i think i don't believe in true love anymore... Options

[KELLYYY]

That's right. You heard me.

This might be long:

There's this girl named Sally. Sally likes Jeffrey(my crush), but she won't admit it. It's SUPER obvious that she likes him. One time, I said to her, "Sally, if you like Jeffrey, why don't you just admit it to me? That way, you can stop lying. If you're honest about it, I wouldn't be mad at you because you're honest with it." After all I said, she walked away from me acting like I didn't say shit to her.

One time afterschool, I came out of my classroom when the bell rang, and Sally was in front of me, so was Jeffrey. Sally saw me, then she went and started feelings on Jeffrety and she satrted flirting with him, IN FRONT OF ME. I'm like, is she trying to make me jealous or something?

Of course, Sally is rich, but all the guys say that she's ugly. Sally has a boyfriend. Yes, believe it or not, she does. But.. the point is, her boyfriend dated her because he wanted Sally to buy stuff for him, in other words, he's using her. Of course, Sally has no idea about it. Now, ALL the guys that Sally likes want to go out with her and do whatever her boyfriend did. Sally thinks she's "all that" just because her crushes want to go out with her. And this includes Jeffrey. Yes, Jeffrey wants to go out with her because he wants her to buy him some expensive shoes.

The point is, become Sally came along, me and Jeffrey had a connection. I even was about to ask him out. But the day before the day I planned to ask Jeffrey out, Sally came along, and that made me change my mind. She's trying to take him away. Jeffrey was my dream man. He was everything I wanted. But now, I feel like I lost him. I tried REALLY hard to win him.

So I asked my friend, Stephanie, to ask Jeffrey if he likes me, he said no. Then, Stephanie asked Jeffrey if he USED to like me, he said yes.

Should I just keep fighting for Jeffrey or should I just forget about it and move on? I'm really confused right now.

Thanks you LOTS for reading this long post.

[*mzkandi*]

Why would you want to date a guy that uses a girl for her money, which is basically what he doing if he wants to with this Sally girl as you claim. Or have you ever thought maybe he actually likes her? Some of us girls can be so judgemental when another girl moves on our "so-called man" and we will say things like "everyone thinks she's ugly" or "she aint all that". He already told your friend he does like you so let it go. It hurts but moving on is best because you'll look really pathetic if you're basically beating on a dead horse. And then again he may come around and ask you out but dont be waiting around on him.

[*stephinika*]

well firstly, that girl sounds like a complete bitch (excuse my language) but that word fits. and secondly, i think you should try to get over him...he doesn't sound like the greatest guy if he wants to go out with this girl so she'll buy him shoes. i know it'll be hard and its so much harder to do than say, but good luck.

[Vozedale]

Well think about it, is this Jeffery guy really all that great, I mean he wants to date a girl to buy him stuff AND he chose her over you because of her money. I think you can do a lot better. You are like 11 or 12 right, "i think i dont believe in true love anymore" is being a bit dramatic, seeing how, as you describe it, he was a crush. True love points more at marriage, and I think that might be awhile. What I am getting at is don't be dramatic about it, it can only make you feel worse. Move on, your chance to get him back are greater if you move on. I do know where you are coming from, just a few weeks ago I was captivate my a girl at my school, and I was seriously thinking about asking her out, even if I got rejected I wanted to try. I didn't even get that, she had a boyfriend already. Yeah, it gets you down for a few days, but it is nothing like having your heart broken, where I've literally fallen on stuff I was crying so hard. If you just try, it won't take long to get over him.

[loljuliana]

well think about it. jeffrey is using sally. if you went out with him, he might use you too; and since you think he's your dream man; you might be oblivious to the fact that he could be using you too. i dont think you should go for him. look for someone else that would never use anyone.

[KELLYYY]

Ok. I'll move on... but there's one problem. A few months ago when I started liking Jeffrey, I told my best friend, since we always tell each other stuff. And somehow, the word got out. Most people in the 6th grade know that I like Jeffrey. But now, I don't like him anymore. Butttttt, afterschool today, Jeffrey's friends were like, "Kelly like Jeffrey Kelly like Jeffrey!" I'm like, "how the f**k did you know!? And I don't like him anymore.." And they just kept saying, "Kelly like Jeffrey". I tried to ignore it, but I couldn't.

[Vozedale]

That is because they are like 6th graders, you aren't even in junior high yet, don't fret about what they think, they are 6th graders --> a.k.a. RETARDED. . Just act more mature then they are, a lot of them probably have girls they like. Schools almost out for you guys right, just put up with it for awhile, they'll stop if you don't respond like you care at all, it isn't much fun picking on someone who doesn't seem to care, but you seemed to respond like you were upset or annoyed. Do I sound like your parents? I sound like my parents... I'm out of here....

[Shattered_Hope]

Umm....first off......the guy stopped liking you and liked the other girl because she had money....if you asked me....that's a dumb reason to like someone....and it's pretty obvious that he's not worth your time. I don't think you should keep fighting for this guy.....forget about the guy and move on. Try not to call someone ugly or w/e anymore because of the fact that your guy is crushing on her....just...try not to assume anything....who knows....there's always a chance that they could like her for her.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Who knows maybe that guy might use you as well, but if you really like him you should go for him, show him that personality kicks rich girl's butts.

[SSJ Kenshin]

You shouldn't be so willing to give up on "love." You're WAAAAY too young for that. You still have your whole life to worry about it.

[KELLYYY]

That is because they are like 6th graders, you aren't even in junior high yet, don't fret about what they think, they are 6th graders --> a.k.a.  RETARDED. . Just act more mature then they are, a lot of them probably have girls they like. Schools almost out for you guys right, just put up with it for awhile, they'll stop if you don't respond like you care at all, it isn't much fun picking on someone who doesn't seem to care, but you seemed to respond like you were upset or annoyed. Do I sound like your parents? I sound like my parents... I'm out of here....

I'm already in Junior High..

[EmmalieV]

Why would you want a guy thats using a girl for her money , yes men are men but there are some decent guys in this world hunny. Just move on , you will experience true love later on , love is def not what your feeling maybe lust?

[xlaydee_v]

that girl is a whore. lols maybe you should tell her off and if she pisses you off again; tell her what every single boy is trying to do and that jeffrey guy too. :D

also, i don't think you should go for jeffrey anymore because he can be using you like he plans to use that other girl. forget him.. and tell him he's an ass for doing that although that girl is a bitch lols. :D but good luck anyways and go w/ your instinct

[enyceXaddiction]

ehhhhget over him. hes a mean guy if he uses a girl. those kind of booys should just get lost.

[CrazayChristian]

Woah dawg,

First off I'm just not feeling it. I mean there is one thing I know and that's "Attraction isn't a choice." you can't turn yourself on (in theory) but turning yourself off just takes time dawg. Your young, use your hormones to your advantage and lean towards someone better.

See, the problem is that most guys that you would describe as "a guy you want" unfortunatly will NOT attract you. See when you talk about the "perfect guy" you talk about a guy who is everything you say you want AND your attracted to. You will find alot of guys you think are "perfect" and one of 2 things will happen:
1.You will like someone else next week
2.You will still day dream about him months later.

I belive we call #2 "Mental Masterbation" why? Because you see him as perfect, you imagine him as perfect, but you can't judge him unless you've been his BEST FRIEND/Girlfriend for a year plus. (This way you see the true him)

Sorry if this was a little graphic for you young'ns

[doom_diver]

Well, sorry but true love is rare or nearly non-existing prolly sth like 1 out of a million. People just like the looks of the person but not their personality and stuff and thats it for them. Anyway, that girl is a bitch so just tell her to eff off, Jeffrey is no good either if hes gonna use Sally. Just forgot about them all they arent what you deserve

[misoshiru]

whoa that sucks. i guess you should try and get over him.

as steph said, she's a complete b*tch. but not just that, he's a bit of an a-hole too. i mean, he "likes" her just so that she can buy him expensive shoes. guys like that usually aren't worth it.