Cousin and her BF Options

[xSiLLyMex]

My cousin and her BF just broke up. They been going out since January and you can tell she really loves him. Her AIM profile always say "You and Me forever" or "Your the only one in my life". I can tell she's really serious about him since she's not the type of person who throws the word "Love" around.

My other cousin just told me that they just broke up. He said I should call her and check up on her to see how she's doing. I would..but I don't really know what to say. I mean, I don't really ever call her. We talk online and stuff. It's gona be wierd to just call her up and say "Hey so how you doing? How's ur bf" and stuff. It's gona be awkward and wierd since I don't really know wat to say. I'm really bad at this comforting stuff and I'll prolly just say "He's stupid. I'm sry. Just forget about him" Which I know won't help her.

So..Any suggestions on what to say? Or should I even call her? I don't think she told anyone cept my other cousin that they broke up. I don't want to be the nosy one, if she didn't want anyone to know...

[technicolour]

Well if you aren't supposed to know then definately dont let her know. Just take her out to movies, comfort her and then she might tell you and then you can whatever..like comfort/opinion wise.

[crazi_in_love_08]

ok well i think u should call her n be like hey u wanna hang out n stuff ( if u live close) n be like a bunch of friends were goin to a move n i thought u n ur bf would wanna go .. than she will tell u that they broke up n u can be like .. well hes is missing out on good things n she could do way better n tell her if he did that to her he wasnt the rite one for her .. yea .. well thats what i was told when me n my b/f broke up a while ago ..

[demolished]

1. hang out first.
2. have fun.
3. if you see her sad.
4. say " whats wrong "
5. she'll tell you about it.

if you're lucky. dont surprise her that you know about it. have some fun first.

[PinkTrash]

if things were that serious, maybe you should ask if she wants you to help her, or just have her alone time for a long time to figure things out? Iunno.

[_sarcastic_]

tell her you'll be there for her no matter what, ask her how's she feeling and if she wants to talk about it.

[enyceXaddiction]

o fcourse you should call her. that shows that you crae truely about your cousin. just be like "hi hows it going" and just go with the flow.

[shortiiex]

he broke up w/ her or vice versa?


tell her that he is an assf*ck for leaving her and she will find a guy that she will love and be happy forever

[Paradox of Life]

If she's sad about it, maybe you shouldn't call her and bring it up again. The only time you should talk about it is if she brings it up. But there's also the chance that she needs someone to talk to about it and get that load off her shoulders. Call her, but don't directly ask her about her boyfriend. Ask her how her "friends" have been or if she's getting along well with them. If she starts talking about her breakup, that's the time where it's appropriate to console her.

I really don't have the slightest idea of what type of girl your cousin is so I don't have any advice to give you as far as what to say. Is she angry about it? Or sad? Once you talk to her you'll know what kind of mood she's in about the whole situation and that's where you should start thinking about what to say. It'll come naturally. If you're faking the whole sympathy thing, don't bother calling her at all.