please help everything is planned..., but i dont want to leave =( Options

[bogalgirl]

can someone please help me? my family planned everything for me, air tickets, school fee and almost everything for me to go to the uk. well i just realized this month i start to feel very sad about leaving. i know how ppl say we haf to face like times when we leave our country and how you have to meet new things and new environment but can someone please help me come with some good reasons that might help me stay in the place i am in now? i know this is very hard but i really just want to give it a try. i really don't want to leave =( my parents may consider about it if i come up with a reason. cuz till now i can't think of any reasons that can make me stay.

ps: i know this topic is pretty useless but this can change my life.

[_sarcastic_]

tell them you don't want to leave your country or you don't want to leave them. you're not ready to face a whole new environment yet

[BELLA_RAGAZZA]

aww.. i really don't know what to say because i've never been in this kinda position. just tell them how much you'll miss them & you don't want to leave everything you've known all your life behind. tell them that you can still find a good school over here which could be just as good or maybe even better than a school over in te uk.

i don't know..

Yeah she pretty much said what I was going to say

[jennyjenny]

Say that you don't want to move. You don't want to change your current lifestyle. And how you don't want new friends.

But UK does sound cool.

[angelrevelation]

wait so you're staying there permanentally? well, i don't think you can really change it, but if you REALLY want to stay, then stay. but... everyone feels seperation anxiety usually. and you never know, you may grow to love the UK. i wish i could go lol

[bogalgirl]

thanks guys but i regret so much because my parents actually made me think before they send the school fee over, and that i actually went oh well whatever and like said yes without really thinking but as time passes and the days i'm gonna go there is coming so fasst i began to regret

[winterzflamez88]

It sounds like it's too late to turn back, maybe you'll really like it there! Life's full of changes and unfortunately, this one's a really big one, but sometimes change is all for the better. Remind urself of y u were going there in the 1st place....

why ARE you going there neway?

[bogalgirl]

lol im going there cuz i got into a good school and that ppl say its a really good chance and that i may not get in there easily next time. Also, the school im studying in is a school which also follows the british standards and everything but i want to stay here and finish secondary here and go to england for university. but my parents think going to england will bring me better education and going there earlier can let me get used to the environment there. but i really don't want to go. i know i made the wrong decision at first but i can't help it. i really want to stay!!! plus im going to a girls school but thats just a really tiny weeny small problem. sigh*

[ThePrincessofTKD]

danggg. just say it doesn`t matter where you go. you can take the girl out of america, but you can`t take the america out of the girl. meaning, it doesn`t matter where you get your education, it`s your decision whether or not you want to do good in school.

[misoshiru]

your parents have already sent the tuition over. and since, everything's set, why dont you just go and make the most out of it. who knows, you might have a great time there.

[yukichan]

i agree with ^..everyone feels like that when they leave a place they love..i felt like that before i moved..just give UK a chance..u might really like it, once ur there...

[shereyol]

give it a shot, you're gonna learn alot of new things in the UK that you'll never experience here.

[i_am_me]

i might be able to help on this one... since i study in england... umm... well what i want to say is that you really should think about it now... coz once you're there you can't really go back to whereever you are from... but on the bright side you never know what's gonna happen you'll probably grow to like the uk!

[--x who0ps]

well, you can say you're not ready&you really can't carryon with this. jst tell them the truth. you dont need an excuse.
but it's kinda sad since they already paid for all the stuff.
are you going to the UK for college? or vacation? or what?

[youdrivinmegrape...]

ok I'll tell you my story. It'a not as big a change as yours but still.
I was 10 when we moved. It was still in the city just diff. area and bigger house, but I was a little kid and all my friends and my whole life was there. People told me I would like the change and an uncle even told me if I didn't like it after a month he'd give me $100. I figured I'd be getting that money, because I wasn't happy at all. After we moved it was sad because we'd left all our friends and everything was different.
Later people started coming to our door welcoming us and my brother and I found a whole lot of kids around our nieghborhood to hang around with and basically after a week, it was great. All the kids were and still are awesome. And I still keep in touch with old friends, eventhough it's been 5 years. Change may seam scary at first, but in the end it can turn out to be a great thing. Give it a try. I think you'll like it.
Hope everything goes well,
Meghan

[megan_x3]

Don't worry. I came to United States when I was 5 years old and was forced to study here with my family. Well, it sounds like you have an asian parent who wants you to go to England or UK to study for your future. Maybe they're doing it for your own good that you don't even know. Maybe just think of it as a vacation.. and that you can always have many great opportunites to come back and visit your friends and neighbors. ^.- Or if you really don't want to go, tell them that you are not ready and that you want to spend more time. Beg and ask them not to force you to go if you don't want. I think that is one of the law in Hong Kong, you can't force your child to go anywhere and do something if they do not wish to... . Currently watching this law movie thats why I know that. =P

[bogalgirl]

thanks people for all your advice. well i guess ill just talk to my dad about how I feel, if he really doesn't let me stay in hk ill just try my best to let me heart be in england which is quite hard but ill try and cope with that. but of course if my dad lets me stay, ill thank him so much and maybe as my appreciation i would promise him to do good in my studies and everything. hopefully, not a very big chance of staying but ill give it a try. thanks everyone for your comments and advices (( i hope i can stay ))

[heninacoop]

I'm at boarding school in the UK although I'm not from Hong Kong... Try not to worry about it... most of the boarding schools here have large communities from Hong Kong, so it's a bit like home from home. It's kind of horrid adjusting to at at first for some people, but you'll soon make new friends and if you really are desperately unhappy then you can change things in the future, but for now why not just give it a go?

[EmmalieV]

I dont think you can do anything about it , just be happy and learn to adapt.

[Melissad1016]

I understand. I recently moved away from everyone I know and love to Alabama. Its still hard adjusting to not having my friends around. But.. it gets a little easier every day.

[WickedDreamer]

I was in your position a little bit ago. I'm going to Europe for the summer but about a month ago I really didn't want to go because my life was so stressful. But you need to focus on the outcome. And even though it may be hard to leave you'll adjust after awhile and you'll make new friends and have new experiences. Think about it, how many people get to have a chance like this?

Okay, I know that wasn't what you asked for, sorry. But, it's the best advice I can give. Sleep on it for a little bit and then re think about it. If you truly don't want to go then, then hopefully your parents will understand.

[aznxdreamer]

everyone feels like that when they're about to make a real big decision and make a really big change in their life. dont worry, i know how youf eel. but just go, you'll get over it and you'll probably really like the UK.