im scared of my dad and uncle, ...its true!! Options

[takeapolaroid__x]

ok... this may sound lame, but here i go lol

well. im getting freaked out about my dad coz i feel like he gets too "intamite" with me. like, when he hugs me, i feel like hes feeling me up and when he says goodnight to me, i hide my body under the covers just so my head is out of the blankets, otherwise i get scared that hes perving on my body ...

and now about my uncle. i feel like hes perving on me all the time and i cant sit in the room alone with him without feeling REALLY uncomfortable. and i cant wear a tank top or skirt aroud him without feeling really wierd.

HelP!

[*mzkandi*]

You need to tell an adult you trust about this. If you feel your being violated dont allow it to happen and dont be afraid to tell someone.

[BiGdRaGoN31]

damn...how old are you and what do u look like? thas wrong, u should try to leave them alone, or stay away from them more

[*mzkandi*]

what do u look like?

Whats does that have to do with anything?

[topsyturvy]

^ I think he wanted to know if she's attractive

[left_alone]

My friend felt the same way and she was right about it.

My advice is to tell an adult. I'm not sure what they can do about the situation, but it is better not to have it bottled up inside of you.

Another thing you could do is - when your family wants to visit your Uncle; tell them you don't want to go. Hopefully your old enough to stay home.

Now, with your dad...hmm..that's a hard one since you live with him. A quick fix is to try and stay away from him as much as possible if he makes you feel violated. When it is bed time, you could tell him your a little to old to be tucked in.

I'm not sure, because that's a very weird situation. Good luck.

[heyyfrankie]

^ I think he wanted to know if she's attractive

well that is irrelavant right now.

now...you need to talk to an adult AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. i know that it will be a little bit akward since its about your dad and your uncle but if you have the slightest inclination that something is up...you need to let someone know!

[doom_diver]

hehehe my turn now to reply to you, hyper girl

Anyway, as everyone else said, talk to an adult or a friend (ME!!!!) about it and let someone know it. I guess you cant do alot about your dad but you can do sth about your uncle. Just try not to visit him or if you must, just wear non-revealing clothes and keep your distance.

About your dad, well I dont know. You can get him not to tuck you i guess but about the hugging, I hope he realise that your like too big to get a hug from daddy and stops doing that to you.

Anyway, I want to see you in a tank top and a skirt :) J/K

[technicolour]

You really do need to talk to someone. If it advances to, well, you know, you'll want to get out of it. Communication.

[CrazayChristian]

Are you his only daughter? It might be that he's confortable with you and doesn't think he's doing anything wrong.

Might be all in your head, but yes, tell an adult you trust. (Namely one that talks or interacts with your dad) Like your mom. But, make sure they don't end up saying something like "ARE YOU TRYING TO FEEL UP OUR DAUGHTER?"

Communication is important

[*reflection*]

talk to an adult or else it could get worse

[_sarcastic_]

tell an adult you trust, before it gets much much worst. or just tell your dad/uncle how you feel about what's going on.

[enyceXaddiction]

talk with someone. have they done anthing to you before though?

[takeapolaroid__x]

talking to adults i trust. my mum and i dont really get along that well and she always tells my dad what i say . and i cant tell my uncle how i feel, coz i think he'll be like: "ok... freak..." and ill think im being rude..... but with my dad, i told him he scares me on a number of occasions (lol) but he goes all quiet and ignores me but then again, that could be good, coz then he doesnt hug me ... thanks for all your advice

[Mizz Rizza]

talk to ur mom
or any adult that you trust

[A Dreamer in VA]

Hon you need to talk with someone.....if you are feeling uncomfortable then chances are something may be wrong here....if nothing is said and that is what is going on with these people then it will do nothing but progress.....please do not allow "Anyone" to violate you....I don't care who these people are to you ....relatives are known to do this even nature fathers (I speak from experience) but there are laws now that will protect you.

[xldubaliciousx]

I say trust your gut instinct. If it even feels like something is not quite right.. You need to tell someone

[xSiLLyMex]

Like everybody else said..Talk to an adult. =] My uncle was like that..He started feeling my leg and stuff. I told my cousin, and he punched my uncle. >.<

[silentxcries]

thats nasty.. you should stay away from them, and try telling an adult about your problem..

[JoJo_x]

You guys do know it's really hard to talk to some adults about this..

Talking to your mom about this, you're mom might respons something like, "oh..you're just thinking to much"...or, "how could you think like that?"

I would know..the same thing happened to me..

for my uncles, I try to avoid him as much, and my cousins make sure nothing happens to me..my dad, i really can't get rid of...>.<

It's spooky, just try to avoid them as much as possible, and wear less revealing stuff...when you're 18, you can live on your own..just think of that..

[mouse_3k]

just the way u describe it, I just think u just feel uncomfortable with ur uncle and ur just using the pervertion as a excuse or u think ur just too hot to be in a room with ur male family members....

For your dad, the way u described it when he just hugged you, it just sounds like ur dad is just hugging u...

R u just starting to develope? if so then I guess its normal to feel uncomfortable with guys around cause of ur changing body


IDK, to me, it just sounds like alot of mental stuff (or probably just to conceited)

[yupimchuck]

Im kinda like that around my dad too.
i thought it was just me.
I wont try on new things around him and i have to be covered up.

[chaoticchrissy]

wow. i say you tell an adult

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

tell your dad hes making you uncomfortable. tell an adult. hes you dad, maybe hes just hugging you and rubbing your back to give what he thinks is a loving dad rub. not a i-love-you-want-you-in-bed-now-rub. TELL AN ADULT

if you really believe your uncle, how does he "perv" you. if he flatters you about how you look maybe hes just being nice. but if you feel hes tyring to feel you up or whatever tell an adult RiGHT AWAY.