Best way.., to screw a relationship up |
 May 9 2005, 08:33 PM
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ok, im a bit tired of hearing about the same things on this forum over and over again so i thought id do something a little different.
What do you all feel is the best way to totally screw up a relationship? It doesnt even have to be the best way to screw it up, just things that you know will make it so it wont last. ex.: lying and not trusting each other, not communicating, etc. |
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May 9 2005, 08:39 PM
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 Disgrace to the asian race Group: Member Posts: 346 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 132,080 |
Cheating or being a ahole/jerk.
.......not that I would know. |
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May 9 2005, 08:47 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
Well, I guess cheating is something, lying, abuse? I dunno...
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May 9 2005, 08:51 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
losing someone's trust and lying are the biggest issues...for a break up
being disrespectful can cause break ups, and being two faced. i hate people who are two faced 
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May 9 2005, 09:20 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
cheating. or liars
i hate liars. |
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May 9 2005, 09:23 PM
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 *scribble scribble* Group: Member Posts: 1,314 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 119,610 |
saying to their face how much you hate them. talking behind their backs and telling the person you talked to to tell the person what you said. being mean. hitting, kicking, smacking, threatening. just stop talking to them.
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May 9 2005, 10:08 PM
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 THE EVERGLOW Group: Member Posts: 95 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 114,409 |
abuse, most definitely. and cheating/ lying. or just being an all around jerk.
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May 10 2005, 10:47 AM
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 im addicted to my car<3 Group: Member Posts: 635 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 92,236 |
messing with other guys(or girls) right in front of them.
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May 10 2005, 11:57 AM
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 RAWR. Group: Member Posts: 2,585 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,641 |
Heres one that a lot of people dont think about. Over analyzing can kill a relationship. calling everyday asking if someone is mad, or why do you love me, or do you think we will last. then if they dont neccesarily give the answer you expect, fights come out of it. I know, cuz I used to do it. Not intentionally, I just had really low self esteem and thought everyone liked me cuz they felt sorry for me. So yeah. Thats a great way to lose someone.</sarcasm>
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| *AngelicEyz00* |
May 10 2005, 12:49 PM
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Cheat and lie and you're all set!
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May 10 2005, 02:06 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
1. cheat
2. ignore 3. cause drama |
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May 10 2005, 02:47 PM
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 memories live FOREVER<3 Group: Member Posts: 1,150 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 132,793 |
hmmm...maybe cheating on yur bf/gf?
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May 10 2005, 03:09 PM
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 ^-^ Group: Member Posts: 1,676 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 107,668 |
cheating.
Becoming very unfreindly an stuff. Getting you pregnant than suddenly leaving. dying. lol, that owuld screw it up 
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| *iNyCxShoRT* |
May 10 2005, 04:43 PM
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Act as if their your worst enemy and flirt with other girls/guys in front of their face i guess.
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May 10 2005, 04:45 PM
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well.. for me... the number 1 reason is when the person you like start trying to be cool or start showing off because they think they can fit in with the "cool" people now.
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May 10 2005, 05:39 PM
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 Hah! Its funny cause its true... Group: Member Posts: 640 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 89,954 |
Cheat/flirt with other girls/guys.
Or if you want something from my experience... ASKING SO MANY DAMN QUESTIONS AND GETTING MAD WHENEVER YOU DON'T ANSWER ONE!!! hmph... |
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May 10 2005, 07:07 PM
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 ticktock. Group: Member Posts: 1,138 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 118,235 |
break off plans
flirting with other girls / guys cheating lying getting mad easily bossy |
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May 10 2005, 08:26 PM
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 E=Fb Musicians Theory of Relativity Group: Member Posts: 711 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 109,045 |
Losing trust. That encompasses cheating, lying, ect. because they all have to do with a person's trust in you to stay true to them.
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May 10 2005, 10:13 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 345 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,641 |
Not talking to them is the worst lol while ur around them and u dont talk to them it makes him/her so mad and then they ask why are you not talking to me or answering me saying"Just dont wanna talk to u"Makes them real mad or rude comments about everything they gotta say etc
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May 10 2005, 11:38 PM
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 i'm hot. you're hot. but she's not. Group: Member Posts: 27 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 87,896 |
-->not doing anything... like never going anywhere together...
--->cheating -->accusing the other person of cheating  --->Being over protective. -->Not TALKING to eachother. ((my friend did that with her ex.. heh)) --->And just using common since.. that should be ittt... expcially the last one <3333 |
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May 11 2005, 04:38 PM
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 Call me Lauren d=] Group: Member Posts: 278 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 113,118 |
I would have to say lying.. And being caught too
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May 11 2005, 05:24 PM
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 reluctantly gazing Group: Member Posts: 472 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 120,555 |
never had a bf but i can answer this talking about me and one of my really really close guy friends...
we used to be really close...almost like brother and sister and what messed it up was dishonesty i think ... and he was acting like an ahole, i was acting like a bitch. to sum it up. *sigh* i really miss him as a friend though...we still talk occasionally but spend more time yelling at each other  although in a bf/gf relationship, basically the same thing. disloyalty; dishonesty. cheating; being an ahole/bitch. |
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May 11 2005, 10:35 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 31 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 137,122 |
well everyones answer seem to be cheating....that would do it.
but i would also have to agree with some others and say.... abuse lying ignorance avoidance things like that |
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May 11 2005, 11:07 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 913 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 101,212 |
^ ignorance isn't really a big deal.... IMO
 But I find that, breaking the trust, cheating, you know, the gist. Its what screws up a relationship. |
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May 11 2005, 11:53 PM
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 brandon demarin Group: Member Posts: 287 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,512 |
dieing!!! :)
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May 14 2005, 06:57 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
Losing trust, cheating, lying....that's all I can think of really....
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May 14 2005, 09:14 PM
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 boo Group: Member Posts: 5,512 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 71,765 |
Cheating, lying.
I guess so. |
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May 15 2005, 02:19 AM
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^-^ Group: Member Posts: 1,676 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 107,668 |
QUOTE(LiLBabe91800 @ May 10 2005, 8:38 PM) --->And just using common since.. that should be ittt... expcially the last one <3333  what? you don't like ppl who use common sense? uhhh, why not? 
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May 15 2005, 02:35 AM
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t-t-t-toyaaa Group: Official Member Posts: 19,821 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,270 |
cheating and lying
like most people said. |
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May 15 2005, 08:05 PM
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 so give me all your posion and give me all your pills Group: Member Posts: 100 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 59,345 |
cheating or lying.. ugh i hate liars!!
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May 15 2005, 08:15 PM
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 Shutup before I smack you. Group: Member Posts: 119 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 136,015 |
cheating
fighting alot leaving them out / ignoring them flirting in their face on purpose and making them jealous every second. |
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May 16 2005, 01:17 PM
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s w e e t e s t Group: Member Posts: 808 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 46,149 |
talkin shit behind their backs and acting like u never did. =) or just go up on theiir face . =)
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May 16 2005, 02:50 PM
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 Hi, I'm Jo. Group: Member Posts: 42 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 138,563 |
cheating on them with their best friend
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May 16 2005, 08:01 PM
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 ART is everything. Group: Member Posts: 230 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 45,166 |
throw pie at their face
 hahaha...!actually annoy them so much that they couldn't stand you
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May 16 2005, 09:44 PM
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being insecure. ex..
girl: do you love me? guy: yes. girl: are you sure? guy: yes. girl: really?!?! guy: yes. girl: wait say that again. guy: yes. you get the point. |
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May 30 2005, 12:06 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 59,075 |
QUOTE(kill me please @ May 10 2005, 10:47 AM) messing with other guys(or girls) right in front of them. AND behind their backs. -cheating -lying -ignoring -cold -mean and a whole bunch of stuff that i can name.. but those are .. i think.. the main ones. |
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May 30 2005, 12:20 AM
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 skaters gonna skate. Group: Official Member Posts: 6,861 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,336 |
Lie. Cheat. Steal.
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May 30 2005, 10:17 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 350 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 49,692 |
Cheating & perhaps completely shutting the person out of your life.
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May 30 2005, 10:21 PM
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Best way or worst way? I'm not entirely sure what you mean.
How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, despite how bad it was, do everything in that movie to drive him away.
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Jun 7 2005, 11:40 AM
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 My weakness is that I care too much. Also that I love you with a Group: Member Posts: 55 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,426 |
QUOTE(weebekahng @ May 10 2005, 5:45 PM) well.. for me... the number 1 reason is when the person you like start trying to be cool or start showing off because they think they can fit in with the "cool" people now. This is right. I would have to agree with you on that one. That and not paying attention when they are trying to bring up something that seems important to them at the time they are trying to discuss it. Or you have the feeling that you have to compete for their attention when they come to visit. ~*~*~DeCePT10N -ess~*~*~ |
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Jun 7 2005, 11:48 AM
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 you're reading me. Group: Member Posts: 204 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 123,727 |
i'd have to say loosing trust. its the biggest one and under it goes cheating and all that.
oh and ignorance. thats what broke up my two relationships. |
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Jun 7 2005, 04:48 PM
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 jiyOunnn~ Group: Member Posts: 692 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 109,706 |
cheating or abuse..
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Jun 8 2005, 10:02 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 58 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 139,806 |
All those are 'good' ways, but they are symptoms, not causes. I'd say the supreme cause is poor communication-that is: insincerity, dishonesty, not being forthright (bringing up something that's bothering you rather than waiting to be asked what's bothering you) and nagging.
Think about it. If someone cheats on you, the problem is they were unsatisfied for some reason, or they had an impulse they were unwilling to let you know about and they acted on it. Prevention: --'Sweetie, I've been feeling attracted to X' Sweetie: 'Why is that?' --'Because she/he seems mysterious.' Sweetie: 'Well, what do you think might add some mystery to our relationship, roleplaying? frequency? positions?' --'Hmmm, roleplaying sounds interesting, let's talk about that.' Conversation proceeds from there, situation averted. If someone abuses you, the problem can be that they have emotional damage from a previous relationship. However, this should never escalate to physical violence, emotional and verbal violence is bad enough. When a relationship reaches the stage when the two involved cannot discuss an issue or problem reasonably and respectfully, then it is time to talk about why, and if that doesn't happen, then time to terminate the relationship. And so on and so on. |
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Jun 8 2005, 10:10 AM
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lack of communication definately.
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Jun 9 2005, 12:52 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 100 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 148,928 |
Cheating is a way, but I don't think that appropriate. Just tell it straight to them, "I don't want to be with you anymore." It depends also, how much you hate them.
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Jun 9 2005, 05:59 PM
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 My desperate heart is far too weak to run for you this long. Group: Member Posts: 640 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 150,342 |
lying is probably number one. and then if your boyfriend or girlfriend suspects something...and that shows they dont trust you. that screws up everything.
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Jun 9 2005, 08:08 PM
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 Unlock the Darkness Group: Member Posts: 305 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,967 |
Mistrust, not communicating, abuse, etc...
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Jun 9 2005, 08:08 PM
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always seem bored around them. i hate that lol =(
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Jun 9 2005, 08:57 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 122 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 148,214 |
Cheating or don't have feelings for them no more. or you ain't ready for it.
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Jun 10 2005, 12:34 AM
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The best way to screw a relationship up is to sleep with her best friend, or in my ex's case, her twin sister. Did I do it? No, I'm not that kind of person. But my ex's twin sister came onto me about a dozen times and I respectfully pushed her away. Still, if I had done that, I would've thrown 2 years down the tubes.
At least I'd be keeping it "all in the family." |
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Jun 10 2005, 02:26 AM
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 Yawn Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,530 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,772 |
QUOTE(brand0n @ May 11 2005, 11:53 PM) dieing!!! :) very funny well, the best way to screw up a relationship would be to cheat on that person lol. plain and simple. If you guys don't have good communication skills, or hide stuff from each other. Yah that's not good. No lying, cheating, or abusing boyfriends. They are a def no no! I'm so glad i have Jeremy 
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Jun 11 2005, 11:07 AM
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 i need an sn change. Group: Member Posts: 1,915 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,746 |
-cheating
-saying something then not do it -ignore -flirt with other girls |
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Jun 11 2005, 11:10 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 230 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 147,789 |
....Instead of this why don't you ask what's the best way to keep realtionships goin.
Why do you want to know the worst way to ruin a relationship? Anyway, abuse, lying and ignorance will be bad enough. |
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Jun 11 2005, 02:53 PM
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 My name's Katt. Nice to meet you! Group: Member Posts: 3,826 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,674 |
QUOTE(brand0n @ May 11 2005, 10:53 PM) dieing!!! :)  You mean dying?Uh.. Lying or being argumentative and critical to everything they say. Does that make sense? |
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Jun 11 2005, 03:09 PM
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 i <3 peter Group: Member Posts: 350 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 147,825 |
As most said, cheating is a sure way to blow a relationship. >D
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Jun 11 2005, 06:16 PM
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being shy and awkwards around them
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Jun 12 2005, 10:46 AM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 19 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 149,141 |
be really possesive
be really crude be really sarcastic order them around, treat them like slaves pick on them, every single aspect. make them think theyre not worthy bitch bout them despise them. seriously, be a total BITCHSLUT [newword?] |
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Jun 12 2005, 01:20 PM
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 baby, be good to me Group: Member Posts: 592 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,358 |
I'd say cheating on them, I don't see the point of it. If you want to be with someone else then just break up with the person, don't fool them like that.
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Jun 12 2005, 01:56 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 258 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,101 |
QUOTE(yycleo @ Jun 11 2005, 11:10 AM) ....Instead of this why don't you ask what's the best way to keep realtionships goin. Why do you want to know the worst way to ruin a relationship? Anyway, abuse, lying and ignorance will be bad enough. because this is to help on what to avoid in a reltionship |
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Jun 13 2005, 04:47 PM
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more likely cheating.....
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Jun 15 2005, 06:19 PM
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 dizzy me up. Group: Member Posts: 3,191 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,139 |
cheating.
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