im 12 and im facing this problem already, a break down hard to deal with Options

[enyceXaddiction]

this is going to be long...hope you can read it

yes people i AM 12 and yes i have my whole life ahead of me. and i know i will have greater challenges in the future. so please dont tell me im still 12 i have my whole life ahead of me, etc. i know but im having a break down right NOW.

ive been liking this guy ALOT since april.14.05. i know there would be no chance between us for specific reason only me and him know. so i didnt expect anything from him. well just a few day ago he hooked up with this girl, hes been talking about for MONTHS. i knew they were going to be together sooner or later so it was no surprise cause they do everything a couple do the only thing they were missing is acctally establish as a gf/bf.

ever since they have gotten together its like...i cant face it. i cant face the fact they are together. i cant face reality anymore. i cant seem to concentrate in school. but the thing that worrys me is how i've been acting towards my friends. its breaking us apart. and im not talking about as in me and everyone im talking about everyone everyone as in all my friends not being together we're forming our own *groups* by our selves. our little group has practically been broken up.

but besides that ive been finding the littlest things that bother me. its like i need to find it so i can be mad at them. i dont know who i am anymore. im getting pissed at my nicest friends and im totally being obnaxious to them and i just so rude these days. but i cant help it. in fact i feel like i achived a goal when i am obnaxious to them, yet i feel extremly bad.

all this just go way back to me liking *him* and how i cant face the fact. so i turn to people i know and blame it all on them. i dont know whats wrong with me...

has anyone gone through this? or am i alone on this...

[seriouslynikki]

Ive gone through that phase too. :) So your not alone. I would just try not to care at all. I would also talk to SOMEONE about it...like my best friends.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

The best thing to do is look at them and just be happy, as much as it hurts you inside. Go about your regular routine. Laugh with friends and have fun. Don't worry about it, in time you will get over him.

[timeflies51]

Well, I can immediately say that the thing with your friends breaking up is completely normal. As you get older your old friends will go their separate ways and find new ones. Believe me, that just happened to my old group of friends. As depressing as it may be, take comfort in making new friends.

As for your guy trouble, I sort of know what you're going through. You should not be letting it get in the way of what's really important, like friends, family, and schoolwork.

I know anything I tell you probably won't work, 'cause it didn't work on me, but the only thing that I can tell you is to try distracting yourself. Summer is here, so do fun activities that will take your mind off of him and focus on having fun! And sometimes, the best way to get over someone is to infatuate yourself with someone else.

Best I can do. Hope it works out.

[*freshxsmiles*]

Yeah, i've went through that phase also. What your doing is actually just mixing up your emotions to avoid that the guy you like is with another girl. So to avoid it, you get all your anger built up inside of you and just let it go on your friends. However, yea, once you keep growing older, your friends change and even you..and you just go your separate ways, but sometimes you'll have that one friend that stuck with you through all you years! ^.^ Just try your best to let it not get to you, just try to LET GO of him..there are other guys out there..probably even more hotter (even though i have no clue what he looks like) hahaha. Also just try your best not to let that kind of emotion out on your friends... also

[sharerol]

Aw, actually I know how you feel except I wasn't actually liking the guy. I hated him. I was really confined from my friends as well, and you're right about how you were just looking out there for a reason to argue with them about, to hate them. I know you obviously hate feeling this way. I hated it too, but I didn't really do much. I just kind of waited until this whole phase just passed.

But hmm, I'll try my best to help you overcome your problem...

Well, be practical. Ask yourself - Why do you like this guy so much? What do you see in him? I know it's really hard for you to deal with the fact that he's with someone else, but again, ask yourself - Do you have to break apart from your friends because this guy is with another girl? Do you have to take it out on your friends? I mean, they had no part in sparking their relationship, right? If they're your friends, you should be able to talk to them about your problem. You should'nt be taking your anger out on people who had nothing to do with your problem.

Err...I dunno. I tried my best. I send you my best wishes in helping you overcome this issue. But know for a fact, no matter how hurt you are, that:

1. You will get over this guy.
2. You will have friends and establish a social life.
3. One day you're going to look back on this issue and think it would've been really stupid of you to have this problem in the first place.
4. You're going to thank me one day for my wonderfulllllll advice. (Okay, um sorry. )

But yeah. I guarantee you that you'll get through this. I did.


...My god this is the mushiest advice I've ever given. :P

[sadolakced acid]

hello. i think the right sholder is taken up by tons of angels, so i'm going to speak the other sholder.

you have a few options:

1. go goth. good looking goth girls are hot.
2. break them up. oh, you know... comments to the guy in earshot of his girlfriend. things that'll make him blush...
3. stop redirectiong your feelings. just be all out nasty to him and his girlfriend. or just his girlfriend.
4. let your friends drift apart. maybe it's time for that anyways. blame the guy. to his face. make up some reason. make him feel bad.

[CrazayChristian]

TOTALLY NORMAL HUN


Yes, as a matter of fact, the girl I've (lets just say loved) for 2 years got a boyfriend not to long ago. One thing keeps me going though, and this is even better for you:

YOUR 12 AND THEY WILL PROLLY BREAK UP WITHIN THE MONTH.

See, that's all you have to remember. (Excuse me if this sounds wrong/mean) But you just need to be there when they break up. Kind of become a friend to him and he may come to like you as well. (This is kind of how I accedently because very close friends with her) You just confort him and instant friendship, but don't be like SUPER FRIENDS for too long or he'll feel akward liking you. After you think he's conforted, drop hints about your feelings. Keep an eye on how he reacts, if you act too soon or too late, you may lose it all. (Like I did)

If all else fails, you can trust a fact that your in a stage of your life where you will LOVE someone one time and FORGET them the next.

[angelrevelation]

well i don't think you have a reason to be mean to everyone, but then again jealously is an ugly thing. it's one of the 'deadly sins'

i think it'd be best if you talked to that boy... at least to someone just to get everything off your chest.

and for your friends... organize a get together, like old times. you'll remember why you were all friends in the first place. have a pint of ice cream, and talk about your boy problems. that's what girl friends are for.

and to get rid of your jealously (srry if this sounds lecture-ish) just be happy for him. if you like him that much, just let him be. everyone is free to love whoever they want. i'm going through the whole 'crush having a gf' thing too as well, so i know how you feel. i liked 'him' a lot... and still do. but like... if you see them laughing together, smile, because they're happy. that's all you can do.

[iheartjohn]

You're going through that phase where everything changes. Your friends aren't your friends, you're having your first heartbreak and your mood changes.

Just hang onto your friends, and hopefully if they're good ones, they'll help you get over that guy.

[illuminessence]

Doesn't it suck when someone snatches what you want the most first???? You shoulda pursued him. Now, you hafta go through that pain of watching him with another girl.

Everything else is all involved in the process of growing up. You'll lose friends, win friends, and all that jazz. It's inevitable.

[shesindreamland_...]

well sorry i havent gone thru this before but ill try to help you..

i think you should first apologize to your friends abut the way youve been acting because youll always need to your friends by your side. move on with your life and dont let the problem of that guy and his gf hold you back because after some time youll get over him, even if it takes over a year but u STILL WILL. so good luck with your problem..

[xlaydee_v]

The best thing to do is look at them and just be happy, as much as it hurts you inside. Go about your regular routine. Laugh with friends and have fun. Don't worry about it, in time you will get over him.

i agree.. i'm 12 too i totally understand your situation

[yskulmate]

oh my.. we had some same situations enyceXaddiction....

its like when you see him with the girl, you cant take it anymore, as if you wanna slap tha girl and that... hate it.. although the boy i liked is a junior student and im a senior hS student, but more on that, we're only of the same age, i just got earlier on my studies and etc... though im not been rude on my friends, i just cant stop talking about him all the time.

i always send this boy text messages, i know he reads it all but he doesnt answered any of those since i got his number. argh!! ...muh god, why is this happening...

[technicolour]

Well, you could avoid them EVERYWAY possible. Do homework, work out, read books do SOMETHING, or you could just act like you're happy for them.

[xFaith]

I think you should do is; tell him..
and just dont talk to him anymore..
if you dont talk to him, you eventually fall out of love with him, well, it works for me always and for lots of other people too..

or..

"just" pretend your happy, with your friends and stuff.. just as iNyCxShoRT said.. youll forget him :)

[*lolita kitty*]

*sighs* yes. it happened to me
i have liked the same certain someone since 6th grade. when we actually met in 7th grade, i found out he had had this major crush on another girl for like... ever... and then they ended up going out. yes, they eventually broke up, but still, it broke my heart. everyone kept saying how much he had liked her. yeah? well i liked him too.

...and i still do

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

^ aww. its okay. i was in love with someone for 4 years and then he said he hated me and moved away. ]=

but anyways. just try to not think about him. stop yourself when your being mean cos its REALLY GOOD that youve actually noticed your mean-ness and try to be nice. try to get on w/ life

[JacksonLovejazz]

hmm i too lazt to read all that....butt i think u trynna to say....u 12 and u having a baby right ? ,,,Just guessin....

[ag3nt_sm17h]

Hm..... you are 12.... I feel old... You have the rest of puberty ahead of you... it gets worse trust me...

[lilJdawg]

I've been through this. Move on. Your life is not over. There are more boys out there. He was a jerk for going out with that girl anyways. Stay up & try to not think about it. I know it's hard but yeah, still try. Remember, love takes time. You might not be ready for love juhs yet. So chill, let live, & have a great time. No need to stress over a boy. You don't need a boy in your life to be happy.

[wonder__man]

date some other guy to get over him, it will work trust me

[lKVNiiKINKYl]

date some other guy to get over him, it will work trust me

How does dating other people when you aren't ready work?