telling your bf/gf about things Options

[x shootingstar x]

Okay, so I got this topic off of another topic. 1.Do you think it's okay to tell someone else about what you do/did in your relationship with your bf/gf/ex-bg/ex-gf? (i.e. kissing, hugging, things you talk about, making out, things you do, etc.) I think it's a double standard.

2. Is it okay to tell your bf/gf about everything you've done with your ex?
-If you love your recent bf/gf very much and want to be honest with him/her, do you think it's okay to tell him/her everything? (i'm just going to say it from one gender's pov to make it less cumbersome.) If your gf asks you what did you do in your previous relationship, is it okay to tell her? It is also your ex's reputation and business. Is it okay to tell her all the things that your ex did with you and for you?

Consider this:
Gf: did she kiss you first or did you?
Bf: she did.

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Gf: how far did she go with you?
Bf: sex?
Gf: did she make the first move or did you?
Bf: she did.

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Is that consider appropriate? to tell your gf/bf about everything that had happened involving another girl?

3. If you recently kissed your gf. Is it okay to tell your friends about it?

Well, you get the point. there are many other questions that can be formed.. so lets make it an open topic. Anything related.

btw, haha im so repetitive. let me make sure i state this. do you think it's okay to tell your gf/bf about what you did with your ex. and also, do you think it's okay to tell your friends about what you've done with your gf/bf/ex?

[enyceXaddiction]

its best to not tell your gf/bf anthing about your ex cause it'll just piss them of, or they'll get jealous. and dont tell anyone else about whats going on in your relationship!! its between you two not them so just tell them to get off you case.

[silver-rain]

Yeah, don't tell anyone what happens in your relationship, it's not their business. And about telling your gf/bf about your ex, only do it if they ask. I would like to know, but I know he wouldn't just tell me out of nowhere. It would be more appropriate if you asked about it.

[--x who0ps]

iono, if my bf asked me that.. i'd jst smile. -_-;;
&i suppose you can tell your friends what you guys do. if you're really close or something.
but i wouldnt, it's too personal.
isnt 1&3 like the same question? o_o

[pinayprincess]

1. yes/no ... you could tell your closest friends but not the whole world b/c it turned out that the whole world knew about me and my ex...

2. hell no!! thats sounds uncomterable or something...

[x shootingstar x]

isnt 1&3 like the same question? o_o

haha yeah. my bad.

I personally think it is wrong, because it seems like you are trying to make them jealous, and show them that you still have feelings for your ex or some sort..and that will ruin the whole relationship....

it's not like making it jealous.. it's like you want to be truthful to them.. idk. dun you wanna let ur bf know that you can tell him anything, if he's really close i mean.

[Shattered_Hope]

I personally think it is wrong, because it seems like you are trying to make them jealous, and show them that you still have feelings for your ex or some sort..and that will ruin the whole relationship....

agreed....
besides....why bring up the past....

[loljuliana]

well if your bf/gf is asking you about your ex; i guess it's okay to tell them because they ask for it.

if they really wanted to know what you've done; then i guess you should tell them. if they get upset; its their fault. they wanted to know in the first place.

in my point of view; if i kissed my bf; of course my friends would know about it. even if i didnt tell them; they'll have a way of finding out.

[mouse_3k]

most of my bf wonder and I tell them if they like it or not. I aint gon lie to them.

[dani41790]

Um I guess it's ok to tell them but just not go into detail because then that's just kind of wrong if you do.

[macb]

when you're dating for fun (not serious), he/she doesn't have to know. It just doesn't matter what happened before.

[moralsdecayaway]

before me and my girl went out.. i tried to form a trust bond with her.. and i told her everything in my past that was worth mentioning.. its better to tell them.. so that they know.. if you really love them.. youll do it.. its better then them finding out from someone else you know?

[bad_girl]

i think telling people what yooh do with yor bf/gf/exes is really stuck-up of yooh to. it's like showing off, bragging. and yor gf/bf/exes might not like what yooh are telling other people about them. i know it would certainly piss me off if my bf/exbf did that. n telling yor gf/bf about wt yooh did with yor exes? no. definitely not. then they'd have to always try really hard to compete with yor exes, to be better than them, to leave more impression. its gona be a competition before yooh know it.. and he/she's gona turn agressive. so i think.. no to both.

[Ballpointpencil]

1. If they ask, tell 'em. Just try not to linger on the subject. My boyfriend knows, and I know what he's done (although, in both our cases we hadn't gone very far at all, lol). It's a trust thing. I want to know everything about him, good and bad.
2. Depends. I mean, I told my best friend after I got my first kiss, but other than that, I haven't really mentioned that sort of thing around my friends. I think it is rude to go up to people and say 'hey, I made out with my boyfriend yesterday', as well as sounding a bit airheaded.

[NgocQuyen]

1. no i wouldnt just go off telling someone that i dont trust what ive done in the past with my bf or anyone of that nature...haha

2. if i really liked this person and they asked me then suree...why not...depends if i trust them though..

3. my friends? i would tell my best friends that i trusted...but not just my friends...because i have friends that i hang out with all the time but i dont know if i'de put my life story in their hands...=]