Do you think I'm stupid?, For.. This.. Options

[stephenmatthewg9...]

I have been friends with a guy since preschool. We pretty much grew up together. But you see I have this thing about people who smoke, where I really dislike them, and he does. And he's 13. So should I tell him to kick his habit, or it's over? or should I deal with it, even though it will really hurt my feelings that he's hurting himself?

Thanks

Katie

[aera]

ask him to stop. tell him the bad effects of smoking. keep telling him, but if he doesnt listen, then leave him alone. when he's ready to quit, he'll come back to you.

and no, i do not think youre stupid because of this.

[sharerol]

ask him to stop. tell him the bad effects of smoking. keep telling him, but if he doesnt listen, then leave him alone. when he's ready to quit, he'll come back to you.

and no, i do not think youre stupid because of this.

I agree.

[iwannakisshim]

just tell them how you feel. it won't be so bad.

[dfly112]

he'll notice eventually he'll get caught up wit the wrong crews... from my own experience, smokin is horrible... i got sick like once a week and reeked of cig smoke... stop him b4 he pushes all who care for him away...

[stephenmatthewg9...]

omg thanx u guys 4 ur opinions now how do u suggest i do them. step by step please?

kayt

[jennyjenny]

Call him up or meet him somewhere when he smokes and tell him that you don't like it when poeple smoke. I sure don't. Ask him why he smokes and tell him that it can cause whatever cancer and it smells bad, and then tell him to please please pleaseeeeeeee quit if he was a good friend. Good luck.

[BrokenDream]

It's not good for a boy smoking at 13. That's very very bad, and it can cause very hurtful stuff in the body.

Tell him to stop. It's not good for him.

If he asks why, just say, "Smoking probably causes lung cancer".

[*suddenly she*]

didn't you pay attention in anti-drugs week at school? tell him to stop. if my 17 year old friend jc can stop, your 13 year old buddy can stop.

[JustAnotherTeena...]

Definatly tell him to stop. Gosh, 13 is way too young to be smoking anyways...

[BELLA_RAGAZZA]

maybe you can secretly take his cigarettes away from him .. so when he goes to get one or something they won't be there.

just tell him the bad effects you can get-- like empheseyma (spelling). it's where your lungs turn black and you can't breathe. my grandmother died that way.. which is why i have no even touched a cigarette & never will.

you can also try and tell him to chew gum because that helps take the urge away? at least i think so.. thats what my uncle did. here he was a 40 year smoker & when he divorced his wife & met someone knew he quit in like 3 days. seriously.. it is possible.

isn't it illegal for people under the age of 18 to purchase cigarettes? find out where he's getting them from and tell them to stop because their just ruining the kids life..

oh i dunno, sorry! i hope i helped!

[Melissad1016]

Hi Katie. You are in a tough situation. I think you are right not to want your friend to smoke. He's too young to be smoking and it's sooo bad for him. The best thing for you to do is to continue being his friend and don't ditch him because of his habit. Just gently encourage him to quit. Let him know you care about his health.

[Shattered_Hope]

I don't think you should just stop being his friend because he smokes, seeing as how you've been friends for a long time....just slowly and calmly help him stop the habit by getting him help and telling him the side effects and consequences of smoking. Show him the statistics of what happens to people who smoke and how their life span is cut in half....and how they eventually will have cancer and cause harm to the people they love.

[starlette]

if he is your friend, and you disconnect yourself because of his habits, it will just drive him farther into them. If you truly care about this person, you should support them. Ask him not to smoke around you, but you have to remember that smoking is a very addictive habit, so threats like that wont stop him. he has to stop himself. Maybe talk to his parents...but try to be a good friend and respect his choices. stupid or not. and yeah, tell him I said hes stupid.

[ghjgfkgfk]

It's not good for a boy smoking at 13. That's very very bad, and it can cause very hurtful stuff in the body.

Tell him to stop. It's not good for him.

If he asks why, just say, "Smoking probably causes lung cancer".

no shit. as if he doesn't already know that

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Tell him to kick the habit! It's not good to smoke. And if he gives you an attitude you're only trying to help him. =\

[slipper]

wear a "smokers suck" tee.

[muffingirlsays]

I can totally relate to you

One of my guy-friends used to smoke until just a few months before. I just told him that I worry about his health and stuff... Personally, I think he stopped because of the fact that he knew about my Aunt's lung cancer and whatnot, so...yeah...

And if that dont work:

[azn_shortie]

huh. that's sort of hard. when some people smoke, they might not necessarily care if you list all the bad effects; most likely, they knew about them when they started but didn't care.

i guess, since both of you are pretty close friends, tell him how you feel and encourage him. there are also those programs or stuff that can help you quit.

=] good luck.

[EmmalieV]

Its bad , but dont tell him what to do.


Hint it out , tell him it stinks and makes him stink , because i hated it when my ex bf gave me a stop smoking or i wont talk to you pep talk.