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 May 5 2005, 01:30 PM
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My dad's on drugs...i found out today, well i've been suspecting it for a while now...
He came home for the first time in 2 months this afternoon, and my parents quarelled and he finally admited it. His eyes are red, very red, he's talking wierdly. And i think he's dealing drugs...my mom is thinking of calling the cops but i'm kinda hesitating. I've called the cops on him before, when he hit me, he was drunk, but i didn't press charges. I don't know what to do, my mom is kinda scared. There's a possibility drugs could be in our house. My mom and i have searched almost everywhere, but still, nothing. Err if you were in my shoes, what will u do? 
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May 5 2005, 01:33 PM
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 Another ditch in the road... you keep moving  Group: Member Posts: 6,281 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,152 |
sandra... call the cops. get him out of your life... im sorry... and i cant put myself in your shoes, b/c im not you, of course... but seriously. this guy aint good news
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May 5 2005, 01:36 PM
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He IS out of my life. When he abandonned me 16 years ago. BUT he ISN'T out of my mom's life, i'm worried, i'm scared for her...i really am, and she doesn't want to call the cops.
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May 5 2005, 01:56 PM
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you should move away
if your mom isn't going to call the cops then you have to |
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May 5 2005, 01:58 PM
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If i should call the cops behind my mom's back, i'm sure she'll hate me forever. Erm but i seriously want to get her out of here. God! my life is a mess
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May 5 2005, 02:02 PM
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^ You should try to talk to your mom about this. Try asking her to just let you call the police and give her your reasons. I hope things get better.
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May 5 2005, 02:09 PM
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If I were in your shoes I would try to stop him. If it doesn't work then you can talk to your mother about divorce or seperation.
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May 5 2005, 02:12 PM
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 insanitys contagious. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,210 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 99,707 |
Wow , thats scary.
If he hasnt been in your house for 2 months , and suddenly came back then somethings up. Call the cops , get him help. |
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May 5 2005, 04:11 PM
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I feel sorry for you Sandra, have you spoke to him? Maybe you shouldn't or else he'll abuse you, but try calling the cops, however he might be in a lot of trouble. There are so many side effects to things. Ugh, sorry if i was of no help.
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May 5 2005, 04:27 PM
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 i'm susan Group: Official Member Posts: 13,875 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 5,029 |
Wow, Sandra. That must be a real tough times. I mean I would be horrified if my dad was on drugs. I would be REALLY DAMN horrified.
Anyways, if I were on your shoes... I wouldn't call the cops.... because I don't want my dad to be sent to the prision. What if they found marijuana and something illegal. And the cops wouldn't believe me and have to take me in to because they think I tried some without letting my mom know about it. and maybe also my mom because they think she found som and had some. So this could be a total disaster. If your dad beat you up again, just get a bat. And if he gets violence, do call the police. I mean if he does violence on you that means he doesn't care about me no more. So I hurry up and call the police if there is a huge violence going on like if I hear furnitures crashing by my own dad's hand or beating up friendly neighbors when they didnt do anything wrong. or shoot guns at someone because he's too drunk. that's what I would do. |
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May 5 2005, 05:33 PM
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I would call the cops. You say your mom would hate you forever...but I really doubt that. I think your life would be a whole lot better, anyway. Do what you think is best, and good luck.
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May 5 2005, 05:48 PM
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 This bitch better work! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,681 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,095 |
call the cops so he can get some help. but know this...his recovery is going to be long & hard. trust me...i speak from experience.
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May 5 2005, 06:05 PM
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 ticktock. Group: Member Posts: 1,138 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 118,235 |
call the cops; or he might hurt you when you're sleeping or when you least expect it
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May 5 2005, 06:15 PM
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get some gang on your dad (IE: tell some crips hes a blood and has been startin sh*t) that'll get him killed for sure!
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May 5 2005, 06:19 PM
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try to get him to go to rehab or something.
if i was in your shoes, i wouldn't call. i'm chicken like that. i would talk to my mom about it. if the problem gets worse, then i probably would call the cops. |
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May 5 2005, 06:25 PM
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 reluctantly gazing Group: Member Posts: 472 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 120,555 |
convince your mom to let you call the cops. you have to do something about it.
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May 5 2005, 06:33 PM
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Brie Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 |
I'm sorry, Sandra.
I really think you should inform the cops... Maybe you should discuss it with your mother before doing so though. *hugs* If you want to talk, I'm always here, dear. 
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May 5 2005, 06:44 PM
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 Lauren loves YOU. Group: Member Posts: 2,357 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,793 |
i'm so sorry...
i can't imagine what i'd do if i were in your shoes. but the most logical thing to do would definitely be to call the cops. and talk to your mom seriously about the situation. maybe if you explain to her how much you love her and how if she doesn't get out of there she could get hurt, she'll listen to you. good luck with this dear. |
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May 5 2005, 06:46 PM
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 that heaven is overrated Group: Member Posts: 5,096 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 53,124 |
Wow, that's scary. I'm really sorry for you...I think you should call the cops. I hope everything works out alright in the end.
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May 5 2005, 09:05 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
For the safety of you and your mom; call the cops....
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May 5 2005, 09:10 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
you have to sit your mom down and force her into reality. if the cops aren't notified about this you're all going to be in deep sh*t. they can accuse you and your mother of helping him deal drugs because it's in your house...if they find out from someone else.
he abandoned you, his own daughter, he can do the same to your mom, in fact, he can stick the drugs to her and say that they're all hers. you have to make her realize that she can't just keep this quiet forever. |
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May 5 2005, 09:16 PM
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 Alisha Group: Member Posts: 2,341 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,880 |
wow
thats a tough position to be in =/ well i'd talk to my mom and see im not good at making big decisions like that 
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May 5 2005, 09:19 PM
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 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
call the cops..he needs to realize what hes doing isnt right..also call the cops before he gets really sick and dies..he needs professional help as soon as possible..sorry about the situation ur in..
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May 6 2005, 03:55 AM
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 boo Group: Member Posts: 5,512 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 71,765 |
You should talk to your mom about this. Yanno, bout separation or calling the cops and stuff.
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May 6 2005, 04:29 AM
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Do It Again!! ^_^ Group: Member Posts: 77 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 135,040 |
ohh gosh that must suck really bad! my dad abuse/abuses me like hell but i live on my own now but i visited and slept over for one day and he beat me real bad and everytime i step a foot in that house i wont leave without bruises and loss of tears...ohh gosh thats serious though i think you should talk to your mom and help her get some counseling
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May 6 2005, 08:36 AM
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 Grrrrrrr Group: Member Posts: 801 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 123,696 |
just get him some help. we have tried that so many times with my cousin. my aunt has given up on him and his waiting a call from the cops saying he is dead or something.
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May 6 2005, 08:40 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
wow that really sucks. maybe your family should go for counseling?
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May 7 2005, 05:40 AM
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QUOTE(angel-roh @ May 5 2005, 11:27 PM) Wow, Sandra. That must be a real tough times. I mean I would be horrified if my dad was on drugs. I would be REALLY DAMN horrified. Anyways, if I were on your shoes... I wouldn't call the cops.... because I don't want my dad to be sent to the prision. What if they found marijuana and something illegal. And the cops wouldn't believe me and have to take me in to because they think I tried some without letting my mom know about it. and maybe also my mom because they think she found som and had some. So this could be a total disaster. If your dad beat you up again, just get a bat. And if he gets violence, do call the police. I mean if he does violence on you that means he doesn't care about me no more. So I hurry up and call the police if there is a huge violence going on like if I hear furnitures crashing by my own dad's hand or beating up friendly neighbors when they didnt do anything wrong. or shoot guns at someone because he's too drunk. that's what I would do.  Well you see, i actually hate my dad. I want him to suffer, i really want to call the cops but my mom doesn't want to...she's scared, she even yelled at me when i suggested it... He's actually at home now... he came to wish my sister a happy birthday. Her birthday was yesterday though. He's talking wierdly, omg... he came with a bag, ok, i KNOW he's on drugs...my parents are fighting now...bleh QUOTE I'm sorry, Sandra. I really think you should inform the cops... Maybe you should discuss it with your mother before doing so though. *hugs* If you want to talk, I'm always here, dear. Thanks brie
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May 7 2005, 08:43 AM
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Another ditch in the road... you keep moving Group: Member Posts: 6,281 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,152 |
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same stands for me, as well meh... ok... i think you need to have aproper talk wit hyour mother... really sit her down and talk about everything.... and then call the cops anyway. because (and admittedly i dont know her at all) she doesnt seem ina state to make the right decision. it is down to you |
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May 15 2005, 04:39 AM
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Hey sandra6645, I am in your shoes, I know my dad and older brother are on drugs. It is hard, because even though they know how much it upsets you they still do it. It especially upsets me that my dad is on drugs, because like he is meant to set an example, and like my brother is on drugs, but my dad doesn't say anything about it. I already have an uncle in jail for drugs, and it is hard when he rings up sometimes, because I don't know what to say to him. Like I can't really tell him if I go out somewhere, or eat something nice say for dinner, because it's not like he can do those things. I would think with having an uncle in jail for drugs, my father and older brother would wake up and realize that could happen to them, but they don't. My brother I know used to grow marijuana, I don't know if he does that anymore. But he still has a locked cupboard so maybe. But I think that he is selling marijuana because sometimes his friends knock on the door and only stay for a minute or two, and like if you wanted to talk to him for that short, you'd just send a text message, or ring his mobile. If I say anything to my brother he will just get all angry. I just don't know what to do, and I am all confused.
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May 15 2005, 07:06 AM
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i think you should call the cops, or get him into private rehab. Talk to you r mom and try to work on something that you both agree.
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May 15 2005, 08:23 AM
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 .bubblicious inspirations. @ www.bubbliciousoul.com Group: Member Posts: 466 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 112,228 |
you should take your mom and go away... if he's gonna hit u and ur mom.. call the cops!
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