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 Jun 21 2005, 09:22 PM
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alli  Group: Member Posts: 513 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 10,108  |
okay so im not an open person..i dont like speaking my feelings..like u no? i just dont like opening up and explaining to everyone whats rong..and all of a sudden my best friends of like 5 yrs r all of sudden making me feel bad..they keep telling me i need to open up..but thats just not mee..and they keep putting me down..and i tell them nothingss rong cuz there is nothing rong..but they dont understand that..so if u get any of this ..plz HELP! thanks
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Jun 21 2005, 09:24 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 62 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 156,693 |
well being open really is the best thing to do.
but if you just can't do that then maybe they aren't the right friends for you? perhaps you need quieter friends..who just sit there..and..asume how you feel. heh.. |
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Jun 21 2005, 10:02 PM
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 Seien Sie bitte mein Geliebter! Group: Member Posts: 660 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,436 |
Maybe if you have trouble opening up verbaly you could write a letter type thing?
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Jun 21 2005, 10:10 PM
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If they don't respect your privacy then I don't think you should be friend with them. You're not an open person, thats fine, its your personality. Your friends should respect that
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Jun 22 2005, 12:53 AM
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 :) Group: Member Posts: 1,234 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 146,496 |
Maybe you can just tell your friends straight up that your not an open person. If they don't understand you, then maybe they aren't the right friends?
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Jun 22 2005, 02:24 AM
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 define our lives for us. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 11,656 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,293 |
Relationships perhaps?
---- Well, you know, a friend of five years would know you very well. She's probably just encouraging you. Not being open is not a problem at all, but if you have a huge situation and your best friend isn't there, who do you think you'll open up to? I guess you can start by trusting other people. That way, you'll be a little more open to other people. Trust me, I'm not an open person myself and my friends really want me to be open to them sometimes. And perhaps you should tell us how they're bringing you down. :-\ |
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Jun 22 2005, 02:45 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
Someone please move this to Relationships.
Well, you can't really blame your friends... Lets think about this in another perspective: One of your friends are suddenly very unhappy one day. You're very worried about her and ask her what's wrong. However, she refuses to answer and continues to act depressed around everyone. When people ask, she just shakes her head and looks away. There is nothing anyone can do to make her feel better, not even you - her best friend for years. How do you feel? Rejected? From this perspective, you might feel as though she doesn't trust you with her secrets. But, she tells you it's because she's less open. What else can you say? Sooo.. i think you should at least talk to your friends a bit. You don't have to tell them everything; just make them feel like they know what's going on. (TIP: DO NOT LIE.) |
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Jun 22 2005, 03:18 AM
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 skaters gonna skate. Group: Official Member Posts: 6,861 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,336 |
QUOTE(ExExEx @ Jun 21 2005, 8:10 PM) If they don't respect your privacy then I don't think you should be friend with them. You're not an open person, thats fine, its your personality. Your friends should respect that  Yes. They shouldn't put you down for being you. |
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Jun 22 2005, 03:22 AM
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 I wanna be roman Group: Member Posts: 1,844 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 989 |
of they're being pushy about it maybe next time they bug you tell them the problem is that they're being pushy when nothing is wrong
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Jun 22 2005, 11:22 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 785 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 143,525 |
if they have been best friends with you for 5 years then they are just trying to help and be there for you. there is nothing wrong with that but if you don't want to open up to them and they are putting you down then maybe you should get some new friends or just try and open up a little more and tell them how you feel about this.
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Jun 22 2005, 12:50 PM
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 This bitch better work! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,681 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,095 |
TOPIC MOVED TO RELATIONSHIPS
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Jun 22 2005, 12:58 PM
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c[: Group: Member Posts: 2,302 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,876 |
lols..if theres nothing wrong then theres really nothing wrong? lols..i mean if you really wanted them to know wouldnt you tell them already? x__X
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Jun 22 2005, 02:03 PM
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 Oh babyy. :d Group: Member Posts: 616 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,708 |
Just tell them you'll open up eventually and to give you some time.
Tell them it brings you down when they say stuff like that. If they're good friends, they'll stop.. |
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