want him to die..., sister b/f... |
 Jun 25 2005, 11:20 AM
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 Im Gavin HI!!  Group: Member Posts: 802 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 111,644  |
omg i hate him and i want him to die and go to hell!!! im sick of his shit!!!!!!!! lemme explain the simple story to you. MY sister and him have been going out for like 2 years and he always scream at her and stuff and cussing and im effing tired of it. my sister will either come home crying, or she will be home and he calls and cusses and yells at her. he ruins all of our damn vacations and i cant take it much longer. when my sister is with him, she is in a worse mood.... i just want him to die. I swear if he ever gets phischally violent with m sister by assaultin her, I do not know what i would do to him. Just now he was waiting outside and when my sister came out he drove off cussing at her out his window and stuff... then my sister came in crying and called him. im tired of them fighting, when he is mean to her, she is mean to the rest of the family. She just got back from ARizona and she was all happy.....
so yesterday around midnight he came with us... sat beside me... to pick her up from airport.... I dont know what to do..... I told amber I hate him, she says she will dump him but she never does.... what should i do?..... |
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Jun 25 2005, 12:29 PM
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i onno... aww imma srry if ur sister has a bf whos treatn her like an ahole.... tho... ::looks at yoo wit sorrowness:: sry i couldnt help...
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Jun 25 2005, 12:32 PM
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 memories live FOREVER<3 Group: Member Posts: 1,150 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 132,793 |
but if hes so mean to her why dont she really dump him? i dont get her. there must be something bwtween them that you dont know
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Jun 25 2005, 02:39 PM
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mood: content Group: Member Posts: 2,063 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 42,325 |
QUOTE(enyceXaddiction @ Jun 25 2005, 12:32 PM) but if hes so mean to her why dont she really dump him? i dont get her. there must be something bwtween them that you dont know  I agree. Wth? Break the hell up already!!! Keep talking to her about it I guess. I'm not good with relationships being I've never been in one. |
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Jun 25 2005, 03:20 PM
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 im addicted to my car<3 Group: Member Posts: 635 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 92,236 |
seriously sit down and tell her how you feel... make it very clear. just try and convince her to get it over with, maybe be like "hey you could go out with so and so instead
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Jun 25 2005, 03:35 PM
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 The Texan Group: Member Posts: 430 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 136,431 |
Well, is your sister older than you? Is he older than you?
My cousin has a girlfriend, and her brother is cool, but my cousin behaves around him because he knows that her brother would woop up on him if he pulled anything. (not that he's bad) If he's younger/ weaker than you. DON'T HIT HIM, but tell him to cut the crap and be intimidating about it. If he's older than you, then you need to get your sister to handle it. Step up to the plate, be the one to solve the problem, but be reasonable. You need to think when your head isn't hot and make logical rational thoughts. Like Ghandi How old are they? That may be the key here. |
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Jun 25 2005, 04:51 PM
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Im Gavin HI!! Group: Member Posts: 802 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 111,644 |
uhhh my sis is 17 and i think he is 17 to.....
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Jun 25 2005, 04:55 PM
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 Call me C.Annie Group: Member Posts: 366 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,994 |
QUOTE(enyceXaddiction @ Jun 25 2005, 9:32 AM) but if hes so mean to her why dont she really dump him? i dont get her. there must be something bwtween them that you dont know Because she might be afraid he'll hurt her if she breaks up with him. |
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Jun 25 2005, 06:43 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
QUOTE(enyceXaddiction @ Jun 25 2005, 1:32 PM) but if hes so mean to her why dont she really dump him? i dont get her. there must be something bwtween them that you dont know people don't become involved in abusive relationships because they want someone to beat them and belittle them, it's because they're scared of what's going to happen, they're too weak. they either stay because they don't want to be alone, they're afraid they might end up dead if they do leave and in this case, they don't want to throw away the relationship because they've been together for 2 years. you have to sit your sister down and talk to her about all of this. until she really looks at the problem it's going to keep going on. you could tell your parents and maybe they can file an order of protection (i forgot what they're called) so he can't be within a certain number of yard radius of her. |
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Jun 25 2005, 07:32 PM
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 Para ti... Group: Member Posts: 100 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 139,983 |
i woudl try to get her to understand how much this is affecting everyone and try to get her to see how dangerous this could get if she were to stay with him. Hopefully it wont get physical but u never know...
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Jun 25 2005, 07:52 PM
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 show me a garden thats bursting to life Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,303 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,987 |
Pray that it doesn't get physical ^^ and think about professional therapy?
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Jun 25 2005, 09:34 PM
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hm .. if they dont break up .. your sister will be more emtionals and will be under alot of pressure. if your sister is to scare to broke up w/ him. you GO W/ HER to tell him that your sister doesnt want to be w/ him. prepare to defend yourself and be strong. Have some guts .. bring a strong guy for defenese. her bf might go ballistic.
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Jun 25 2005, 09:51 PM
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 dizzy me up. Group: Member Posts: 3,191 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,139 |
oh gosh im sorry to hear that =[
im not sure if theres much you can do...unless you drag your sister to go dump him. |
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Jun 25 2005, 10:23 PM
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Im Gavin HI!! Group: Member Posts: 802 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 111,644 |
oh and... i think he is bi-polar.... like where his mood can change drastically... my sister makes excuses when he yells at her... its so annoying...
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Jun 25 2005, 10:34 PM
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get her to break up with him, and find a stronger guy friend and his friends to protect your sister.
if you're about the same age as him (one year younger, max), get a hold of him somehow and tell him to quit treating your sister like crap. hope everything gets better. |
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Jun 26 2005, 12:45 AM
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Im Gavin HI!! Group: Member Posts: 802 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 111,644 |
he is 17 lol im 13... so... ya... i try to tell her that he is ruining her life.. she has other guy friends that want to beat him up because my sisters b/f treats her like qrap. So.... i dunno anymore.... but thanks guys i guess i feel a littlle better *feels like he needs a hug*...
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Jun 26 2005, 01:17 AM
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Hydro Azn Group: Member Posts: 81 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 155,718 |
wow..did u ask her why she is still with him. I know how u feel, tho Im an only child. Times have I seen abusive (physical or verbal) relationships and the best way to help them is to tell them that they deserve so much better.
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Jun 26 2005, 11:27 AM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
I know how you feel. My sister likes this stupid bastard that I want to just kill because I KNOW he is going to play her since I knew him last year and I have alot of friends that know him...
This is where a Hitman comes in OR you can always do it yourself like what Im about to do if my sister's crush hurts her...Time to go out and buy some knives 
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Jun 26 2005, 11:37 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
dump him for her
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Jun 26 2005, 12:29 PM
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just talk to your sis bcuz it is not fair for her to be taking in all the crap this guy is giving her and perhaps you can just speak up for her to him.. maybe try threatening him unless you might be afraid or him too kindof...
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Jun 26 2005, 03:30 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
i went through the same shyt as your sister... so i did the whole thing where i "broke up with him for another boy" he got mad... i did it b/c he was treating me crazy mean! in the end, it came around to me [what goes around come around] so just break up for your self, not for another boy
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Jun 26 2005, 03:44 PM
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This is a very touchy situation. Abusive relationships are tough to end. Try this website. That might help. Try going to your local women's shelter. They can help as well. If you need any more help, feel free to PM me.
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Jun 26 2005, 04:10 PM
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 My name's Katt. Nice to meet you! Group: Member Posts: 3,826 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,674 |
This is really your sister's problem, but if it's affecting you, you should talk to your sister about it again. Apparantly, because she's not doing anything about the situation, she isn't taking your word seriously. Don't tell her you hate him; just tell her calmly what you think. If she doesn't listen, the way he's treating her, it'll only be a matter of time before she realizes that it's just not a healthy relationship.
It's a good thing you're trying to help, but it's her business. If you can't do anything about it, let destiny (and your sister's common sense) take its course. |
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Jun 26 2005, 04:20 PM
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Senior Member Group: Posts: 8,274 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,001 |
QUOTE(AkaRyux @ Jun 26 2005, 1:10 PM) This is really your sister's problem, but if it's affecting you, you should talk to your sister about it again. Apparantly, because she's not doing anything about the situation, she isn't taking your word seriously. Don't tell her you hate him; just tell her calmly what you think. If she doesn't listen, the way he's treating her, it'll only be a matter of time before she realizes that it's just not a healthy relationship. It's a good thing you're trying to help, but it's her business. If you can't do anything about it, let destiny (and your sister's common sense) take its course. AGREE. 
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Jun 26 2005, 05:23 PM
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 sheryl Group: Member Posts: 120 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 142,179 |
you should tell / explain to your sister about this situation, and how you hate watching her suffer like that. don't take matters to your own hands it's only gonna make things worst and her bf might just start physically abusing your sister. just watch out on what he does and if he ever lay hands on your sister, call the police or tell your parents
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