my dad, is it like this for you? |
 May 31 2005, 11:58 PM
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 livin up to the name.  Group: Member Posts: 1,594 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,539  |
ah, I know there's loads of topics on this already,
but my dad, he drives me crazy, i think he does it on purpose. And he doesnt knwo a thing about me that even people that really dont know me at all know. And he gets angry so easily at the stupidest things. &Yanno when people will constantly ask the same question, he does that. Its to a point where I want to leave my house. But my mom is great and we get along perfectly. She says i need to just suck it up and deal with it. but i cant. i get annoyed very easily and hes just one of those people that annoys me. he lies to my mom about stuff too. not major, but its to make me seem like i did it terribly when really he was the bad guy. Eh, I just need some advice on what to do. Because i really cant take it. kthnx<3 |
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Jun 1 2005, 02:40 PM
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I love you <33333 Group: Member Posts: 2,928 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,404 |
Maybe you & your parents should just sit & talk about your problems....I know it sounds cheesey, but it might help.
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Jun 1 2005, 04:57 PM
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livin up to the name. Group: Member Posts: 1,594 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,539 |
I cant sit and talk with my dad. All he does it yell :/
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Jun 1 2005, 05:01 PM
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 blah Group: Member Posts: 209 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 92,663 |
i dont get along with my dad at all...
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Jun 1 2005, 06:06 PM
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if he yells, tell him you really need to talk to him
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Jun 1 2005, 07:04 PM
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my dad is a typical dad but worse. since i don't live with him i works double time when i see him o piss me off *sigh*
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Jun 1 2005, 07:24 PM
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livin up to the name. Group: Member Posts: 1,594 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,539 |
^I dont know :/
But it's just weird, all my friends get along with their dads just fine. |
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Jun 1 2005, 07:31 PM
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 :) Group: Member Posts: 1,234 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 146,496 |
my dad is the exact same way. i mean, theres times when he can be a great person.. but whats even worse is my parents are getting a divorce. it's extra hard, because since i'm only 14 i still have to choose which one i want to live with. in ways i want to choose my mom, because i need her for a lot of stuff & we get along better than i do with my dad.. but then i need my dad for a lot of stuff & i just don't know what to do anymore. it gets me in such a bad mood & i just can't handle it anymore.
i get where i just want to leave .. because i see my friends lives and they live like soo happily.. and then i look at my family & wonder what went wrong & why it's like how it is. i know it may be hard to do.. because i don't think i would have the strength to tell my dad how i really feel.. but try talking to him. just tell him how you feel.. or you can maybe write him an e-mail to his work e-mail address if he has one? i know that when i have a different opinion to his opinion, he'll try and get me to change my mind. like seriosuly.. if i don't he'll start yelling. another thing is.. since him and my mother aren't going to be together much longer.. he constantly talks bad about her side of the family. i mean.. it's my mom and my family too.. i just wish he would stop and just listen to me for a second and see if from my point of view and stop being so selfish.. .. wow.. that felt soo good to get out! 
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Jun 1 2005, 09:25 PM
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Here's what you should do the next time that happens, take a deep breath and gather `round your family for a discussion. First tell everyone that everyone must have their say, but cannot interrupt. So whoever starts off has their say. Then after their done speaking you say anything that you disagree with. For example, if your father speaks first. "So and So, has been coming home from school late EVERYDAY! You know what (Mom's name here) I'm sick of this ^&*%&!" Eh you know where it's going. So if that's not true, then tell him why you come home late everyday. Show him the evidence. ^^ And if there's any problems your mom should back you up!
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Jun 1 2005, 09:52 PM
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 insanitys contagious. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,210 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 99,707 |
QUOTE &Yanno when people will constantly ask the same question, he does that. My dad does that. Emily , are you ready yet? " Almost Dad " Emily , tu ta lista? " Casi , Casi " Emily hes here ( my driver ) , get out of your room! "Ok" Emily come here , hes here get out of your room! "OK WAIT!" Emily, What are you doing get out here! " DAD STOP REPEATING IT OVER AND OVER Emily Get out here now " AHHHHHH! " Emily! " ..." Emily! "..." |
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Jun 1 2005, 10:10 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
Well....I was going to say....just have a conversation with him about the way he's acting....but nevermind that now....why don't you just yell? Or...be really loud or just act indifferent about everything?? Maybe then, he'll be the one that wants to have a talk...and then you can tell him anything you want to.
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Jun 1 2005, 10:32 PM
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QUOTE(lost [child] @ May 31 2005, 9:58 PM) ah, I know there's loads of topics on this already,
but my dad, he drives me crazy, i think he does it on purpose. And he doesnt knwo a thing about me that even people that really dont know me at all know. And he gets angry so easily at the stupidest things. &Yanno when people will constantly ask the same question, he does that. Its to a point where I want to leave my house. But my mom is great and we get along perfectly. She says i need to just suck it up and deal with it. but i cant. i get annoyed very easily and hes just one of those people that annoys me. he lies to my mom about stuff too. not major, but its to make me seem like i did it terribly when really he was the bad guy. Eh, I just need some advice on what to do. Because i really cant take it. kthnx<3  Thats like the exact same thing with me except its not my dad its my mom... sometimes shes such a pain that I just want to leave the house.... man I can't wait til im able to be independent, get a scholarship to a school far away, or able to make enough money to just move out....sigh....  |
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Jun 1 2005, 11:58 PM
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livin up to the name. Group: Member Posts: 1,594 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,539 |
Haha. maybe I didnt mention this.
but when he repeats stuff, Ill raise my voice to him and well both gradally get louder. Till im screaming. and then he throws a fit. then he tells my mom about it and she always takes his side "well you probly yelled first" but when i have friends over, they even notice he yells first. but theyre scared to tell my mom. ugh. this suckss |
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Jun 2 2005, 12:02 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 785 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 143,525 |
"Thats like the exact same thing with me except its not my dad its my mom... sometimes shes such a pain that I just want to leave the house.... man I can't wait til im able to be independent, get a scholarship to a school far away, or able to make enough money to just move out....sigh...."
that is how it is EXACTLY with me. me and my dad get along so good together it's scary. but me and my mom...don't get me started on that. it's up to the point where i want to run away...i was so upset and just can't take it anymore that last night i had a blackout and was passed out on the floor the whole night. seriously |
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Jun 2 2005, 03:15 AM
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hey.. i know how u feel.. my dad is lyk that... too i feel sorry for my mom kuz lyk she doesnt do anything rong to him... and lyk she wants to get a divorce (she says)when they fight... but lyk my dad can be such a good person... and lyk idk whoz side to go to.... and lyk my dad constantly yells..but like he realizes that hes rong....but its lyk later... and yeah...i know exactly how u feel...
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Jun 2 2005, 04:44 AM
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 boo Group: Member Posts: 5,512 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 71,765 |
Since talking won't help, you can write him your feelings on paper and put it on his desk or something.
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Jun 2 2005, 04:45 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
no, my dad's really cool. samiera's idea is cool. you should try it.
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Jun 12 2005, 02:17 PM
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 JULiiANA FAYE. Group: Member Posts: 460 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 122,749 |
this happens to me too.
 my dad lies to my mom about money and then when he gets caught she gets a in BIG argument like my dads like can i have $40? when he all ready has like $50 in his pocket and now she says like do you have any and then he says "NO" and i'm like wth?! Some times when i go to bed i hear my dad and mom argue over the most stupidest thing...... i probably know exactly how you feel but all i can say is what samiera said... but what i do is talk to him about it when your taking a long drive with only your dad and you then tell him how you feel... remember the longer you wait the harder it is to tell him or mention it.. 
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Jun 12 2005, 05:46 PM
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 i <3 peter Group: Member Posts: 350 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 147,825 |
The EXACT same thing went on with me. And what does it lead to...? Abuse, basically.
Talk to your mom, tell her EXACTLY what you think. Even if it doesn't seem like it could happen, yelling and a bad relationship with parents leads to some sort of problem, whether it be any sort of abuse, depression, or hate. (Which all is kinda connected at any rate,,,) |
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Jun 12 2005, 08:21 PM
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 Hah! Its funny cause its true... Group: Member Posts: 640 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 89,954 |
QUOTE(lost [child) ,Jun 1 2005, 12:58 AM]ah, I know there's loads of topics on this already, but my dad, he drives me crazy, i think he does it on purpose. And he doesnt knwo a thing about me that even people that really dont know me at all know. And he gets angry so easily at the stupidest things. &Yanno when people will constantly ask the same question, he does that. Oh my god my dad does all that too! He started like yelling at my soccer game it was so embarassing. He didn't even know I wrote with my left hand until last thanksgiving! just remember there are tons of dads out there that actually abuse their children. you're lucky he doesn't abuse you. You gotta talk to your mom about this. No other option. |
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Jun 12 2005, 11:33 PM
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maybe you could have a family meeting and discuss it or something. i know how you feel, for some reason my dad totally reminds me of a gorilla. haha
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Jun 12 2005, 11:35 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 122 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 148,214 |
Tell him how you feel. The next time he does, ask him why he does that.
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Jun 12 2005, 11:46 PM
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 Julian's the Sex. Group: Member Posts: 22 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 88,260 |
My dad's not that bad with me, but he's really harsh on my older brother, Aaron [17]. It's like nothing Aaron ever does is right, even though he does tons of amazing things. And he's a really good guy too, but it's like the only thing my dad ever pays attention to is the little mistakes Aaron makes, and then he blows them way out of proportion. And my mom does the same taking sides thing.
Although, I suppose that should all be past tense because now my parents are divorced and my dad lives eight hours away from us. But, I have a slight insight as to how you feel, lost [child]. |
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Jun 12 2005, 11:54 PM
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 ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,309 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,593 |
actually i have the same problem with my dad =| but i live with it.
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