Troubles, Boys Options

[LilMissLonely]

Grr I been having Trouble Lately with My Boyfriend. It driving me crazy. I don't know where to start.. but one thing I know for sure is that I really love my Boyfriend so much and I don't really know what I would do without him!

1) See he wants to move on more with our realtionship and has been asking me what gonna happen between me and him.. See a few of my friends have talked to him. and they said that he is planning on going all the way with me.. Meaning Sex.. and Honestly Im not ready to be having Sex. Or he said that he would like to makeout with me or french kiss. But see the thing is that he older then me and more advanced .. and I don't really feell right doing all these things with with.. because I feel that once we start something.. he not gonna wanna stop..

2) A few weeks ago I had heard from a really close friend of his that he was seeing other gurl.. and she and him had made out. and did other things.. I already have questioned him and he promised me that nothing has or will happen with this other girl. but shocking every time her name comes up he always wants to know where she at and when he can see her again.. Grr! I guess you could say Im jealous of her.. that he pays more attetion to this gurl then me.. I feel that he is really cheating on me..

3) Around the time of our __ month he had promised me that he was gonna come and hang out with me and a few friends.. since I was also leaving on vaction a few days after.. and I had talk to him a few hours or so before I had lefted to the mall where me and friends and him were gonna meet up.. I waited hours.. and walked around the mall looking for him and he never came.. the next day he had signed online.. and I wanted to i-m him so badly but I deciced to wait and see if he would.. A friend of mine had I-m him and they had talked.. about random things.. Then he signed offline without even giving me a reason of why he never showed up or what had happened?..


Help me out Please! I don't really know what gonna happen between me and him

[Latina Babii]

If he wondered were another girl is this is not a very good relationship. But, that was mean of him, you shouuld break up with him, because he promise you things, but he doesn't seem to care. You'll get used to being without him I'm sure.

[LilMissLonely]

I have like already tryed being without him... hes like a need to me

[topsyturvy]

^ Aww.. i know how you feel After being with a guy for a certain amount of time, us girls start to feel attached..

But this guy isn't treating you right. How can you stay attached to someone who doesn't deserve you?

[LilMissLonely]

At Least 30 people have Viewed this and its sad!.. that no one really knows what I should do..

[lilnatcat]

I get what u mean........the 2nd situation happened to me, got me so pissed off......I was really jealous!!!

I know from what u've said that u really love the guy, but......u should at least get used to him not being around you. Not avoiding the guy but just dun try to think about him too much! >_<

Its either u get used to him not being around and then be prepared "IF" he leaves u..........OR else u talk to him the next time u see each other/rock up to his house and ask!!!

Serioulsy, online isn't the way to go! I'd talk to him face to face about it! Talking face-to-face with him would mean he can't leave as easy as on the internet!

As for the 1st situation, u should just tell him ur not ready for sex......that u feel uncomfortable<=If he respects u, he won't force u anymore.

[EriaNight]

1) it's YOUR choice to have sex- not his- so don't let what he wants influence you. Because sex is a personal and mutual thing at the same time and if you don't want it- don't do it

2) I can't believe he didn't tell you why he didn't show up!!! That's awful!! That's not responsible!! I understand though because the same thing has happened to me, but I called and was like--whY weren't you there? and that usually corners them and if he doesn't give you a straight forward answer, then keep asking because i think this one deserves a straightforward answer.

does that help?? *hug*

[shortiiex]

i think you too should take a break...or just straight calll himn and demand his reasons

[xXMomoBubbleTeaX...]

I know I feel the same way!!..Sometimes it's like you wanna move on but as soon as you think about him or see him all those feelings come rushing backk!!..It's hard sometimes & sometimes I jusst wanna get out!!...but at moments I like the feeling of love..it feels like the best feeling you can feel...but then at times it's the most painful feeling when someone breaks your heart!!!...

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

1-- he wants sex, or making out? so you mean you guys havent even made out yet? and he already wants to advance onto sex? tell him straight up he needs to slow down his horn dogs. your younger you say and hes more advanced. if he doesnt understand youre not comfortable with what hes tryna get from you then.. i thank all he wants is what you got in the pants not the heart.

2- you never know if hes with the other girl. but just dont assume he is. its aoky to be jealous. if he says he isnt you should trust him. but if he is then hes a lying bastard and you should kick him in his nuts [:

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

oops sorry double post xD

[pinayprincess]

1. comfront him, tell him you dont feel comterable with sex.. he will understand

2. hunt him down.. get every dirt you hear, see, gossip about him and this other girl... you should assume the lies but, try to get deep into it to know whats up; when you finally do, comfront him into slapping that bitches face lol.. na but tell him to chill out and be honest

3. he promises... blah blah blah.. boys always say things they dont mean, as of "they always beating around the bush"

i suggest you move on.. my ex bf treated me the same way.. i didnt like it at all, until i broke uo with him, he started to want me back so badly, i gave him a shot for 1 day, then i cheated on him [oops] well anyways, [as my friends told me] you deserve better than a guy who wants what he wants.. you dont want a selfish bf

[nerdxcore]

break up with him. why? well you already gave the reasons yourself. sometimes it is hard to see things when you really like this guy, because you want to think that only the good things are in him. but if this was happening to your friend, you would tell her to break up with him too. dont worry though. you will find a better boy for you. that treats you right. you at least deserve that. i hope everything works out.

[Shahin]

Dump him, you'll get over it. How old are you and how old is he by the way?

[CloudNine]

You should get out of the relationship, as hard as that my sound. If you are not ready to move on in the relationship then don't, it's as simple as that and he shouldn't pressure you into it. I also had an older boyfriend when I was younger and he pressured me into many things. I completely regret everything I ever did with him so take my advice and everyone elses to break up with him. He's obviously not mature enough or ready to settle down yet.

It's hard to see from the outside of the box looking in because your inside the box looking out. Please heed the advice given to you =) Honey you probably deserve better anyway so don't waist your time with a not-so-good guy when you can have a guy with a heart of gold.

You'll be okay and hopefully your best friends will help you pull through it if you do break up with him. Best of luck

[maia_dc]

...From what you said, it sounds like he wants to get some, but can't get it from you, so he going after other girls.

I know you love him and all, but girl he is NOT treating you right. Tell him straight up that if this is the way things are gonna be you two are over.

[LilMissLonely]

[vampireduster]

im sorry about that. like with your first problem i felt that exact same way. i didnt really know what to do. i talked to people about it first and they told me just to get comfortable around him which i did. i think you deserve someone better though who respects your wishes on waiting and who will be only involved with you and not really worried about some other girl. he shouldnt be worrying about her only about you. you should break up with him if hes doing that crap.

[teeners4]

yea....err sounds like you should get out of this. you're 13 right? and how much older is he? yea if you're not ready to go all the way or anything. dont do it. even if hes gonna break up with you. he should respect it. especially when you're 13... and yea....if you hear about another girl....yea... i dont know either take a break and sees what happens or just break it off now

[mai_z]

I would say get out of this, you seem way too young, and you have a whole life ahead of you. As a general rule, I would say go with your gut feeling. Girls have an uncanny 6th sense. It seems like this guy is kind of untrustworthy, and considering what it comes off like in your description, he doesn't care enough about you for it to be worth it. Get out, there are plenty of guys out there, and i'll bet most of them are better than him

[technicolour]

COMMUNICATION!

Talk with him. especially about the sex thing.

[..:loveee.NuTTii]

Well, it seems that your not talking as much as you should. I think you should have a serious talk with him, face to face. Don't be shy and quiet-express how fully you're concerned with these issues. If he doesn't listen, BREAK UP. You'll get over him.

[osidepinay33]

okai deng boys.. haha just remember this MOST boys are dumb. lol First of all he should not pressure you to doing something you do not want to do. Who cares if he's older and if he's suppose to be wiser.. then "why is he presuring you to have sex with him?" i dun't see any wiseness in there.

for the second part. if he's checkin out another girl to satify his "needy to french kiss and etc." then that's freakin hopeless for him. If he's not manly enough to wait then he's not worth the sex or the kiss

and for the third part. Don't ask him online about stuff cuz you never knoe if that actually hinm you are talknig to. It could be lyk his brother.. cuzin.. friends friend. lol something.. always ask him in person!

aww but girl i hope you do feel better okai? and don't ever say that he's the one you need. Cuz he's not. He's just stupid. and Girl i knoe you can make it out of this trial.. don't worrie.. ppl are here for you and i'm always here if you need a talk .. ::Hugs::

[sunniedayz]

first of all... how old are u... and how old is he??

a lot of people are telling u to break up with him...

maybe u should do what most people are telling u to do.. TALK to him.. dont IM or call... talk in real life.... if it turns out for the worst and it just didnt work... tell him u need a break or something...

i dunno... hope everything works out.

[sheddingtears]

if i were you,
id dump him right away...


you already feel like hes totally cheated on you,
and he wasnt there and didnt give you a call,
and he really wants to get physical without respecting your boundaries...

but if you love him that much,
ask for his reasons and talk it out.