*mipadi*]

I'd say, if you want to ask him out, go ahead and do it. First of all, relationships only work if the feelings of both parties are mutual; by that I mean, if you like him but say nothing because he might not like you, the relationship will probably still be stressed because you'll want something more, something that you don't have. So either way, if the feelings are not mutual, the friendship will become strained. Because of that, you might as well ask him out--what've you got to lose? And who knows, he might even say yes.

[xObAbYeGuRLxO]

If he's a best friend.. umm i personally think you shouldnt ask him out.. .. i've been in this situation before.. and like.. ever since then my friendship with the guy is totally *#&^ed up..

[elaboratedream]

this sounds like the same things my friends were saying...
half of them said "ask him out, it's so obvious he likes you" and the other half said "don't ask him out... he probly just wants to be friends..."
oh yeah, and one of them thought I was crazy... lol

[dahding]

ask him out. don't live on "what if's" or "should i's". that gets u nowhere. gopher it.

[*anubis*]

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if he doesn't like you, it puts him in a really shitty situation.

[elaboratedream]

if he doesn't like you, it puts him in a really shitty situation.

don't feel like quoting all the no's ^^ 'cause that would take up too much space... but, yeah, I thought of that... and I don't want him to go out with me 'cause he feels sorry for me or 'cause he doesn't want to "hurt my feelings" or whatever. that's another part of the problem... he's one of those really nice shy guys and I have a feeling that if he didn't like me, he wouldn't want to say that... which makes it more complicated...

----------------edit 3:17 A.M. August 5th--------------------------
I just told him I liked him...


(03:10:09) me: how many questions am I allowed?
(03:10:10) me: lol
(03:10:38) him: lets start w/ one and c how much self control i have after that
(03:10:43) me: lmao
(03:10:45) me: ummm
(03:10:58) me: whats your deepest darkest secret?
(03:11:04) him: thought so
(03:11:06) me: lol
(03:11:31) him: ok
(03:12:30) me: long answer?
(03:12:31) me: lol
(03:12:54) him: there have been many nights where i have been laying in bed, staring at the ceiling, trying to determine if i like u or **name removed, but it's my best friend** more
(03:13:01) me: hmm
(03:13:10) me: ever come to a conclusion?
(03:13:24) him: not yet
(03:13:36) me: on a similar note
(03:13:58) me: sometimes when I lie in bed I think about whether or not you like me
(03:14:10) me: 'cause I like you

and then there was a little bit more... but that's the main part. neither of us asked the other out though...
I had a feeling he liked my friend too, but I know she doesn't like him... but I didn't want to say that... that would sound sorta bitchy in my opinion...
so anywho... I'll probly ask him out sometime soon

[elaboratedream]

I asked him out. he said yes. problem solved.

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oops... didn't realize I was double posting

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

I'm glad it worked out alright
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