My Boyfriend, is very shy |
 May 15 2005, 06:00 PM
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Should I make the first move to kiss... even though i believe its the mans job? so should i kiss him or confront him about being more affectionate?
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May 15 2005, 06:07 PM
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It's not really a man's job or anything like that. If you want something just do it. If he's shy than you do it and make him feel comfortable kissing so the next time he will do it
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May 15 2005, 07:09 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
Yeah, it's not really the man's job. If you feel like kissing him, just go for it.
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May 15 2005, 07:10 PM
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 Tasty. Group: Member Posts: 471 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,784 |
like i've said it before, if ur guy is very shy, then its up to U to make the first move. just tell him how ya feel. its obvious that he likes you if you two are arleady a couple, so just make things a lil more intimate. snuggle together, give him a lil hug, stroke his arm...u kno those things, and if he still doesn't do ne thing, then confront him about it. or, if u're REALLY feeling sexy and bold, just grab his face, and stare into his eyes, and say "kiss me". yum yum.
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May 15 2005, 07:12 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 16 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 139,582 |
haha, ok
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May 15 2005, 07:14 PM
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You should make the move if he's shy doesn't matter what the "Man making the move first" thing says.
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May 15 2005, 08:03 PM
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 Shutup before I smack you. Group: Member Posts: 119 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 136,015 |
Well... first see why he isn't making the move. Is it because he's not ready? Or is it because he doesn't feel comfortable? Or is it because he doesn't want to do things like that at all?
if it is one of those reasons above, DONT make the first move. That would be just pressuring him. If you think it's not, then try it. Because if it's not, it would either be reasons like, he's too shy, he wants YOU to make the first move, he doesnt even know how... things like that. ;] |
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May 16 2005, 12:52 AM
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He probably doesn't know that you want him to make the move. I think you should just go for it. Since he's shy, if you don't do anything first, nothing will happen. Maybe if you make the first move, he'll open up more
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May 16 2005, 04:55 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 258 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,101 |
well im a shy guy and ill tell you what my gf did to me. she made the first move, then after that she said "now its up to you" lmao... since then its been mostly me. so go ahead and make the first if u want to, cuz chances are he wants you to
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May 16 2005, 06:53 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
don't you have this in girl's locker too?
how made the first move in asking the other out? if he did, then wait until he's ready if you did, then just gather up the courage and go for it |
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May 16 2005, 08:16 PM
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 ticktock. Group: Member Posts: 1,138 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 118,235 |
i guess you could start with a kiss on the cheek. he might get the message and make the move. from the movie "hitch" i learned:
the man moves 90%. the girl goes the remaining 10% =) |
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May 16 2005, 08:50 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 88 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 137,907 |
ill give you the same advice my friend jennifer gave me...
If you love something.. let it go. If it comes back to you.. it was meant to be. If it doesnt.. it was never yours. I DONT MEAN to break up with him! no no no! but try not to rush into things. Some guys dont like to feel pressured... and judging the fact that he hasnt done anything.. i DONt think he wants to feel pressures or rushed. Give him some time and maybe he'll come around!  
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May 16 2005, 09:48 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
Like I've said before...if you're not willing to make the first move then just be patient and give it time...there's nothing you can do but give him time...
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May 17 2005, 06:10 PM
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 un cool. Group: Member Posts: 640 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 125,269 |
this may be a situation where he not ready to "kiss" yet. if you think that he is ready, and he's just afraid to make the first move, then try a little kiss on the cheek or on the forehead an see where it goes.
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May 17 2005, 06:20 PM
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Just throwing in a guys opinion
It took a bit for me to kiss my gf, im a naturally shy person. Bout after a month and a half i told her i loved her and she said "prove it" and yea...lol I guess it could be a mood but even tho i diddnt for long i wanted to really bad. Just give him a push or move in yourself |
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May 17 2005, 06:57 PM
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 when the sun sleeps. Group: Member Posts: 210 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 138,079 |
if u 2 sit next to each other and he starts playin wiht ur hair then stairs at ur lips then he is ready. so i guess kiss him iono i never have that problem.
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May 17 2005, 07:58 PM
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 This bitch better work! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,681 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,095 |
don't confront him because that would make it akward so i think you should just do it. but make sure the time if right or else things could get messed up!
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May 17 2005, 09:42 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
don't you have two topics of this now? anyway i told you my opinion in tyhe girl's lockker room one
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May 17 2005, 10:04 PM
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Yup, go for it, girl. Just make sure you aren't forcing it. There really is a right time for everything.
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May 18 2005, 06:38 PM
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 memories live FOREVER<3 Group: Member Posts: 1,150 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 132,793 |
i find the gurl making the move weird i think its more of a mans job
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May 19 2005, 07:18 AM
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 Apr 24 '05* 1000 posts! Group: Member Posts: 1,184 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 56,049 |
kiss him if you're ready. girls and guys? equal.
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May 19 2005, 02:15 PM
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QUOTE(HOTGOOSE08 @ May 15 2005, 3:00 PM) Should I make the first move to kiss... even though i believe its the mans job? so should i kiss him or confront him about being more affectionate?  I say if you're ready, and it feels like he's ready, and you know you both really like each other, go for it. kiss him. it'll take him forever to make the first move cause he's shy, but I bet inside he realyl wants it 
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May 19 2005, 04:38 PM
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Jessica Group: Member Posts: 480 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 29,118 |
Well now obviously you make the first move.
 But if hes uncomfortable or what not, then I suggest you wait it out or talk to him about it. 
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May 20 2005, 10:42 AM
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STOP THE WAR Group: Member Posts: 298 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 92,182 |
make ur move and get him to feel more comfortable with u
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May 20 2005, 06:15 PM
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 tell me more. Group: Official Member Posts: 2,798 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,640 |
QUOTE(x3__iGiVEup @ May 16 2005, 6:16 PM) i guess you could start with a kiss on the cheek. he might get the message and make the move. from the movie "hitch" i learned: the man moves 90%. the girl goes the remaining 10% =) lol! i was thinking that same thing! like. the guy does the most part of it. but I guess the girl could do it. I mean who wants to wait till he gets the freakin picture? a kiss on the cheek is sweet! oh and if u try nd he still doesnt kiss ya...um. dont try n e more. wait till hes ready i guess. |
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May 20 2005, 11:21 PM
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 lick me Group: Member Posts: 3,044 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 44,013 |
my boys shy too : ) sometimes, i want him to get out of there; and not be shyy; so i wont do anything. and let him get the hint that he has to do it, or nothing will happen. so he will =)
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May 21 2005, 09:01 PM
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 Oh babyy. :d Group: Member Posts: 616 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,708 |
QUOTE(PinkTrash @ May 20 2005, 9:21 PM) my boys shy too : ) sometimes, i want him to get out of there; and not be shyy; so i wont do anything. and let him get the hint that he has to do it, or nothing will happen. so he will =) Yes, agreed. I have the same problem. |
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May 21 2005, 09:26 PM
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 jiyOunnn~ Group: Member Posts: 692 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 109,706 |
if you don't do it first, maybe it wouldn't ever happen. x_x so go for it :D
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