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 Jun 7 2005, 12:11 PM
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Senior Member  Group: Validating Posts: 60 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 134,567  |
Well, my best friend, she's suicidal. Last year her arms were always cut up though she tried to hide it. Lately shes been talking of how funny death was and how there was nothing to live for. She can be a really nice, normal person but it's just been weird lately.
Recently she checked into a hospital. All she said was that she did something and she was sorry. She said that if she could have visitors, though she doubted it, I could come. She didn't want me to tell anyone. I'm really worried. I think she well, tried to kill herself. I don't know what to do and I'm really concerned.... Advice? |
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Jun 7 2005, 01:27 PM
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 blah Group: Member Posts: 209 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 92,663 |
wow. that situation sucks. i would try and visit her, and comfort her, and just be a firend to her, because it looks like she needs support and love because she is going through a tough time.
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Jun 7 2005, 01:36 PM
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 show me a garden thats bursting to life Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,303 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,987 |
just be a friend. be there. and help her in any way you can
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Jun 7 2005, 02:01 PM
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 unique Group: Member Posts: 520 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 140,137 |
heh...i knew someone like that. it seems she doesn't feel loved or needed. you need to let her know you care, and show that you care. tell her there are things worth living for, she's young and she has her whole life ahead of her. always try to be there for her. try to talk to her why she feels the way she does, but don't force her. just let her know your always there to listen and if she needs a shoulder to cry on, your there.
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Jun 7 2005, 02:09 PM
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 livin up to the name. Group: Member Posts: 1,594 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,539 |
Id visit her.
No matter what the hospital says. Comfort her. And make sure she knows how much you care forher. And how much she has to live for, because it all gets better sooner or later. |
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Jun 7 2005, 02:18 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 8 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 149,711 |
u should just be there for her
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Jun 7 2005, 02:50 PM
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 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
visit her..even if she doesnt want anyone or even if the hospital says u cant...be there for her..let her know that u care about her...
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Jun 7 2005, 02:52 PM
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 xxtaintedlips Group: Member Posts: 286 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,998 |
do every thing you can for her tell her you love her and if she needs anything that you would do it for her
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Jun 7 2005, 02:56 PM
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 Bonjour Group: Member Posts: 278 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,449 |
Yeah just be there for her. She needs the people who care about her to tell her they care.She should be getting some extra help like counsoling too for depression, if she isn't already
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Jun 7 2005, 03:03 PM
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 the best part of believe is the lie Group: Member Posts: 140 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 149,327 |
my friend was suicidal and he said that he would sit in bed and think, If I killed myself i bet my parents would appreciate me then. and that he would think about his funeral and see all the people that cared for him at the funeral crying and wanting him back, and he wanted that to happen. But then he realized that why he was having these suicidal thoughts was just because he wanted someone to always be there and care for him. So he decided he didnt need to die and he became really religious. I know that im pointing out the obvious, but what I'm trying to saw is that you need to always be there for them and let them now that they have someone who cares about them and that if they die they will be missed and that they are loved.
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Jun 7 2005, 04:14 PM
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 The Texan Group: Member Posts: 430 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 136,431 |
I've been there done that. Doing it again.
As long as her parents know then your good. You can call certain anomynous hotlines that will get professionals on the Job. Be there for her, but take action. |
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Jun 7 2005, 04:39 PM
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 jiyOunnn~ Group: Member Posts: 692 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 109,706 |
QUOTE(BBY_UNiQUE @ Jun 7 2005, 2:01 PM) heh...i knew someone like that. it seems she doesn't feel loved or needed. you need to let her know you care, and show that you care. tell her there are things worth living for, she's young and she has her whole life ahead of her. always try to be there for her. try to talk to her why she feels the way she does, but don't force her. just let her know your always there to listen and if she needs a shoulder to cry on, your there.  i agree |
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Jun 7 2005, 07:47 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
where are her parents?
 and yea as everyone else says go visit her, and maybe bring along more friends, to let her know she has support and love and everything, and that life IS worth living for... etc.
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Jun 7 2005, 10:16 PM
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Senior Member Group: Validating Posts: 60 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 134,567 |
I'm going to try to visit her tomorrow.
Her parents are divorced so she doesn't really have them. |
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Jun 7 2005, 10:59 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
people do that sometimes because they just want someone to pay attention to them, just like you said her parents are divorced so she doesn't really see the often maybe that's why she's suicidal cause she feels neglected.
just be by her side, and be there when she needs you for the time being |
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Jun 7 2005, 11:01 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 195 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 131,007 |
There sure are a lot of suicide threads these days.
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Jun 10 2005, 10:36 AM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
I would be worried too in a situation like this...but the only thing you can do is just be positive about living and try to convince her that she has alot to live for. If she's at the hospital and they allow visitors, then come and visit her and try to be there for her every step of the way.
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