a rather curious situation, I'd like outside input... Options

[FailedSense]

Okay, I'm in an interesting situation.

I've got a friend that I'm sort of dating, in that we go out together a lot, but we aren't really in a relationship. This has been going on for almost 6 months now, and I'm beginning to realize that I have some kind of feelings for her. She isn't sure how she feels about me, and another person she knows, via the internet, has claimed that he loves her (at least, this is what she has told me), but she doesn't know how she feels about him, either. She did know him when they were both 14 or so, but he moved away, and is in an abusive relationship at the moment. Thats kinda backstory, or something, anyway.

She and I spend a lot of time with her, and enjoy her company, and she enjoys mine, but what should I do about the whole feelings thing?

I guess I should also point out that feelings and I don't get along so well because of events in my past. >.>

At anyrate, if any of you understand that gibberish, I would like a bit of input. Blunt statements work well, too. ^.^;;

[mai_z]

Ok, right off the batt, the abusive relationship has to stop. The guy she talks to on the internet (we'll call him Internet Boy) has to get out of the abusive relationship no matter the situation. Now, pertaining to the fact that he says he loves her, well she has to figure out how she feels about that, and about you, and what she will do after she figures out how she feels. Since you say you have feelings for her, you should make it entirely clear to her, and hope she will feel the same about you.

(sorry that didn't make much sense)

[parallel]

^I agree with the Internet Boy part.

Anyway. Can you say L0VE TRiANGLE.
Just tell her that you like her before that other freaky dude claims her.

[FailedSense]

yes tell her.....communication is always the key. If only I didn't suck at it. >.>

btw, I love the Hawthorne Heights theme. Yay for bands from an hour south of where I live. ^.^

[PinkTrash]

loll me too. {hh}** [[completely irrelivant..]]

yeah, you should just tell her that you're starting to like her and whether she chooses you or that freaky guy.. its her choice & ohh well if she actually does go for that other guy

[_sarcastic_]

you should tell her how you feel about her, before it's too late. maybe she likes you to and is just shy to admit it.

[technicolour]

Get her! Make her yours before the creep from down the lane does.

[Shattered_Hope]

Well...I think that the only thing you can do is tell her and hope that she feels the same....

[*stephinika*]

^^
exactly. does she only know him over the internet though? because i don't think he could truly 'love' her then..besides, you guys are young. just tell her how you feel because its quite possible she feels the same. good luck!

[enyceXaddiction]

tell her and see what she says. if she says she doesnt know just give her time.

[Mizz Rizza]

well besides tryna talk to her about it
maybe give her some space a little
at least until she knows wat to do
i mean if you kinda jus talk about it rite away
it kinda gives her the feeling of being rushed

[FailedSense]

She new the guy irl, but he moved away like.....8 years ago or so, I think. *shrug*

Thanks for the advise, though. ^.^