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 Apr 10 2004, 07:06 PM
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 We are the cure.  Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,936 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,456  |
i really dont want to retype it, so i'll just post the PM i messaged to F_L_I_P, even though he can't help with his seven hundred dollars an hours
 "no, she's not a dj. she found out she was pregnant yesterday. she cannot afford to put the child up for adoption, she can't tell her family about it and shes turned to her friends for help. her only option is abortion, but that costs around 450 dollars. i've been trying to help her, but being a kid, i cant do much. the father cant contribute much either. after 6 weeks, the costs rise higher. thanks for listening even if you decide not to help" crap. |
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Apr 10 2004, 07:17 PM
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We are the cure. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,936 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,456 |
okay no im not letting this thread die.
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Apr 10 2004, 07:53 PM
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 doot doot doot Group: Member Posts: 1,803 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,954 |
wow.. =\ i dont knoe but for some reason i thought of red cross.. or go to the bank and borrow money and pay them back with a job after her abortion?
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Apr 10 2004, 08:11 PM
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Woah, she's going through a lot. All I'm really wondering about right now is: why can't she tell her family? My friend's cousin got pregnant in high school, had the baby, and is now home-schooled. Would that work? Ask for help from an adult?
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Apr 10 2004, 08:16 PM
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We are the cure. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,936 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,456 |
super religious christians.
would disown her in a second |
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Apr 10 2004, 08:16 PM
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 baby, be good to me Group: Member Posts: 592 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,358 |
why doesnt she ask a bunch of friends to pitch in...eventually it will add up, and eventually her parents are somehow going to find out why not let them help her get thru it now?
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Apr 10 2004, 08:18 PM
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We are the cure. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,936 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,456 |
QUOTE(cleec @ Apr 10 2004, 9:16 PM) why doesnt she ask a bunch of friends to pitch in...eventually it will add up, and eventually her parents are somehow going to find out why not let them help her get thru it now? she already has. she has six weeks. i only managed to get around thirty dollars, and that was from my own money. |
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Apr 10 2004, 08:19 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 3,102 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,162 |
With all of the money from friends, how much does she have?
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Apr 10 2004, 08:19 PM
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baby, be good to me Group: Member Posts: 592 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,358 |
what about getting a job? this is so sad...i know (well not personally) a 6th grader that is pregant, i don't know how someone could ever deal with this
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Apr 10 2004, 08:20 PM
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We are the cure. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,936 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,456 |
QUOTE(Idyll @ Apr 10 2004, 9:19 PM) With all of the money from friends, how much does she have? not much. she has a minimum wage job. |
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Apr 10 2004, 08:22 PM
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Can she raise enough within 6 weeks?
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Apr 11 2004, 04:22 AM
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If she tells her parents she'd have a much better time. If her parents are truley christian then they should understand to help their child. THey Might be hecka dissapointed but its better. Tell ur friend to suck it up and tell her parents.
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Apr 11 2004, 05:07 AM
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i hate the fact of abortion!!! i really do. but if there isnt any other good way then maybe thats the answer. but abortion has its consequences. i hope ur friend works everything out
 jackie
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Apr 11 2004, 11:46 AM
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questions make me blue. Group: Member Posts: 2,608 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,796 |
hi waccoon..hehe..
anyways.. quite honestly...christians are forgiving...and should be too...unless her parents are the kind to kick out the child once they turn 18 and expect the "kid" to support themselves.. so she could possibly go to her parents for support...if they won`t accept...well..she`s got her loyal friends right? she can survive..many have.. but it`s all her choice that is.. |
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Apr 11 2004, 12:16 PM
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 Mr.Politicly Incorrect Group: Member Posts: 579 Joined: Sep 2005 Member No: 8,405 |
I kon how your feel Coon...my friend was welll im not goin to get in to that story with out her permission but she got pregnant....she had to have an abortion because she could survive the pregnancy....but umm i would have to say that she needs to let her family now....being disowned or not its a risk.....but then again...if she waits to long she will have to have the baby....so either get her to tell her family or save money, have the baby, and put it up for adoption.....Either ways it goin to hard...and without her family knowing its goin to be even harder...I wish her the Best of Luck....i hope everything gets figured out
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Apr 11 2004, 12:48 PM
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how bout welfare... there are programs that help with these problems... her family should help... it's nice to know her man's still with her... bon chance...
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Apr 11 2004, 02:02 PM
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She should contact planned parenthood and see what they can do.
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Apr 11 2004, 03:59 PM
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I've heard that she can get $$ from the gov't or something. Where does she live? It probably depends on the state too.
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Apr 11 2004, 04:49 PM
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I told you nick, topless carwashes!
Moved to : Relationships |
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Apr 11 2004, 05:36 PM
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Borrow money?
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Apr 11 2004, 06:35 PM
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 Some 1 plz find me, help me find my way..my way bak 2 bliss Group: Member Posts: 288 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,748 |
ask all her friends 2 pitch in ask as many ppl as possible get the abortion n tell her parents tat shes stayin over a friends house 4 a couple days
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Apr 11 2004, 10:01 PM
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.. yea. im sortof in the same position also.. my friends shes pregnant and doesnt want to keep it cause if she does she would be forced out of her home...it may sound corny but i went around my neighboorhood asking for contributions to add to the fund.. i made.. around.. i think 150 just alone by that so maybe you should try to do that too..
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Apr 12 2004, 10:47 AM
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QUOTE(Mireh @ Apr 11 2004, 4:49 PM) I told you nick, topless carwashes! Moved to : Relationships this is a realy good idea... more people will come and get there car washed... or maybe... work @ hooters? |
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Apr 12 2004, 04:42 PM
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hey... well maybe you can ask around to random people and ask them to pitch in. i thought the redcross or whatevers did that thingy where you can abort it for free.
 dude that really is... overwhelming. i cant imagine how she feels. 
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Apr 13 2004, 12:18 AM
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no no no!! adoption shouldn't cost the mother a PENNY. the foster parents or whatever you call them pays for EVERYTHING (hospital bills, doctor bills, food, clothes). and she would regret gettin the abortion! I had an abortion, I was 17 1/2 weeks pregnant and that shit cut me and affected me in so many ways. I have dreams about babies and everytime I see a baby commercial I cry. My baby wouldve been born on March 28. When she sees an ultrasound of the life growing inside of her, she would have a change of opinion.
I saw my little angel's hear beat and all 5 fingers, and it moved. I felt it move. But my parents insisted on an abortion. I didnt even give adoption a glance at. It's better to give it up for an adoption. You would know that you're baby is safe and loved rather then knowing that it's dead! Abortion isn't worth it. Tell her to make the right choice. |
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Apr 20 2004, 01:21 PM
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 Mz Nina Nikole Group: Member Posts: 1,343 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,273 |
QUOTE(mzpaddy @ Apr 13 2004, 12:18 AM) no no no!! adoption shouldn't cost the mother a PENNY. the foster parents or whatever you call them pays for EVERYTHING (hospital bills, doctor bills, food, clothes). and she would regret gettin the abortion! I had an abortion, I was 17 1/2 weeks pregnant and that shit cut me and affected me in so many ways. I have dreams about babies and everytime I see a baby commercial I cry. My baby wouldve been born on March 28. When she sees an ultrasound of the life growing inside of her, she would have a change of opinion. I saw my little angel's hear beat and all 5 fingers, and it moved. I felt it move. But my parents insisted on an abortion. I didnt even give adoption a glance at. It's better to give it up for an adoption. You would know that you're baby is safe and loved rather then knowing that it's dead! Abortion isn't worth it. Tell her to make the right choice. im sorry paddy, i love you. |
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Apr 20 2004, 04:12 PM
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parents will have to know someday. and to tell your parents you destroyed their first grandchild: that is even more shocking. abortion, no. adoption, your choice. i'll pray for you
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Apr 23 2004, 12:31 PM
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youch. that's why next time, use protection :-S i wouldn't know what i'd do if i was in her position.
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Apr 23 2004, 12:32 PM
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don't do abortion!... *poor baby* it's not the baby's fault...
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