did i do the right thing...?, broke up my friendship with my friend |
 Jun 6 2005, 07:56 AM
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 i luv kyle  Group: Member Posts: 64 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,135  |
My friends name is Raquel. I haven't really liked her for the longest time since she would treat me like crap. But she calls me her best friend.
Everytime on the phone, if I tell a story or a joke, she acts like she didn't hear it - but I know she did. Now...If she tells me a story or a joke, I make sure to laugh or talk about it. I don't like to leave my friends hanging, even if they don't help me with my situations. Raquel came over on Thursday. First of all, she always wanted to go on my computer! ALWAYS! Even when I was cooking food for us, she said "I'm going on the computer." I looked at her weirdly, but she couldn't take a hint that I didn't want her to go online. When I'm at her house, I never leave her, because I'm the GUEST. Nextly - I told Raquel my mom started smoking again. But I wanted Raquel to support me. She did support me until she arrived on Thurday. She would make comments like "Ew. It smells like smoke out here. Nasty." I couldn't say anything, because although I HATE smoke too, she made me feel like my mom was a bad person. And my mom isn't. Raquel said at the sleep over "Gross. My stuffed animal smells like smoke!". Raquel sent me a survey and on the one of the questions, it said "Favorite Smells" and guess what she wrote..."Stuffed Animals, unless they are ruined by the smell of smoke". It was like she couldn't stop talking about it. She also helped herself to my food. Even if I didn't say she could. It happened to be the week that my mom had little money to pay for food, because she didn't get her child support check. Now, Raquel ate ALL my little brothers snacks for summer school. Raquel didn't ask to eat the food, she just did. When I'm at her house, I always wait for her mom to say that she is making something to eat. I never ask. It bugged me that she made fun of my sister. My sister recently graduated and we had her graduation pictures on the table. Raquel said "Wow, she looks REALLY weird." I'm really close to my sister and that hurt my feelings. Last thing. She always would brag about her great drawling, modeling, and singing talents. I'm happy for her, but she drags it on, like she is trying to put me down. I have heard her sing...and I honestly think I sing better. Although I complement her. She has heard me sing a few times, and she NEVER says anything nice, even though she thinks she is perfect. I'm also happy she is a model but she is always saying "I'm sexy" "I'm so skinny" and all that crap. It makes me feel insecure. I have seen her drawlings and said they were nice, but when she sees my drawlings she says nothing. It hurts because she insists her drawlings are better. I wrote her an email about all of this, and I ended the relationship. Based on the info above, do you think I was right to do that? |
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Jun 6 2005, 08:07 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 4,882 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,064 |
WOAH.. Someone needed a reality check!!!!!
You totally did the right thing. And I applaud you for saying something.. most people in your situation would let it go. She seems a little to stuck on herself. If you two are still friends however and she keeps it up, trying doing the same to her. Give her a taste of her own medicine. Next time you hear her sing try saying something like "ehh.. I've heard better". Just so she gets the feel of how you feel. In my opinion, she's not even worth trying to keep a friendship for.. seems like the only person she truly likes is herself. Don't be fooled.. that's not a friend. Nobody deserves to be around that all the time. |
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Jun 6 2005, 08:22 AM
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 livin up to the name. Group: Member Posts: 1,594 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,539 |
Wow.
Thats crazy. You needed to do something! And I definitely think you did the right thing! I was in a asituation kinda like this But a little different. And I told the girl I didnt want to be friends with her. And she wrote me a letter saying "Im glad we still have a friendship, im always here for you" So I hope this girl Raquel can get it thru her head, unlike some people. |
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Jun 6 2005, 09:31 AM
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i luv kyle Group: Member Posts: 64 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,135 |
Lol. Thank you for you comments. I REALLY needed that! Now I feel better about the situation. Thanks again!
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Jun 6 2005, 09:57 AM
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 Like i care. ♥ Group: Member Posts: 780 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 124,706 |
You did the right thing.. damn she is RUDE!!! totally not worth the effort!
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Jun 6 2005, 06:24 PM
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 *scribble scribble* Group: Member Posts: 1,314 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 119,610 |
you did the right thing. she is rude and doesnt/sisnt care at all about your feelings or how you felt. from what im reading, i think she was using you.
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Jun 6 2005, 06:29 PM
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You did the right thing definately, it looks like this girl used you as one of her posy gang =\ don't regret it! She wasn't worth your time. You'll know a best friend when you see one, and I know that that isn't the qualities of a good friend.
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Jun 6 2005, 06:35 PM
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WOAHH; if i ere in your shoes. i wouldnt even have waited this long. I would've gone face to face with her and be like " DUDEE; this thingg is overr!"
what kind of friends is she. she cant take a hint that yu had enough of her attitude. She cant see that yu realy need her by your side when you feeling down and all that other stuff. Dudee; no offense or anything but whats up with her? and i totally thing you did the right thing. TOTALLY. |
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Jun 8 2005, 11:00 AM
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 My weakness is that I care too much. Also that I love you with a Group: Member Posts: 55 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,426 |
I think you did the right thing. Although...you probably should have done something sooner but dun worry I'm almost like you with not wanting to say anything at first, but then eventually saying someone.
~*~*~DeCePT10N -ess~*~*~ |
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Jun 8 2005, 11:27 AM
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c[: Group: Member Posts: 2,302 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,876 |
ehh wtfers...im very astounded to see that you actually wrote her and told her about it and ended it like that...lols..i mean you did the mature thing about it i guess....me?? i would have never done that..sorry but you dont diss my mom and my family and get away with it...i dont care who you are...i would have talked to her face to face..not by email....so she wont think you're afraid to confront her....but that's only me...so then...if she gets any ideas of dissing me or my family then i would deck her right then and there...grr...that ticks me off...x___x i dislike people like her...hahaha...but yea...you did the right thing...bravo! a friend doesnt treat a friend like dirt....
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Jun 8 2005, 01:06 PM
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 Call me Lauren d=] Group: Member Posts: 278 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 113,118 |
Omg. That friend is such a b*tch.. You did the right thing by endign the friendship.
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Jun 8 2005, 01:12 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,799 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,450 |
You did the wrong thing!
Just kidding. Just wanted to be diff from everyone else. Wow your friend is just guhh |
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Jun 8 2005, 03:20 PM
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s w e e t e s t Group: Member Posts: 808 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 46,149 |
Sorry, but your friend Raquel is really messed up. First, she should've never said shit to you like that. Your friend is really gay for the point where i see. She is trying to make you feel bad about yourself, thats all i can say. shes mean ass and should be punished. you should end the friendship with her or else, you can regret that you didn't. More time you pass by, the more harder is to let go if it. Don't regret what you've done. You did the right hting !
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Jun 8 2005, 06:09 PM
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 jiyOunnn~ Group: Member Posts: 692 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 109,706 |
truth is, your friend is inconsiderant, bitchy, etc. she has no clue. and she needs a reality check. ughhhhhh AHHHHHHHH if i were you i would beat the crap out of her.
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Jun 8 2005, 06:36 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 122 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 148,214 |
Yes. Gosh Your friend's a looser. Poo on her. Anyways.. Yeah, that was the right thing. Or other than that, i'd rather do it in front of her face.
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Jun 8 2005, 06:53 PM
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haha why did you even hang out with her anyways?
yes you did the right thing. honestly that girl needs to be broke. she is so self ceentered. good job, your a good person  laaater! 
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Jun 8 2005, 07:51 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 515 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 55,039 |
whoa..what a friend! pfftt!
 i think u totally did the right thing =D its what i would have done anyway  you should feel happy cause you don't have the extra load on your back anymore 
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Jun 9 2005, 05:59 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
I honestly think you did the right thing, in truth, that is not how a best friend much less a friend acts. I think it's great that you wrote her an email telling her all this and if you did end the friendship then good for you....you deserve better. She is rude, insensitive, and thinks the world revolves around her. She called your sister "weird", she kept on "dissing" your mother, and she ate all of your brothers' snacks for summer school, besides that, I don't think she even knows the meaning of guest....what a....I've never seen any friend like that at all.
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Jun 9 2005, 06:09 PM
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 My desperate heart is far too weak to run for you this long. Group: Member Posts: 640 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 150,342 |
you really did the right thing. i mean i wouldnt consider her a friend if you wanted to talk to her about the things that she does to make you feel bad and she just decides not to be your friend anymore. i would think a good friend would try to improve on it if she hurt you. good for you.
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Jun 9 2005, 06:32 PM
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 *.'.'._gillie_.'.'.* Group: Member Posts: 563 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 101,217 |
i think u did the right thing..ive had friends like that..and i usually end the friendship like u or jus stop hangin out with them as much..ppl like that annoy the hell out of me
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Jun 9 2005, 07:38 PM
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 My name's Katt. Nice to meet you! Group: Member Posts: 3,826 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,674 |
This has happened to me before. I just ignored her and if she ever talked to me, I'd just disagree with everything she said. It took her almost a year before she got the hint. Consider yourself lucky. I made the wrong choice because I wasn't even strong enough to tell her that I wanted to end the relationship. I'm hanging out with different people now and it's better. Don't force yourself into doing something you don't want to do. Telling her what you really thought was the most mature thing you could've done so I really think you made the right choice.
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Jun 9 2005, 08:05 PM
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 Unlock the Darkness Group: Member Posts: 305 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,967 |
One Word...
PWN3D!!!!!! Stick girl needed a reality check lol |
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