dealing with single-ness, ..when all ur friends hav a bf/gf Options

[Eternally_L0st]

i dunno why but lately i've been feeling realli awkward about being around couples.

like today, i went to great america with my friends. n it ended up as 7 of us going. 4 girls n 3 guys. n those 3 guys n 3 grls r couples. so me, being the 4th grl, was alone. n it felt realli bad. esp when one couple kept making out every chance they get, even if it was a foot away from my face! i wanted to yell, get an effin' room! today was supposed to be a good day. one of my friends (that was there) is graduating n this is one of the last chances we'll get to hang out. so i tried to be happy, but i couldnt even ACT happy. i was just upset n i felt.. empty?

im tired of being single. n i dunno how to deal with it. help?

[topsyturvy]

I know how you feel. That was me two months ago.

Well.. the only way to solve your problem is.. get a bf.

But really, boyfriends come naturally. You can't expect to order one. Are there any guys you're interested in lately? Maybe you should try going to them instead of waiting for them to come to you.

Sorry about the crappy advice. Hope everything works out

P.S. WHAT'S WRONG WITH BEING SINGLE? No girl needs a boy to be truly happy, right?!

[EmmalieV]

Take it slow , youll find the one for you at the moment in your life when its meant to be. Let your girls know you just wwant a girls night out , so you wont feel left out. Or tell them to introduce you to a guy friend that you can get to know better.

[Loserwithstyle]

Don't feel pressured by people that have a boyfriend, and I know you feel lonely cause it seems like everyone around you has one. You're not the only girl who is going through that, just wait for the right guy (even if you think it's going to take all eternity, one WILL come around)

[inthemudhole]

Yeah, I know what you're saying. I felt like that all year up until about May or so, which is basically all of the school year.
My friends were especially rude about it too. They would always ditch me for their boyfriends and they wouldn't even take the time to say 'hello' to me. We've now all grown apart and I only have one or two friends now.

My best advice is to talk to them about how you truly feel, but don't do it online or anything like that.
I tried that and it didn't personally work for me, but it certainly could work for you. Good luck. I hope everything works out.

[Se7eN_x]

I've been there like a few months ago. I'm still single, but it's ok. There are a lot more things more important than having a bf. Take it slow and try not to seem desperate..the right one will come along.

[*AngelicEyz00*]

Yes. I'd always feel like the third wheel with my friend and her bf =\ but now i got a man

SEX

[fameONE]

I love it, yet I hate it.

Fresh out of a 2 year relationship that was poisoned with her infidelities, I actually feel free.

Yet, I miss the initmacy and attention of a relationship and sometimes, to myself, i tend to harp on it.

Then I go to work (Hollister) and I'll get 4 or 5 phone numbers. When my friends go out with their gfs/bfs, I'll just invite someone I just met in an effort to get to know her.

Go ahead, have fun. Ladies is pimps too.

[*mzkandi*]

I know the feeling but you know what, the waiting on a good man to come along just makes you appreciate him more.

[xlaydee_v]

im single too and sometimes i feel like that. the only real way to end that feeling is by getting a boyfriend

[ichigofan]

being single is fun just be more open go out all summer meet new people hang out with bigger crowds and with people that are different from you go to parties and youll meet tons of guys and hey being in a relationship isnt always fun just casually date different guys until you find someone you enjoy being with.. Dont stress over it I love being single its fun when you take initiative =DDDDDDDDDDDDD

[lickthepavement]

yea it sucks being the only single person surrounded by couples. i always feel like im in the way

[Eternally_L0st]

thnx for the advice, you guyz. or grls. =)

[timeflies51]

Yeah, at my camp a lot of people talk about making-out and such, while I have never done so, and that gets annoying.

Just wait - your time will come. And yeah, talk to them about it. If you're gonna go on fun trips like that ask your friends not to come with their boyfriends, especially if they're gonna be all over each other...

[shawty_redd]

just wait on the right guy
but a guy doesn't mean that ur gonna be happy

[Chii]

don't get a boyfriend just to have one please don't, you'll only end up using him and it's never nice to find out that someone only dated you to just simply fit in

your time will come sweets, just tell your friends that it bothers you when you're with them, or bring another friend when you're with them so you won't feel so lonely.

you can always have a weekly girls' night out

[vietluvlygirl]

Girl, you don't know need any help! Don't force yourself to find a guy, not all of them are going to make you happy. Just because your friends have boyfriends just tell them how you feel about them kissing near you. If that dont work, next time for a group gathering invite one of your guy friend to go with you. Choose wisely though, pick a guy that you know you will have a blast with. Don't invite a guy who likes you but you don't like him, cause your giving him hints that you kinda like him. For me, when I was single after a break up with a boyfriend I hate seeing couples together. Til this day I just hate the fact of seeing them kiss and all up on each other. There is a room to do all that...

[Eternally_L0st]

don't get a boyfriend just to have one please don't, you'll only end up using him and it's never nice to find out that someone only dated you to just simply fit in

yea.. i know. thats why im still single cuz i dont wanna ask anyone out when i dont even like them just cuz my friends r bothering the hell outta me...

[technicolour]

Be busy in something..work out...school...etc.etc..computer whaever! that's what i do..until my friends IM me talking about their bf

QUOTE(chii @ Jun 13 2005, 6:26 PM)
don't get a boyfriend just to have one

dont dont dont dont dont dont do that.

[iheartsimba]

I know exactly what you mean...try to invite a crush or some cute single guys to come along! (More than one cute single guy)....then you have your options!

Either talk to them about how left out you are feeling, or it's time to go boyfriend searching

[xMiZziexKiMx]

awww.... i know what you mean..... i'm pretty sick of being single too.... when like everyone around has a bf/gf..... =[ i rly have no idea how to deal with it....

[jue]

thats mee (:
half of my friends have are going out with someone. and im not. i dont think im ever going to go out with someone till highschool.

[[x]Mari[x]]

Don't rush things... it just leads to mistakes.

So, let's see...

1.) If you like someone, hang out with them more. Maybe they like you back, or maybe with a little more time and bonding, they could.

2.) Also, look at your current guy friends. You never know if any of them have a secret crush on you.

3.) If you don't like someone, go out and make some new guy friends. Maybe one of them will be the right guy.

But remember: No rushing.

[miss barnes]

girl i feel ya soo much on that. my one friend would go the movies with me..then while we're there call her ugly ass boyfriend. i'd be soo mad. she would use to so her parents would think that i was there then ask him to go. she did that 2x. no more though

[megan_x3]

its not always to be with someone. although you can share your feelings and all with your bf, but you will have tons of other things to worry about. maybe one day, you will have a bf , just don't rush it !! if u rush to get a boyfriend and ended up hurting his feelings by using him, things will turn out really nasty.

[DizzyDucky09]

thts the same with me!! Everyone i see has a bf/gf and im juss like... yea it makes me sad so i feel ya

[literemix24]

Either talk to your friends and plan a get together, or get a bf. OR You can hang out w/ your single friends. lol

[muffingirlsays]

I used to feel like that.

Solution number ONE: Get a boyfriend But you shouldn't rush or let anyone (especially yourself) pressure youself to get one.

Solution number TWO: DO SOMETHING. This is the solution I used to get those feelings/thoughts out of my head. Join after-school clubs, if you have a pet, spend more time with it, get a hobby, or do what I'm doing: Go on a fiction site and write stories xD

[yOUCANtSEEmE]

i totally know how you feel. i mean im all for being independent (i mean i broke up with previous boyfriends because i wanted to be more independent) and not needing a boyfriend to be happy but there are those times when you just need the feeling of being "in love" or "in like"... i actually feel that way right now. whenever i hang out with my best friend her boyfriend comes around. dont get me wrong im totally cool with her boyfriend. were all 3 like great friends. he is bomb and im so happy she found a good boyfriend this time but when they start getting all lovey dovey i just get sort of sad and uncomfortable.
there is one guy ive had my eye on. he is friends with my best friends boyfriend and sort of with my best friend too. he actually said he really wants to hang out with me and my best friend and her boyfriend but theres one problem. i tend to go for the bad guys... hes one. id be trying to make plans with him right now but hes grounded for quite a while too (well it was quite a while i think its almost over). i dont know exactly when he gets ungrounded so i have to wait for him to call me but im so impatient.

so no solution really works for me.

[funky_munky]

I kinda understand how you feel...
All the girls in my group of friends has been asked out before or has had a boyfriend before except for me. I'm nearly 18 and I still have never been asked out before.... I used to feel like a complete loser and that there was something wrong with me but I guess the way I got over these feelings is by talking to my friends.
Let them know how you feel and I'm sure they will understand! It really helps too.
Just don't go get a boyfriend becuase you need one... don't rush yourself!

Sorry... I'm good at giving advice... sorry if it doesn't make sense

[Boyfriendless]

OH MY GOD! WELCOME TO MY LIFE!
all my friends have had like 10 millin bfs, Iv never actually gone out or anything!

[redpeony]

You shouldn't have gone:p

Or bring along another single friend to accompany you

You seem pretty young as well...
focus on developing yourself as a person first and foremost... and when you've developed enough, a boyfriend will show up ;)

[Mith]

Like other people said, talk to your friends if its really bothering you. They invite you along because they want to hang out with all their friends, their boyfriends and you too, and probably don't realize how they are hurting you. Remember that it makes it hard on them if they have to split up their time between boy friend time and girl friend time, and they can't hang out with everyone together. But tell them that it bothers you when they are kissing all the time around you. They should have time alone to do that.

To help with boredom/lonliness, go out and do things related to your interests. Conventions, seminars, clubs, teams, lectures even, hang out in places you like and meet some new people and just go out to meet new friends. You never know, you might even find someone while your enjoying your favourite things to do. Definately though, don't focus on finding that perfect someone - you won't know until you've talked to them and become friends anyways. So go out, relax and enjoy the opportunity to meet new people.

[vampireduster]

i hated that feeling with a passion. it sucked so bad for me
it seemed like all my friends had boyfriends and i didnt. i made a promise to my friends if i have a boyfriend and they dont i will hang out with them alot so they wont feel lonely. we try to go guy hunting

[xoStephie93]

the answers easy: get a boyfriend. but dont get me wrong, don't rush into a relationship just because everyone else has a boyfriend and you dont. then you'd be lying to the person who really does like you...that'd be mean. just take ur time with things...cuz sooner or later, you will have a boyfriend.

[lilliannnn]

I'm ALWAYS a 3rd wheel with my friends, I hate it. I know how you feel though.

[kill me please]

yup i know how that feels... it sucks more when everyone says something about it. dont ya just wish it would all go away. the thing is, when i like a guy then if i cant get him then id rather have no one... thats my problem

[angelshortipnai]

ahhhhhhh i know EXACTLY how u feel! man 4 damn couples got together in our school in ONE DAY. yes, ALL IN ONE DAY. o.o they always hug and kiss and all that stuff while i'm like standing there <_< then MORE couples got together later on -_-" i just try to act normal as i can...and umm, not to hangout wit em as much, 'cause if i did, i'll get jealous everytime