hanging out with my friends, it seems like i can never. . . . Options

[KawaiiChobiGirl]

Okay. . .here's my story. . . .

All of my friends hang out with each other at the movies, mall, etc. and when they always invite me, my parents will never let me go. So, I keep always saying "no." Before, I could always go. . . . . I've tried asking my parents why I can't go, and my parents always say that it's too far, it's on a Saturday (shcool day for me) or its "I just don't want you to go", and they are really ruining my life.

Also, because I can't hang out with my friends, I think that they don't want to be my friends anymore. I mean, they are saying things like I'm f******* stupid, and that no one really cares if you show up anyway, or things like I don't like you anymore. The things that they are saying are really hurting me. I can't really move on because there are not many people in my class to make friends with. . .

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

You should talk to them and if they still do that they aren't very good friends maybe ask them to come over your house instead. It might be easier for you and your parents.

[aera]

its true that when friends always invite someone, and that person always declines, then they start saying bad things behind their back. they might feel that you dont want to hang out with them and that you feel that youre too cool for them. next next time you have to say no, explain to them why you cant go. then they wont think these things about you.

[toodlepops.]

Wow, tough problem.
You have to talk to both sides, your friends and your parents.
Your friends shouldn't call you stupid, talk to them about it.
Have a nice little talk with your parents, really mature talk. Prove yourself to your parents.
And maybe your friends can go on the trips on Sunday instead of Saturday.

[Levy2k6]

my friends call me stupid but we call each other stupid so its okay.. if they dont understand why you are having problems.. i dont think they are really your friends then.

[Shattered_Hope]

Maybe your friends don't know about your parents....and maybe they think that you don't like hanging out with them....just talk to them....and they'll understand if they were your good friends...

[loljuliana]

well try making plans on a day where you can hang out. look for 1 person to be friends with i guess, because even though it's only 1 person; it can make a big difference. friends dont always have to be in a big group.

[xromanticKISS]

you should talk to them. but if they still think you are "efing stupid" then they don`t deserve to be friends with you. but if they understand, then they are good friends. plus maybe if you can go out, invite them over your house to hang out =]

.. i hope everything works out !!

[*stephinika*]

talk to them. if they are really saying stuff like that, they aren't very good friends. also try talking to your parents and explain how its hard to retain friendships when they never let you go out. also tell your friends why you can never make it. good luck.

[Princess_Crunk]

does anybody wanna be my friend?

[emo_in_urpanties]

Hmm..last time I chekd friends ddnt put each other down lyk that. Newayz, wut u need to do is tell them WHY u can't go..so they dnt get ne mixed messages. If that doesn't wrk, try ur best to keep ties with them, and in the mean time try n make some more friends[it doesnt hafta b just at school]. By tha time ur sick n tired of those put-down friends, u'll haf sum other friends to fall bak on.

its a harsh thing, but thats how our sad world is these days.

[xldubaliciousx]

Have you tried explaining to them WHY you can't go?

[Mizz Rizza]

well first off ur parents mite not be letting you go
cuz
1. they dont know the people ur going out with
2. they dont trust you or think ur mature enough...etc...etc..

and with ur friends...i think it's dumb that they're talking crap about you for no reason...if you havent already explained to them why you cant go...then i think u should jus forget about them...unless they apologize for the things they said....

and with YOU
thinking that you'll be a loner
the best answer is to get out there
make new friends
get to know other people

[DixieDaCutie]

talk to ur friends...if they're really ur friends, they'll care how u feel. maybe there's another reason for them getting all bitchy on u, besides u not being able to go places. don't wrry about being a social outcast...evryone has a time when their life hits an all time low, n it always passes w/ time. just stick with ur friends, n if u don't wanna put up with them, there's always other people...gl~!!

[ichiban]

explain to them about your parents. maybe they think you dont want to hang out with them, so theyre mad about it. try telling your parents about the way your friends are acting, and that their behavior is making you and ur friends grow apart.

[so0o_contagious]

if they cant understand your problem. they arent very good friends.
anyways. yes talk to your parents about it and your friends. it'll make you feel better knowing that you got somethign off your chest

[3ssx]

just tell your friends (if they really are your friends.. ) that your parents wont let you and explain it to them... if they were true friends they would understand and try to arrange gatherings closer to your house.

[lKVNiiKINKYl]

I'm in a similar situation. I'm not allowed out because my parents think that its "too dangerous" so I really dont get out much and am always home. I try to go out but they keep saying no and I always tell my friends no and they talk so much trash about me...try inviting them over and explaining that you can't go out? Ohh...I'm giving myself advice =)

[ShEraBaRoO]

i wouldnt really call them "friends" if they say those kinda crap about you... maybe you should just invite them over and all you guys can hang out in your house, with you parents around. youre still within your parents reach and also with your friends

[technicolour]

Ok i have totally been in this situation. Really it is sad. My parents wouldnt let me do ANYTHING so eventually I had to just keep making up random excuses. I talked to my parents and after an hour or yelling of so we came to some sort of an agreement. I would call them every once in a while to check in and even though it would get annoying, hey, I still got to go. Woot.

[enyceXaddiction]

i ahev the same situation. cause i live 10 miles away from my friends bummer i know. well try asking them over to your house.

[Paradox of Life]

It seems like you aren't in touch with your friends enough for them not to realize it's not because you don't want to hang out with them. If they aren't willing to accept that you don't want to hang out with them and get mad at you for it, maybe they aren't even real friends. If you don't mind them doing that to you, talk with them seriously that it's just your parents and you still want to be friends with them.

[LittleLulu]

talk to your friends n explain n talk to your parents and explain what the situation is doing to you.

if it sitll doesn't work then go ask our teacher to talk to your parents FOR you =)

[xMiZziexKiMx]

if they rly are your good friends then they should know there's a reason why you can never show up and its not your fault.....

[funky_munky]

Your friends should understand why you can't come out! They don't sound like they are very nice if they tell you that you showing up doesn't matter

[CrazayChristian]

Your parents are over protective, that's all. You need to let them know that you're responsible enough and maybe carry a cellphone with you so you can keep in contact with them.


If you assure them, they will usually ease up and help you out.


Good luck

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

those are some crappyass friends and even if theyre the only girls you can make friends with , find some new ones. cos if they treat you like that then that is not right, no matter WHO the hell they THiNK they are.

that happens to me and i think my friends are getting tired of it too, but theres nothing you or i can do. just try to explain to your parents you need to get out and such.

[Azn_Angel13]

Also, because I can't hang out with my friends, I think that they don't want to be my friends anymore.  I mean, they are saying things like I'm f******* stupid, and that no one really cares if you show up anyway, or things like I don't like you anymore. The things that they are saying are really hurting me.

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i know how u feel. my friends always invites me to go and hang out wif them. i ask my parents and they dont let me go! they are so friggen paranoid that i mite die or get kidnapped or raped or something. itz really annoying. i alwais felt like they really are trying to make me a social outcast and end my friendships ( cus they already hate my friends). itz really annoying. i tried talking to them, but they are so stubborn. geez! haha! at least ur friends continue to invite u... some of my friends gave up on me... and i blame it all on my parents. bleh.

[lilJdawg]

Ask yourself this. Are they really your friends? If they were really your friends then they probably understand your situation. My parents are like that too. I can go out but not too often. They're juhs over-protecting you & what not. Tell your friends what's up? If they can't understand, find some other friends you can hang out with. No, it isn't ruining your life. Find other things to do at your house.