breaks, not breakups Options

[l_baybeexgrl_l]

what do you all think about "breaks" in a relationship.

do you think its for the good = time apart, then getting back together trying to make it work one more time?
or
it makes things worse = leading to the official breakup?

[MrDolphin]

"If you love something let it go. If it comes back, thats how you know." I dunno, I remember hearing this from somewhere heh.

I think breaks just shows how strong the relationship is. If a person is faithful or is determined to be with that person, the break will result in the person still being with his/her lover.

[biglamchops]

Some ppl don't believe in them. They say that it only leads to the end of the relationship. I beleive that sometimes 2 ppl just need their own space to find themselves and realize what they want. If its meant to be then it'll work out. If not..then let go.

[*mzkandi*]

Taking a break in a relationship may work depending on the relationship. During a break some people realize they are better off without that person, while figure out they cant live withou that person.

[teeners4]

i personally dont believe in them.

[KissMe2408]

Hmm, it really matters what situation ur in. But i never believed in "lets go on a break". In a way it can make things more complicated. But i dunno i never experience a "lets go on a break" before. The ones i've seen my friends go through have always led to breakups. only in very special circumstances did they actually get back together afterwards lol.

[fameONE]

Breaks work. Trust me. Its all in how you approach one, though.

Don't say to your significant other, "I think we should take a break," just so you can hook up with someone you've been lusting for. If thats the case, you two shouldn't be together.

A break is necessary when there is no intention of infidelity and your feeling about your significant other haven't changed.

[vampireduster]

"If you love something let it go. If it comes back, thats how you know." I dunno, I remember hearing this from somewhere heh.

yeah i have heard this so many times. i tell people that when they have a break and they just go back to the person because they can not be away from the person for so long

[cookieskater2]

I personally think it shows a weak relationship when breaks happen.

[Winter]

I think breaks are good sometimes. Everyone needs some alone time to think about their relationship. I've had some breaks with my current boyfriend. When we get back together, it feels great and we treasure each other more.

This relationship has lasted 2 years so I'm guessing the breaks are good.

[_sarcastic_]

it really depends on that person, some may think it's good and that they can't live without them, while others may think that it's better to not have someone holding them down and wants to break up

[Se7eN_x]

well it depends on the status of the relationship..taking a break can result in two ways..one, is realizing that you don't care about someone as much as you thought you did...two, is realizing that you cared more about that someone and you can't live without him/her

[topsyturvy]

"If you love something let it go. If it comes back, thats how you know." I dunno, I remember hearing this from somewhere heh.

Wow, deep..

taking a break can result in two ways..one, is realizing that you don't care about someone as much as you thought you did...two, is realizing that you cared more about that someone and you can't live without him/her

Wooow, even deeper....

[Shattered_Hope]

Taking a break in a relationship may work depending on the relationship. During a break some people realize they are better off without that person, while figure out they cant live withou that person.

I agree, some people end up having a stronger relationship because of a break, where others just end up breaking up with each other.

[*stephinika*]

yeah i really think it depends on the relationship and its strength because yeah, the results just depend on the two people. like others have said it'll either benefit, or not benefit the couple resulting in either a stronger relationship or a breakup.

[CrazayChristian]

Good: It gives eachother alone time that might be needed.


Bad: If it's needed, your probably not in th ebest relation ship.

Breaks just foreshadow total break ups/ bad relationships. Red flags go up when someone says "I need a break" it usually means they can't handle this relationship but something is nagging at them to stay in it so they'll take a "break". The problem is that this isn't a good long term sign.

Of course if your just that way and want a short term person that's just kind of there and stuff. By all means, take breaks as much as you want.

[mouse_3k]

Breaks usually lead to Breakups NE wayz...A break is a breakup

[dahding]

in my mind, breaks = delaying the inevitable. i think they're somewhat pointless and it just drags out everything. if ur not happy with each other, break up. don't just say, "lets take a break and wait until we're both attracted to each other again." that's basically what's happening. u lose interest, u regain interest, and repeat. BLAH.

[cookieskater2]

Ha, a break for me is when she goes home or spends the day at a friends house =P

[whywasisostupid]

i dont personnaly like breaks.
cuz i still feel somewhat attached to the person while they go on and flirt nonstop.

[kill me please]

to me, they mess up a realationship. it seems like it just goes down form there

[Rachel]

breaks are for couples who want to break up but neither of them have the balls to do it.

[*AngelicEyz00*]

They basically are break ups.

[me1issaaaa]

I'm on a "break". I don't call it a break, but he does. We're not seeing other people, we're still together, we still hang out and talk on a regular basis, still say we love each other, still do everything like before. I think it's stupid, but whatever.

[Ington]

Breaks are a way of saying "I don't want to be with you, but just in case I don't find something better, I'm going to use you as a backup plan."

Breaks = break-ups. They don't lead to break-ups, to me, they are break-ups.
I've never been on one. If someone wanted to go on a break, I'd make them pick between staying with me or leaving me.

Breaks are for the weak-minded.

[*My Cinderella.*]

I say they can go both ways. It depends on what the two want for each other. If in that time they realize how much they miss each other and enjoyed each other's company, then the break will strengthen the relationship. But if they're apart and they realize that they want to explore new things, then they will proceed from the time off and make it official.

[NgocQuyen]

i think breaks are breakups. i don't know i just doing see a couple breaking up and then like getting back together and being so merry you know?

[SimplicityGirl]

To me, breaks are testing the waters for a break up. It doesn't mean that a break up WILL happen after a break, but it just seems like a dress rehersal for one to me.

I don't do breaks. Either we're together or we're not. None of this messy breaks business. Breaks can get quite messy...you're technically "single" but are still "together" with someone else. Can you flirt? Can you date others? Are you okie with your bf/gf dating someone else while being with you?

Most couples that I've seen that went on breaks usually end up breaking up.
I suppose breaks can be good thing...but to me, it's just too iffy to play around with.

[alysaphobia]

To me, breaks are testing the waters for a break up. It doesn't mean that a break up WILL happen after a break, but it just seems like a dress rehersal for one to me.

I don't do breaks. Either we're together or we're not. None of this messy breaks business. Breaks can get quite messy...you're technically "single" but are still "together" with someone else. Can you flirt? Can you date others? Are you okie with your bf/gf dating someone else while being with you?

Most couples that I've seen that went on breaks usually end up breaking up.
I suppose breaks can be good thing...but to me, it's just too iffy to play around with.

i couldn't have said it better.

the times i've been on breaks, it's always led to break-ups.

[*Duchess of Dork*]

I've been on exactly one "break" sceanrio. To say it ended after that, is a gross understatement. My friends joked around and tossed the old Ross from Friends "But we were on a BREAK!" quote. They did this because of course, because he slept with another woman before getting back together with me and I ultimately found out because, well, he had to tell me. (Baby makes three, anyone? )

By the way, @SimplicityGirl - I really like the way you post. :)

[*Monochrome.*]

Breaks to me are "cheaters insurance."
It gives you and your other rights to do whatever they want and then when they feel that they want to get back together if they ever do.Drama always happens because then someone is always going to get mad that either you made out wirh some other guy or he slept with some other girl,And then other people get invloved and other peoples feelings get hurt.It sucks.

Its a mess and my rule is that you either want me forever or you want me never.Im not some backup when you get tired of the single life.

[*Intercourse.*]

The thing with breaks is they can be taken as good or bad.

The good, it gives the two people a break to have some "me-time." Which can bring them back to each other the same way they were in the first place because everyone needs a break once in a while.

The bad, it can end in a break up. I've seen plenty of relationships go sour after a break. I suppose its understandable when being on a break with someone for a extended amount of time and the other persons eyes start to wonder and they may find another interest other than you. I guess then you really have to accept it and move on as well. Also some people figure out that their not cut out for a relationship or the time of commitment the other person wanted out of the relationship.


Also it matters how both people look at the break, and what breaks mean. I think a lot of people really should discuss this issue before accepting a break. A lot of people may see breaks as almost a time when their completely free and they can do anything like they could when they were single. And others view it as just a time away from their partner when they don't talk and get their heads cleared out.

[xhidethedetails]

I personally dont like breaks at all.
My ex boyfriend said he needed a brake and ended up telling me a couple days later that we were never getting back together..

[ifonlyyouknew]

Depends.