this guy..., advice please |
 Jul 14 2005, 12:39 PM
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so theres this guy i like named jake. we met during some volunteering thing. we go to different schools. but we are both in the same volunteering club that meets twice a month. so jake and i met, and we really clicked. i liked him sooo much, and i always asked to hang out with him like, going to the mall together and stuff. one day, we were talking, and i found out he really liked me too. so this was GREAT! we both liked each other alot. but then he told me he wasn't ready for a g/f because of his past relationship. he said because of his past girlfriend, he couldn't seem to like any other girl for more than one week. then he told me i was lucky because he still liked me after a week. and he said he was scared if we got together cuz he says i am really special to him. but he just wasn't ready. so, i decided to leave him alone and wait. but its been over 2 months. do u think i should ask him out? or stay friends?
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Jul 14 2005, 02:13 PM
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wtf?? what is this? a day planner for him?... pshh thats crazy talk, but okay, ummm since "he hasnt been over his past relationship" give him some time, i mean you both know you like each other, just give each other sometimes, untill he is ready to get with you
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Jul 14 2005, 02:20 PM
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 unify and defeat... divide and crumble Group: Member Posts: 2,759 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,379 |
Definately give him time, eventually both of you will know when you guys are ready to be in that relationship. By the way, kudos for being in a volunteering groups
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Jul 14 2005, 05:22 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
this should be in relationships probably
give it time... but don't wait too long. he may have moved on and you may get stuck on him, or you may move on and he might think you're still waiting for him. 
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Jul 14 2005, 06:09 PM
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 *dazzle Group: Member Posts: 357 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,071 |
wow. well i say give him time. past relationships can be really tough if it was a long relationship. dont rush things with him. now if you're impatient, then look somewhere else :| but he does have a point. if you guys go out and breakup that "special" thing he sees in you will hurt him cause of everything that went on & at times, your old friendship will never be the same. not to be thinking negative but sometimes you have to think negative.
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Jul 14 2005, 06:13 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 726 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 95,137 |
Let him make the first move. That way, you'll know he's ready to be your girlfriend. Just wait. :)
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Jul 14 2005, 07:31 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
he is just an ass, look at the way he talks to you
QUOTE(quirky @ Jul 14 2005, 1:39 PM) he told me i was lucky because he still liked me after a week.  ^^god, he makes himself seem like he's "the sh*t" when he's probably not. QUOTE(quirky @ Jul 14 2005, 1:39 PM) and he said he was scared if we got together cuz he says i am really special to him. but he just wasn't ready. so, i decided to leave him alone and wait. but its been over 2 months. do u think i should ask him out? or stay friends? don't fall for this bullsh*t. if you were sooo special why doesn't he just get with you now? and if he doesn't want to get involved in a relationship then why did he bother getting close to you? it's been two months, he's probably baiting someone else by now. |
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Jul 14 2005, 07:52 PM
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 ^-^ Group: Member Posts: 1,676 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 107,668 |
hmm, sounds a little weird to me. Can't like a girl mroe than one week?
 but ummm, I think you should give him time if that's what he wants I guess. I donno, I give crappy advice 
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Jul 14 2005, 07:54 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,732 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 119,327 |
He doesn't seem mature enough to be in a relationship... with the whole "liking girls for only a week" thing.
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Jul 14 2005, 07:54 PM
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 memories live FOREVER<3 Group: Member Posts: 1,150 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 132,793 |
dont leave him alone. keep bugging him lols. like be his friend hang out with him. he'll relize what he's missing out soon. give him time.
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Jul 14 2005, 08:01 PM
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 Residential Crazy Child Group: Member Posts: 934 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 116,897 |
QUOTE ^^god, he makes himself seem like he's "the sh*t" when he's probably not. That was the first thing that ran through my head. Two months is wayyy too long, if you're really that special to him. I say, move on. He'll see what he missed soon enough. |
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Jul 14 2005, 10:11 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,564 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,336 |
Give him some time. When the time's right, he'll ask you out.
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Jul 15 2005, 03:53 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 55 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 86,469 |
If I was in your position I would stay friends, keep in touch, and maybe once you become really good close friends he won't be as afraid since he knows you more. Then maybe he'll feel differently.
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Jul 15 2005, 12:33 PM
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 Bonjour Group: Member Posts: 278 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,449 |
Just keep in touch, become closer friends and really get to know him, that might make him feel a little more comfortable. Hes probably scared of getting hurt again or maybe hurting you.Don't wait too long though. I don't really like that he said this "he told me i was lucky because he still liked me after a week." thats just eck..
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Jul 24 2005, 06:27 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,831 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,324 |
talk to him still, & just be patient.
he needs some time, so give him it. and once he's ready, it could happen. |
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