HELP GAY???, i am usure if i am gay but also i am... |
 Jun 24 2005, 11:55 AM
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Newbie  Group: Member Posts: 8 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 158,962  |
 hi im izi am very confused about my life in total i am usure if i am gay or not. I think the ideal of lezzi is nasty(no offence at all i admire ur bravery) however i am attracted to sum girls i no the cum ova sleep at mine all the tme and i have to hold myself bk( i feel like the girl in sugar rush!) I am v depressed for many reasons 1) dvorce between parents 2)mum tried 2 commit suicide 3)shit at skl & gcses cummin up If u cn help let me no thanks izzy 15 F uk |
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Jun 24 2005, 03:06 PM
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 ^_^ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,141 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,466 |
For starters, you need to get over your own confusion about how you feel about other girls. I'm not suggesting that you go out and forcefully grab a girl so you can make out with her, but try to come to terms with the fact that you are attracted to other girls and the you appreciate femininity.
Depression shouldn't be an excuse to explore homosexuality. Hell, if anything, find a way to treat your depresion first before you dive off the deep end and start confusing yourself with wild ideas. Do something productive, find a release form life thats contrstuctive and can make you happy. Read a book, write, explore with artwork and photography. Do something other than wallow in depression. Talk to someone that you already know is a lesbian so they can help further your understanding of your own sexuality. Be real with yourself first and don't do anything drastic because you're upset. I appreciate your PM and feel free to let me know if there's anything else bothering you. Just one more thing though; work on your grammar 
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Jun 24 2005, 03:57 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 8 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 158,962 |
thanks he he yea i no was in a bit of a hurry you see thanx again but all this is a bit confuzzling so i will be ending my account
Thanx izzy xxx |
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Jun 24 2005, 06:49 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
how can u get confused...U can either like girls or not. if you like girls and guys ur bi...not really confusing..
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Jun 24 2005, 07:39 PM
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 memories live FOREVER<3 Group: Member Posts: 1,150 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 132,793 |
i can see why your despressed. wow the thing with your family has gone wild. just dont let your family get to you. and uh yeah maybe your bi.
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Jun 24 2005, 08:25 PM
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 The Texan Group: Member Posts: 430 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 136,431 |
I think she's confused because she feels one way, and thinks another.
Look, this may all be caused by the same thing. (This is totally no offense) But you type like your younger than 13, so I'll assume your in that area. You're in a time in your life where you are changing, and now you're in a depressed time of your life. You might just be mixed up because of everything happening to you. If you fix your depression, then you might fix your feelings towards girls. And if your lez, then don't worry about it. People suck, yes, but you can still be happy. 
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Jun 24 2005, 09:40 PM
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 former member Group: Member Posts: 706 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 122,339 |
purple ponies (self deleted 12/30/06)
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Jun 24 2005, 10:45 PM
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yerp! Group: Member Posts: 3,489 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 66,454 |
Brandon's reply was excellent. This should be closed, since Iz said they would be closing their acount, anyway.
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Jun 24 2005, 11:51 PM
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 blah Group: Member Posts: 313 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,360 |
You're probably bisexual. It's pretty common now.
As for the depression, you've gone through a lot. Maybe you should seek therapy? |
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Jun 25 2005, 12:03 AM
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trust me, im fightin temptations. Group: Member Posts: 399 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 120,414 |
i hope you dont talk like the way you type.
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Jun 25 2005, 12:31 AM
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 show me a garden thats bursting to life Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,303 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,987 |
QUOTE I think she's confused because she feels one way, and thinks another. Yup. Just what I was thinking. |
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Jun 25 2005, 10:30 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 161 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 153,708 |
...ok none of you have helped her. just cussed her for the way she types...
anyways, izz, its ok to feel the way you do. it's part of growing older. dont worry about it. pretty people are attractive to both sexes, moreso in the teen years. u can either experiment or just see how u feel in time to come. relax n go with twhat you feel is right |
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Jun 25 2005, 10:46 AM
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The Texan Group: Member Posts: 430 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 136,431 |
QUOTE(_suzie_ @ Jun 25 2005, 9:30 AM) ...ok none of you have helped her. just cussed her for the way she types...  QUOTE You're in a time in your life where you are changing, and now you're in a depressed time of your life. You might just be mixed up because of everything happening to you. If you fix your depression, then you might fix your feelings towards girls. And if your lez, then don't worry about it. People suck, yes, but you can still be happy. Ahem? |
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Jun 25 2005, 02:42 PM
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mood: content Group: Member Posts: 2,063 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 42,325 |
Woah, I'm sorry about what happened in your family. It seems like your whole life is just jumbled up! I think you should get professional help to sort things out, maybe a school guidance counseler?
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Jun 26 2005, 06:53 AM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 8 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 158,962 |
 yes i agree some people have just confused me but some have really helped thanks for everything. I feel a bit too shy to go to anyone face to face to talk about this but hey thanks anyway.Some of my freinds have said i should talk to my mum about it ( she is in hospital you see ) however i think that may create more stress for her which she does not need! ummmmm well give me your ideas please thanks again iz xxx |
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Jun 26 2005, 06:59 AM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 8 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 158,962 |
QUOTE how can u get confused...U can either like girls or not. if you like girls and guys ur bi...not really confusing..  Not really! |
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Jun 30 2005, 08:15 AM
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 Sugar, We're Goin' Down. Group: Member Posts: 53 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 160,644 |
It takes awhile for everyone to know what sexuality they are. People like to experiment and maybe change their ways.
I for one, am straight. But for someone who is going through all of your troubles, might be looking to girls because face it, alot of guys are jerks. The real love you find in a guy is basically like a best friend (which in many cases are girl best friends), except with a romantic attraction. Maybe you are looking for comfort since your family problems. My advice is not to go over the top with anything yet. Try to see a school counciler or a therapist. Sorting out your troubles will help alot and help you find out who you are. In time you will know. And to mouse_3k - You can't pick that easily if your in her kind of depression stage. Only when you truly know who you are and know what you want - is when you can decide. |
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Jun 30 2005, 05:02 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Posts: 8,274 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,001 |
Be careful of your thoughts.
They can be your habits and actions. |
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Jul 1 2005, 08:16 PM
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 speechless Group: Member Posts: 869 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 163,564 |
QUOTE(littleizzywizzy @ Jun 24 2005, 8:55 AM) hi im izi am very confused about my life in total i am usure if i am gay or not. I think the ideal of lezzi is nasty(no offence at all i admire ur bravery) however i am attracted to sum girls i no the cum ova sleep at mine all the tme and i have to hold myself bk( i feel like the girl in sugar rush!) I am v depressed for many reasons 1) dvorce between parents 2)mum tried 2 commit suicide 3)shit at skl & gcses cummin up If u cn help let me no thanks izzy 15 F uk Its nothing that requires any serious help. Maybe your bi like I am. There's nothing wrong with it. |
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Jul 2 2005, 06:31 AM
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blame it on the parents. </33 Group: Member Posts: 50 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 162,046 |
ugh i have the same problem
 it's so embarrasing to write this becuase some of my friends read my stuff..... but anyway im going to write iti fully support gays and if someone starts up an argument about it i feel extremely strong to it... aanyway i sometimes look at a girl and think that shes really hot o something but im ashamed to say it.... i dont think im bisexual or gay or whatever but if im in the girls changing room, if i look at a girl getting changed, i feel really wierd and i have to turn away.  its annoying me because if a friend is wearing a tight t-shirt or anything, i feel wierd again. i only used to get these feelings towards guys so its totally freaking me out 
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Jul 2 2005, 07:03 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 339 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 162,772 |
I wish I could give you some kick ass advice however this is not covered in my field of expertise.
Check out this web site. My friend who is gay told me about it and he says it's helpful. I hope it all works out for you in the end. They have a hotline you can call and ask questions and such. http://www.thetrevorproject.org/default.aspx fallen fairy |
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