parents are driving me insane Options

[Koodles]

I'm 19 years old and I live with my parents. Why you ask? It's about a 5 minute walk from the college I attend, and plus, free rent. But the downside of that is I have to deal with my parents. I have come to an age where everything they do gets on my nerves. I love them dearly but I would love to move out.
I have to go to bed when they do. I can't stay up past the time they go to bed or my dad will get angry.
Last night I stayed up all night because I was afraid I was going to sleep in. I'm starting a new job about 1 1/2 hours away from here for the summer and I have to wake up at 6am every day. My parents keep saying "You're going to have a tough time there." That really upsets me for some reason.
Even with school work, they'll be like, "Study! Or there's a job at Wal-Mart waiting for you". That makes me feel depressed. I hate it. I hate living here. This past semester I got a very bad GPA and I know that I will be on academic probation next semester. I don't want my parents to find out what I got or the fact that I am going on academic probation because they want me to get full A's in my classes and if I tell them, I'll feel as though I let them down.
What I would love to do is move out of town, and go study school somewhere fun, and nice. God, I wish that were true.
I also forgot to mention that the other day I was saying to my mom that I was really cold that day. She said in response, "I don't know". They're not even listening.

[loljuliana]

well i guess your parents just want what's best for you. i dont recommend staying up late because it makes paying attention in class hard. if you want to go somewhere fun, but cant, just try not to think too badly about school. school isnt always that bad. sorry if i didnt help, i'm kinda braindead right now.

[Koodles]

What if I want to move out? Which I really do. I'm trying to gather my $100 damage deposit and I'm about $20 short right now. I've got a summer job that will pay me enough to pay for rent, groceries, gas, etc in the fall and spring. But how do I tell my parents that I want to move out without hurting their feelings?

[*mzkandi*]

Girl I say go for it, move out. I know you love your parents but you have to come to that age where you have a right to claim independence. I felt that way as soon as I graduated high school. I told my parents I loved them but I needed to get away and they let me go. I live three hours away from them now and its great. I would hate staying at home under my parents monitoring eyes. Even though they mean well, its get annoying especially since I am 20. But yeah, if moving is what you would like to do then do it.

[Koodles]

You're so right. I'm $7.56 short of my $100 DD, though. I transferred some money into my paypal account so I'll have to send it back to my bank account. *yawn*

[aNg3LBaBi3]

i also say go for it, talk to them that your ready to be on your own and be independent. of course, remind them of how much you love them and thank them for everything. basically try to say more good than bad. definitely plan it out, drop it on them when you guys are getting along and happy. its better to drop it on them while they're happy, they won't be as angry. i have parents like yours, they're not very supportive and are always saying negative things or just dont listen like yours (seems that way by what you said, so no offense if im getting the wrong idea). i rlly suggest you move out cuz its better for you emotionally, and mentally.

[Koodles]

aNg3LBaBi3, you're totally on track with what I'm saying! They definitely don't listen. Even my good friend met them one time and he said to me later, "They're not very nice people". Which I couldn't believe he said, it's true in some respects. At supper tonight, they were like, "You just seem like you're in the woods" or something like that. I just wish they would give me some space but I need to move out and learn how to be independent. I don't want to be 25 and still living with my parents and not know what it's like to live on my own.

[aera]

my brother is attending a college 30 minutes away and my parents were so excited that he was moving out even though they could have saved money...
you should move out as soon as possible. tell you parents that you know they want whats best for you and everything, but you want to be independent and that you are old enough to take care of yourself. and since you want to move out of town, work really hard this semester and next year you can transfer to another college far far away.

[pinayprincess]

whos parents DONT drive them insane? argg i get into so many fights with my mom, because i answer back to her alot--- crazy stuff

[Koodles]

I mean, it's not like I'll be far away. I'll be a drive away. I just need to know how to live on my own. Like I said before, I don't want to be 25, and still live at home.

[xRocMaJox]

Girl,you seem like your doing what you want to in life.Your parents need to learn how to let you go grow up an be indepent.Most people don`t even go study at a college or anywhere so you have something.They shouldn`t tell you to go study or work.I mean they want the best for you but,it seems like your studying to me..I mean your trying to keep up with a job,school,plus cut time to study much less sleep.Which I don`t rec. you staying up all night I do that most the time an it seems to make you all sluggish durning the day.But yeah go out an do you thing an bestest luck on whatever comes you way

[gladz612]

well if u think u're ready to move out then maybe u shud, but before u do u gotta make sure you've got everything covered, u gotta make sure u are responsible enough to budget your expenses. there are alot of bills to cater for and sometimes even alot of sacrifices to make. don't make rational decisions. yes, sometimes u'd think your parents don't understand you, dicourage you tis and that but after all they're your parents and u know u'd mean the world to them, after all blood's thicker than water. what they want for you esp your education is not for them but for your own future. the older you get the mroe the responsibilities and at that time u'd turn back to see how much your parents have cared for u. i agree that in some point in life, you've gotta be independent and move on, take care of them instead of having them take care of you and living alone does train u to be more independent and responsible, so i think it's worth a try if u think ur'e ready for it. just tell them your plans and and ensure them that u're old and responsible enough to take care of yourself so they wouldn't have to worry. tell them that you love them and show them your care and concern, if they're not ok with it the first time u tell them, try pursuading them slowly and patiently. good luck girl*

[kimmie2204]

hey i feel ur pain......i live with my parents right now cuz i dont have the money to move out......it has its ups and downs.......i love them to death but i really just wnat my own place.......but dont worrie.....u wont live with them forever.......thats what i tell my bf all the time cuz he has the same problem.......eventually u will get out and it will be kool......just try not to blow a fuse and then ruin things with ur parents......cuz that u might have to live with forever!

[Koodles]

Hey,
I just told my mom that I want to move out. She said "Who would pay for that?" and I said, "My summer job" and she said, "That's a waste for a summer job" and she said that my grandma wouldn't pay for it. And then she said, "What about the car? You wouldn't have a car" and I said, "Yeah, I get it in the summer" and she said, "You'd park it at the school?" and I said, "Yeah" and she said, "No, it has to stay in the garage". What the hell do I do? I can't live here anymore. I don't want to be 20 and still living at home.

I didn't even have a chance to show her what I've researched and everything. I've set out all my budget and everything.

I asked my mom what she told her mom about moving out and she said, "Well, I really moved out because I went to school in another city".

What the heck do I do????

[Koodles]

Ok..then.

[*not_your_average*]

I say stay until you've got all your finances in order. Until then, try to deal with your parents. They seem like critical people, but you need to sit down and talk with them about how how you feel about them. Until then, keep your head up, and stay patient.

Good luck!

[Koodles]

hehe okay, thanks for the suggestion. It's only 12 days until I start my new job, I hope I can stay calm around em.

[megan_x3]

my parents drive me insane ! they took away my keyboard for no reason .. ok lets stick to the topic.. i guess you should sit down with them and explain to them what is in your mind. if you're really afraid of turning them down on your GPA , then tell them what is happening to you in school and for the reason why your GPA is so low. I think that your mom might feel the same way as you do, thinking that you don't care and just other crazy stuff that some parents think. =/ sorry to hear about that.

[Koodles]

thanks xxaznxgurlxx :)