HELP!!!, Crazy boyfriend... Options

[NyteRyder]

Alright heres the deal. my best friend(a girl) wants to break up with her current boyfriend. She called me up crying cuz she tried to break up but he wouldn't let her. He was threatening to kill himself and cut himself and all this ****. Now, shes my best friend and i love her to death, and i dont know what to tell her. I dont want to see her beat herself up over this guy. They havent even been goin out for that long. just 2 months and he claims that hes inlove with her and he cant live without her. I told her its best to get it over done QUICK before it gets worst, but she doesnt want him to hurt himself over her.....HELP. Leave some advice PLEASE!!! thanks

[Juicy <3]

Woah, he must really like her. I suggest you tell your friend to give him some time, sometimes breaking up with someone is the hardest thing to do, and the result is always someone getting hurt. She should sit him down and talk to him, why she doesn't want to be in the relationship, and if he really loved her, he'd let her move on....If that doesn't work then, i don't know. Sorry.

[blonde@<3]

wow! thats hard to say! i agree that she should talk to him but i'd suggest that you be with or near her cuz if he threatens to hurt himself you never know when he might just hurt her...thats juss to be safe! and if he starts sayin that he'll hurt himself then tell her to explain to him that she loves him enough that she don't want him to hurt himself but if he really loves her then she needs to be happy and move on.....they can still be friends.....

[dahding]

if it's love...he'd let her go. cause all he would want is the best for her. he won't. he's being a clingy annoying bastard. who cares about him. i say, stomp on his heart, and then crush it into itty bitty pieces, then laugh and skip away.

[kill me please]

she should have a serious talk with him. you know he might need some help...

[shortiiex]

she can threaten to kill herself if she doesn't break up with him
or
she can say if you love let me go

[momo33]

LIke if I'm that girl, I'll just break up with him even if he want to cut and kill himself. I don't think he's actucally going to hurt himself, and even if he does, than i will have no regert breaking up with him. LIke what a loser! Cutting himself and stuff. She needs to break up with him before it get's more serious, her currently boyfriend sounded too attach to her.

[blonde@<3]

if it's love...he'd let her go. cause all he would want is the best for her. he won't. he's being a clingy annoying bastard. who cares about him. i say, stomp on his heart, and then crush it into itty bitty pieces, then laugh and skip away.

lol or you can do that!

[kyuubi319]

Jees. If he really loves her, he'd be happy, no? And if he were happy, he'd rely on her instead of self mutialtion, no? Hmm, I say, sit his ass down and have a nice serious talk with him.

[NyteRyder]

Thing is, she talked to him for like 5 hours this weekend straight, she tried to break it off but apparently he didnt want that. He was crying like a little bitch and hyperventalating n S***. She told me he used to cut himself and be depressed and he might do it again cuz of her. All his friends agree too. I seriously doubt he loves her. its only been 2 months. He doesnt know her like i know her. and it pisses me off to see her in this situation. If he even trys to hurt her, i'll beat the snot outta the kid, so dont worry about that.

[*mzkandi*]

if it's love...he'd let her go. cause all he would want is the best for her. he won't. he's being a clingy annoying bastard. who cares about him. i say, stomp on his heart, and then crush it into itty bitty pieces, then laugh and skip away.

Exactly what I was going to say. I dont call my your bf's boyfriend is doing "love". He's seeing how well he can control her. It may sound harsh but you need to tell your friend to ditch the guy. If she is really that concerned that he may try to hurt himself then she should tell a school conselor or some adult that she can trust.

[aera]

she should tell him that she will still be there for him. he said that he would kill himself without her, but hes still with her, as a friend. and, like everyone else said, if he really loved her, then he would let her dowhat she wants to do. which is breaking up with him.

[--x who0ps]

eh, the boys talking bullcrap.
he wouldnt kill himself. he's jst being a drama king.
the jerk needs to get a life.
she should jst break up with him cause theres nothing she can do anyway.
why the frck should she be forced into a relationship?
thats jst wrong.
and like dahding said, if he truely loves her, he'd learn to let her go.

[_sarcastic_]

kill himself just cause she's breaking up with him? i don't think he'll acutally do that. she should just dump him and ask him to get over it. he just doesn't want to get dumped.

[Chii]

eh, the boys talking bullcrap.
he wouldnt kill himself. he's jst being a drama king.

yes, my last ex was like this, he was just full of sh*t. "blah blah i cut myself, i want to die, i hate life" just tell your best friend to break up with him. she's already dealt with his crap long enough. it won't be her fault if he does kill himself (which he most likely isn't).

or if you want, just tell her to tell her guidance counselor about him, she/he'll straighten him out.

[loljuliana]

i doubt he's going to do anything to himself. tell your friend not to worry, he'll get over it

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

If he really loves her and wants her to be happy he has to understand that sometimes when you love someone you gotta let them go.

[enyceXaddiction]

If he really loves her and wants her to be happy he has to understand that sometimes when you love someone you gotta let them go.

gosh the guys crazy AGREED^

[dani41790]

Oh my goodness. Yes I agree with everyone how your friend should have a talk with him. Either that or she should find a way to make him break up with her. Idk

[yukichan]

a lot of ppl say that when they break up with someone and they dont want to..i think the girl should talk to him and tell him that shes breaking up..like some ppl said, if he really did love her, he would let her go..

[vz_danielle]

what you mean "he wouldn't let her"?
the relation ship is between both of them.
i mean,
how can the boy be that selfish?
if he really love her,
he should listen instead of doing those stupid things
like killing himself.
am i right?

[gladz612]

hem... how old is that guy? seems like he's naive and immature. and to be honest.. most of the guys who say they'll hurt themselves never end up hurting themselves. like yea they might hit their fist against the wall or do stupid immature acts like that to scare their g/f but ppl. who truely want to commit suicide will not tell others they would. i think he jsut wants to draw attention and that's really stupid. if he really loves her he would want her to be happy and if it means to break up, he'd say yes to it. he'd rather be friends with her than to see her being in a realationship that has no meaning in it. honestly, you shud advice your friend to leave him asap.

[NyteRyder]

i dont know this guy personally, nor do i want to. My friend is 17 and i think hes either 17 or 18. They met each other at work and he goes to a different school than us. We havent talked since sunday so i dunno whats goin in if she split or what

[__PASS10NAT3]

Omigoshh.. that sounds a lot like my ex.. lol.. well.. he was onlyy jokin when he said all that.. but uhh.. maybe you should talk to her bf.. try explaining??.. just be careful.. cuz that bf of her sounds a lil crazyy if we wasnt jokin..

;;That guy should learn to M.o.v.e O.n && L.e.t G.o`

[NyteRyder]

i know. what a faggot

[nothingless]

seriously, would you let someone you LOVE go so easily??! i couldn't. but i wouldn't say i'd go crazy. just inform his parents.

[megan_x3]

that guy seems like hes crazi ! or maybe he should see a doctor or something that can cure him. =.='' tell you friend that to tell him ... if you love me ... let me go.... because if he doesn't love her ... he won't let her go..

[xldubaliciousx]

Goodness. This one sounds like a tough cookie. The guy obviously really really "loves" this girl. But I mean does he have any friends that are there for him? If he has someone else there to get over the relationship.. It might be easier. But if not, then if I were your friend I would break up with him asap, not in person though because he might put her through the guilt trip or pull the line that if he can't have her then no one else can. So maybe on the phone? And then if he starts acting really weird.. Like stalking her and talking about killing himself.. I think you need to tell a conselor or something because even though it might be a bluff you don't want to risk it. Well good luck to your friend! And I hope that made sense..

[queenofthelame13]

Okay. Well, he seems to have an insecurity problem..either that or he just wants attention.
Don't let her give him it. Just tell her to stay away from him for awhile. Then after a few weeks she should talk to him and tell him how she feels.
Hope that helps.

[blondisnirvana]

Maybe you could report the boyfriend to the school counselor. He probably has something majorly wrong with him.

[SimplicityGirl]

Tell her to have a serious talk with him about their relationship. Two months really isn't that long a time for a budding relationship. And if he "won't" let her go, then obviously he doesn't love her as he claims. If you really love someone, you'll let them go. And maybe tell your friend to tell her boyfriend to have a chat with the counsellor....he sounds like he has some personal issues.

[Kneuklid Romance]

........this guy seriously needs attention. This is the sob story I told someone else to watch out for in another post sometime ago. Up to them how they handle it.

-Kevyn

[krnxbabe85]

well.. he must like her a lot but he's being really selfish and immature.. i suggest that before it gets worse, break up, and if he wont let her go and ever threatens her again, she prob should call the cops or get some serious help before it gets further and really outta control. it may seem simple but it really could get dangerous

[pinyoboy]

thats really scary...O_O;; i would suggest counseling for the guy. i guess what your friend can do is put some serious space in between herself and the guy. he could jus b bluffin to make her stay wit him