does sex feel good?, or is it all pain? Options

[enyceXaddiction]

my friend just lost her virginity and wasnt she suppose to enjoy it? how come she said it hurts like CRAZY. she can barely walk. and her cousin lost it to she said it barley hurt at all! i just want to know hwo come it hurts for some girls and some it accatally feels good?

[CrazayChristian]

I'm told it hurts, but athletic girls build up this..(Crap I can't remember the word, H something) And they don't bleed or hurt as much.

But from what I hear, first timers do bleed.

[enyceXaddiction]

yeah she said she started bleeding alot.

[lilphoenix]

I'm told it hurts, but athletic girls build up this..(Crap I can't remember the word, H something) And they don't bleed or hurt as much.

But from what I hear, first timers do bleed.

the hymen breaks. some girls feel none; others feel some or a lot. [if varies from girl to girl because we're unique.]

[iheartsimba]

It's really different for different girls. Like..when you lose your virginity some skin is like...torn. So yeah it's going to hurt. But like some don't feel it as much as others. Some bleed and some don't. It really depends on the girl. But after the first time I think you enjoy it...I wouldn't know.

[*tweeak*]

i would imagine if you'd already broken the hymen with a tampon it wouldn't hurt as much. however, breaking it with a tampon can't possibly be fun eitherr

[iheartsimba]

But then wouldn't you be wearing tampons like waaayyy to big then..

[b0st0ngrl]

i would imagine if you'd already broken the hymen with a tampon it wouldn't hurt as much. however, breaking it with a tampon can't possibly be fun eitherr

Yah, one of my counselers at camp told us you can break it from lots of different things, like what you said, a tampon, or sports like horseback riding and such..
Her cousin might have already broken her hymen and that's why it didn't hurt her

[dreamerOi]

it could be that the guys yea was too big or that he just wasnt doing it right.

[*tweeak*]

But then wouldn't you be wearing tampons like waaayyy to big then..

i don't know, i can't get tampons to go in yet...

[haostar]

I'm told it hurts, but athletic girls build up this..(Crap I can't remember the word, H something) And they don't bleed or hurt as much.

But from what I hear, first timers do bleed.

umm i dont think u can "build up" a hymen

the hymen is a light peace of skin,once u pop it its gone

urrr unless u recostruct it sergectly.(yes im aware i spelled it wrong)

[*stephinika*]

hmm yeah, some girls have their hymen broken already from sports or dance or something or whatever else...thats why for them, it won't hurt so much.

is there a way to know if its broken? haha just curious.

[*mzkandi*]

hmm yeah, some girls have their hymen broken already from sports or dance or something or whatever else...thats why for them, it won't hurt so much.

is there a way to know if its broken? haha just curious.

Doctors inspection. But usually if your hymen breaks (without having intercourse) you will know because I hear it hurts

[haostar]

yhea and im assuming that sence its skin ur puntering it would have senceability so i think it woud hurt too

[haostar]

egnore this extra post i accedently double posted,sorry people

[*tweeak*]

one would assume it feels good at some point, considering peoples' reactions to it

[haostar]

well yhea thats a given,i mean girls arnt gunna want to do it if it hurts,....well if it hurts too much

[Rachel]

The first time hurts for a lot of girls. That is because they are really nervous and aren't fully turned on. Sex doesn't hurt if you are ready and revved up to go. It actually feels pretty good.

[mocassinsx29]

^ What everybody else said.
Also, if you don't use a lubricant [KY Jelly, lubricated condom] it hurts more.
And it varies from girl to girl, yadda yadda, some athletes may have ripped it already in an accident or something I've read.

[aznxdreamer]

my friemd said it didnt hurt and she didnt bleed. its diffrent for everyone. i thnk that it will hurt in the beggining but then the pain starts to go away.

[CrazayChristian]

Hey, I'm no expert on the female anatomy, I don't think it was hymen that I was thinking of, O well. Just get into athletics, from what I hear that's how you keep pain from comming (No Pun intended).

[lilphoenix]

Hey, I'm no expert on the female anatomy, I don't think it was hymen that I was thinking of, O well. Just get into athletics, from what I hear that's how you keep pain from comming (No Pun intended).

'comming' is actually 'coming.'

getting into athletics does not prevent pain. [horseback riding is the same] you're simply breaking the hymen w/o intercourse, and you probably won't feel pain since you're actually just stretching it. therefore, there will be no barrier. [you can still feel pain even if your hymen is already broken. it's from the guy's size.]

[xlaydee_v]

wow. how old is she? lol anyways. it hurts like crazy cause her hymen broke like what everyone else said.

[iheartjohn]

It hurt me the first couple of times, because my partner was too rough.

[so0o_contagious]

well. if you play sports and stuff. it stretches out your hymen. and so thats why it doesnt hurt as much or it breaks. so it doesnt hurt at all. well im still a virgin so im kinda scared. haha. but its ok.

[JAYeeENenWHY]

Uh... I dunno. I'm sure my hymen got broken cause when my boyfriend first fingered me, it didn't hurt. But then again he only used one finger, and I've used tampons before. But the more fingers he added the more it hurt...

[*Azarel*]

^ your signature is way too big. 300px vertical limit, please resize. Thanks.

Sex should feel good. [/end obvious]

[whywasisostupid]

its supposed to?

my first time was definanetly not when i expected sex to feel like..
porn is over exaggerted :(

[melface]

sex feels horrible... stay abstinent for the rest of your life.

[aznhunnie6o1]

It accually depends on the girl's mood. If she's nervous, then it WILL hurt.. But if she's relaxed, then it will feel good.

Girls don't bleed all the time when first having sex.

[angel-roh]

Maybe they didn't do it right.


But yeah for the first time, it hurts like heck with lots of blood.

I'm still a virgin, but I know sex stuff because I know 20-30 friends that are not virgin at all. We have so many sex inside jokes too ehh yeah.

anyways, but i dont know A LOT about sex. just almost there. i didnt know if your hymen breaks, it wont hurt...

anyways. sex feels good if you get used to it. and if the guy knows how to make you moan.

[mouse_3k]

y dont u try it and tell us urself? lol idk, I guess it depends on the person...and the size of the guy..

[shortiiex]

it usually hurts the first time....but when she keeps doing it her hymen will get bigger and it won't even hurt

[CloudNine]

It truly varies on each individual girl. For most girls- it hurts. Your stretching the skin, if you have a hymen then that breaks, etc. The first few times is a bit uncomfortable but after that then it's fine. The only reasons why sex should hurt after that is if your doing to much of it or if there's something wrong.

It's not rare for a girl to not have a hymen or not to bleed. Some girls are actually born without hymens. I know the first time I had sex was not pleasant- it hurt like crazy but I didn't bleed so it all depends on the individual girl.

My friend cried the first time while my other friend said it didn't hurt at all. You'll find out once you do but take my advice- wait for the right guy! I was stupid and I totally regret it. Just wait until the right guy comes along and don't rush into it.

[aznxdreamer]

i think sex just feels like putting in a tampon...a BIG tampon.

[maia_dc]

Yea, I know this is slightly off topic. But just thinking about what people are sayin and stuff- like wouldn't it suck to be the GUY and it's like, alluva sudden blood starts comin out of her...? If I were the guy that would reaaaaaally freak me out.

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[aznxdreamer]

Yea, I know this is slightly off topic. But just thinking about what people are sayin and stuff- like wouldn't it suck to be the GUY and it's like, alluva sudden blood starts comin out of her...? If I were the guy that would reaaaaaally freak me out.

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i would be realy freaked out too. i would be like "did i just rip her???!!"

[WinterNights2]

i would be realy freaked out too. i would be like "did i just rip her???!!"

Actually most guys like me think," Damn, it's broken, I wonder if I can return it to the store, maybe if I'm lucky I'll get a refund!."

[maia_dc]

Actually most guys like me think," Damn, it's broken, I wonder if I can return it to the store, maybe if I'm lucky I'll get a refund!."

lmao.

Ahahaha, kinda funny how you put it that way.

[aznxdreamer]

Actually most guys like me think," Damn, it's broken, I wonder if I can return it to the store, maybe if I'm lucky I'll get a refund!."

HAH! wow..thats..interesting. it be weird if he said it while having sex.

[Sandra4721]

hymens don't get broken by tampons.

But then again I haven't had my period yet so how am i supposed to know?

then again i read a book about it. i have no idea.

[Sandra4721]

after reading the whole da.mn thing i just remembered i was born without a hymen. Sometimes i cannot believe it it's like i am an alien. boy aam i sleepy

[Paradox of Life]

So summing up what everyone said, it's painless or painful depending on what girl the guy "operates" on. Some bleed and some do not. What causes the bleeding is the man tearing the skin called "hymen". Some people can tear it before sex and then it'll be less painful during actual intercourse. It also depends on the mood; whether you're nervous or excited. QUESTION ANSWERED.

[AznVi3tGrl]

omg... my friend had sex the other day she said it hurts like crazy... but i ono...

[Latina Babii]

It's really different for different girls. Like..when you lose your virginity some skin is like...torn. So yeah it's going to hurt. But like some don't feel it as much as others. Some bleed and some don't. It really depends on the girl. But after the first time I think you enjoy it...I wouldn't know.

It only bleeds because the walls or whatever, but you may have already broken that when you wore a tampon. My friend said "Damn I am NEVER doing that again." she coul d barely walk, you can ask me , I was her shoulder around school, while my other friend you couldn't tell....

[kokoro]

My friend didn't really feel anything.. probably because she plays sports and uhhh masturbates ? I'm not sure if that does anything but I don't know. o_O

And how do you know that you're born without a hymen ?

Oh yeah, and I read somewhere you can't break the hymen with a tampon because there's this part of it that uhh doesn't cover the wall to allow menstruation. And the tampon goes through there. Or yeah.

[toodlepops.]

OUCH!
bUT i THiNK iT DOES BLEED. I'm not sure bout the hurting part, thoguh. I guess it depends.

[Xprezsion]

Well it is different for every girl. One of my friend's was bleeding a lot after her first time, and my other friend was fine. It depends on the guys size I guess and how rough you guys are doing it. Use lube, it might hurt less.

[*Weird addiction*]

First time, it hurts...2nd time, still hurts but not as the first...10th, 50th time, IT'S AMAZING! wonderful feeling...don't do it if you are not ready, but it's great

[x0143637x0]

it hurts less if you get use to it. sometimes it hurts chuz the guy is going too fast

[islandkiss]

I wouldn't know but I've read that your first time most likely could be extremely painful. I'm planning to lose my virginity after I get married.

[lAzN YiN YanGl]

It's supposed to hurt the first time and by the 3rd time is supposed to be "pleasurable". Well, thats what I am told

[sweet x sorrow]

Hmm.
If you're not relaxed on penetration
it would hurt.
Yeah, if the hymen broke during intercourse
you'd bleed and start to hurt.
But if the guy wasn't considerate
and just rams his d**k into you
and thrusts back and forth that
can also call for pain.
Slow and steady is the key really if it's
your first time.

[enyceXaddiction]

does being able to do a complete split count as ripping your hymen?

[CloudNine]

does being able to do a complete split count as ripping your hymen?

Very hard to say lol. You'll find out once you do have sex for the first time. Most athletic girls say that it doesn't hurt the first time while girls who aren't athletic tend to say that it hurt. It's just based on the individual, every girl is different.

Also, I've been hearing a lot about tampons breaking a hymen. During your period your hymen is open which is obvious or else your menstrual blood would not be able to come out. When using a tampon during your period you would not break your hymen.

Again, some girls aren't even born with a hymen. I don't even know if I had one or if it broke the first time I had sex. All I remember was pain (not to scare you) but I'm also not the athletic type. I don't think you can feel when your hymen breaks during the first time you have sex but I could be wrong- I just didn't feel it.

[3ssx]

yes... whatever everyone else said..
i've never done it. so i wouldnt know..

[ShEraBaRoO]

if your friend plans on doing it again, it wont hurt as much becuz there is no longer a barrier there to be broken.

as for you, join any sports team that involves a lot of stretching that targets your lower half so that it stretches out your hymen or whatever. that way, when you do intercourse for the first time, you'll less likely to bleed and experience any pain

[Fallen Fairy]

It really depends.
Scientist say that women 20 years from now won't be born with a hymen. Yeah I know...

fallen fairy

[WhiteLotus*]

i would imagine if you'd already broken the hymen with a tampon it wouldn't hurt as much. however, breaking it with a tampon can't possibly be fun eitherr

Oh hell it doesn't. I've never felt anything so..painful. I mean with the tampon, of course.

But yes as others said, the girl probably broke her hymen. Or her boyfriend went too far and he hit her cervix.

[lilJdawg]

I wouldn't know. I never had sex before. Why don't you ask your mom?

[CloudNine]

Or her boyfriend went too far and he hit her cervix.

If a guy goes to far and hits a girl's cervix it is not painful. It's a strange feeling yes, but it shouldn't be painful and if it does then I would recommend visiting a doctor. Not only that, but the guy would have to have a long one lol in order to hit the cervix.

Sex can be painful the first couple times (mine was very painful as well but now I can't even remember how painful it was. I just remember thinking, "Thank god I got it done and over with so I don't have to go through it again! lol") The only other reason why sex should hurt after that is if there is something medically wrong with you or you are having sex to much (in other words, you get pretty sore.) I've also heard that the guy's "splooge" as people call it, can be a bit painful. Strange eh? It's very rare but some guy's "splooge" may be very potent or the girl may be very sensitive.

[nyctophiliac]

LOL "splooge"?! isn't that the stuff from Holes, it was like some peach thing haha. but uhh I wouldn't know if sex hurts, but I'm guessing it probably would for the first time. haha I'm clueless...

[yellowgurl]

after this it sounds very painful

[LittleLulu]

...if it hurts its prolly because she wasn't horny enough..OR its becuase her hymen is still there...

i believe i broke mine when i was 11..i slipped on the stairs..n fell on my butt.. HAHAHAHA

*sigH* i dont know though. im still a virgin..n i dont use tampons =)

[joeyee]

i'm not sure. if it's hurtful, why so many people enjoy it?

[CloudNine]

i'm not sure. if it's hurtful, why so many people enjoy it?

er... for most girls it hurts the first time. After that it's enjoyable but yes it's usually painful at first but you have to get past the pain in order to enjoy it.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

it hurts for the first time if you havent popped your cherry, it will break and you will bleed. even if you have from gymnastics or any other reason before the penis has entered and broken the hymen, it may still hurt because your not used to the sensation. it hurts for some females, and other feel the pain&pleausre and others just feel the pleasure.

[xlauren73x]

what a lot of people have said is right, if you break your hymen then it can hurt and you may bleed.. but another thing is if you are nervous or really not well.. 'in the mood', your vaginal muscles may contract making it hurt more when you have sex [ this can happen when putting in a tampon too.. that's why some girls have trouble when they first use them ]. but if you're doing it with someone you really care about and are excited about it.. then it should feel good because of the orgasm(s) [ which girls actually can have more orgasms then guys lol.. so in a way it can feel better for a girl ]

lol and i'm a virgin so i'm not speaking from experience.. just from what i've read and talked about with people.

[JlIaTMK]

Yes, anal sex does hurt.

Never, ever try it.






Damn, curious children. :shakes fists:

[ktsou11]

i play basketball and sometimes i get down below. can your hymen break like that?

[xblueradiance]

I'm still a virgin, so I wouldn't so if sex hurts or not.

But how come they say it hurts the first time you have sex because you break the hymen, while they say that when your putting a tampon in it shouldn't hurt, even though it should also break the hymen? (I have never used a tampon though, heh.)

[nyctophiliac]

Yes, anal sex does hurt.

Never, ever try it.
Damn, curious children. :shakes fists:

sounds like you're talking out of experience

[*disco infiltrator*]

...i don't think i have a hymen. cause uh..i've..sorta..tested it kinda..and nothing hurt.

i don't know though; it could just be too far up there hahaha

[CloudNine]

Yes, anal sex does hurt.

Never, ever try it.
Damn, curious children. :shakes fists:

Lol I agree. Not very fun =P

[EmmalieV]

...i don't think i have a hymen. cause uh..i've..sorta..tested it kinda..and nothing hurt.

i don't know though; it could just be too far up there hahaha

Many people are under the impression that the hymen is located within the vagina. It is not. It’s part of the vulva, the external genital organs. It’s located outside the vagina. The hymen is a layer of tissue, just like the tissue around the opening of your vagina that partially conceals the vaginal orifice. You may or may not have one, most females do. The hymen is named after the Greek God Hymenaeus -- the God of marriage and weddings.

Yeah so I had mine popped manually , so I guess it shouldnt hurt that much , but another reason it would hurt because it stretches >_<

[murderwaltz]

im still a virgin but from what i heard, when you have sex for the first time - it does hurt & your hymen breaks, then you start to bleed. but when you wear a tampon and you put it in wrong your hymen breaks too so when you have sex, it wont hurt. for atheletes its different because they stretch it out so it doesn't hurt for them. and this is why my mum wont let me use tampons. simply because im still a virgin and she doesnt want my hymen to break because then my husband wont think im a virgin. please..

[pinklove_stains]

when i first had sex i didn't bleed but i bled the second time and when i walked
it felt like something was still in there but after like 10 minutes i lost that feeling.

and yes sex does feel good to be honest

[ldy_kari]

'comming' is actually 'coming.'

getting into athletics does not prevent pain. [horseback riding is the same] you're simply breaking the hymen w/o intercourse, and you probably won't feel pain since you're actually just stretching it. therefore, there will be no barrier. [you can still feel pain even if your hymen is already broken. it's from the guy's size.]

woah so when i was in Cheerleading i broke my hymen?
because i had to like practice my splits a lot and for cheer practice i would have to contantly climb up the prymid and jummp off and land on the Slpits...Its hurt the first couple times but then i didnt mind at all o_o does that mean i broke it?
so scary to know that it might be

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

^ you could have possibly. when you stretch alot it can tear or something.
you cant really be sure and i dont think you can check if your hymens still intact.

[Rogue_Ewok]

it doesnt hurt if you stay calm, because if you tense up your vaginal walls will clench making penetration more difficult and painful. So, just breathe deeply and enjoy... dont freak or it will hurt.

[xXMomoBubbleTeaX...]

I haven't had sex yet, but I think it's gonna feel GREAT!!...(lol)..but then I don't know cause one time I got a tampon up there, but then another time I got it stuck and it hurt like hell coming outt...

[sheddingtears]

maybe 'cause the guy was so agressive?

[sweetabandon]

First FEW times hurt like hell. I didn't bleed but it was still pretty painful. Then it started to feel really good. However, it became too good. I started to want it a lot, and I ended up getting pregnant. lol (not really funny but it's not a big deal for me to laugh about it anymore.)

[kitcatblac]

ok so wat if tha boy doesnt want 2 stop

[LOWinSKANK]

it`s just different for different girls. i hurt the first couple of times but not to the point where i couldn`t walk. after a few times it stopped hurting and started feeling good.

[Rachel]

ok so wat if tha boy doesnt want 2 stop

Find a new boy to have sex with then. His ass should feel lucky to be getting some and should stop when you tell him to. If not, that can be considered rape.





And again, sex shouldn't hurt. I mean, it may if it's your first time and you haven't been fingered or whatever before, but hopefully if your bumpin n grindin you got warmed up first.

[itsnever4ever]

sounds scary
i think I'll wait until i'm married

[*Elba*]

My first time didn't hurt - there was a lot of foreplay. The second and third times hurt like a bitch.

Now, it just feels good. Oh, and i didn't bleed my first time.

[kitcatblac]

ok so how long is tha bleedin suppose 2 last?

[*Kathleen*]

Why.. wouldn't sex feel good?

[xburnoutx00]

I haven't had sex yet, but I think it's gonna feel GREAT!!...(lol)..but then I don't know cause one time I got a tampon up there, but then another time I got it stuck and it hurt like hell coming outt...

.....
Tampons and sex feel completely different. o_O

[EmoEyelinerx]

I'm told it hurts, but athletic girls build up this..(Crap I can't remember the word, H something) And they don't bleed or hurt as much.

But from what I hear, first timers do bleed.

Yupp

[ashleybby]

my first time didnt hurt me at all. i was just sore in the legs for a couple days after haha
but if the guy is big, maybe it would hurt.

[xBUTTMUNCHx]

i'd like to know too.

(:

[omgomgKATHY]

All this pain talk is making me kind of scared.

[xburnoutx00]

Yupp

I'm athletic and it hurt me the first time; but I didn't bleed.

But it isn't as bad as everyone is making it out to be ...

[xhidethedetails]

Everyones different. But for me, my first time hurt a lot to the point where it was not enjoyable at all. I was shakeing real bad afterwards. But as we kept doing it every time hurt less and less. It just takes a little getting used too. I didnt bleed though..so my hymen must of popped.

[xburnoutx00]

Everyones different. But for me, my first time hurt a lot to the point where it was not enjoyable at all. I was shakeing real bad afterwards. But as we kept doing it every time hurt less and less. It just takes a little getting used too. I didnt bleed though..so my hymen must of popped.

that's kind of how I was. [minus the shaking - I just chickened out]
But yeah ; everyone is different.