WHat Now, Friends fighting |
 Apr 29 2005, 01:21 PM
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i don't know what i'm supposed to do anymore, some of my best friends are getting mad at me because they say I'm in an abusive friendship, but they don't understand. Ok, i have this friend, he's a realy strong and intimidating guy, but really nice. He tells me everything, things no one else would in their right minds think of telling someone so I'm really close with him. He gets angry a lot, andwhen he does he'll yell, usaully at me, to let steam off. This doesn't bother me, cause he won't ever hit, i know that for a fact, you gotta trust me here, but sometimes when he puts the blame on me he'll grabb my arm and pull me off to the side. And once when he thought i said something to a girl he liked he grabbed my hair and pulled me to the ground. He always feels really bad after he does it, but that's just the way he reacts to things and he knows i understand. My friends don't. They think i need to stop forgiving him, report him, or least get angry with him after he does things like that. How am I supposed to make them understand my point of view without hem saying that I'm in "denial"?
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| *mzkandi* |
Apr 29 2005, 01:26 PM
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He pulls your hair and pulled you to the ground! He yells at you to let off steam. Girl you are in denial. Sure you may say he hasnt hit you but being an abusive relationship doesnt always involve hitting. Verbal abuse for example, yelling at you to let a steam. Physical abuse, pulling your hair are all signs of an abusive relationship. I am not going make a decision on and your relationship because you dont even know me, I know for a fact people in these types relationship like you are in are head strong in staying in them. But your friends have a right to be concern. I would be to if I was your friend
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Apr 29 2005, 01:27 PM
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I'm Cattt. :] Group: Validating Posts: 1,722 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,831 |
you have to tell your friends that. they are just caring for you
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Apr 29 2005, 01:28 PM
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i gues juss tell themyur point of the story
and tell them that they're not seeing the storyfrom your eye. and that they would know how you feel if they were in yur position. |
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| *iNyCxShoRT* |
Apr 29 2005, 01:30 PM
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well tell them your story from your point of view. wow he seems very bad tempered. yeah i agree with them i guess your friends are just loking out for you.
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Apr 29 2005, 02:53 PM
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 Perfectionist, Loner, Confident, Mysterious, Imperfect, Kevyn Group: Member Posts: 370 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,095 |
......can I kick this guy's ass please?
-Kevyn |
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Apr 29 2005, 03:42 PM
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gRaCiE Group: Member Posts: 350 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 96,997 |
um..ok i understand that ur friend lets off steam on u cuz he's ur friend n friends do that to each other. it's better to let off steam on a friend rather than the person that they're mad at. but WHY did he PULL YOUR HAIR?! n then pull u TO THE GROUND?! thats going to far. i never hit my friends or pull their hair. even my close friends....wow. but be careful cuz he might start hitting u eventually n u wont even see it coming. if it gets that far...end the relationship. right there. n im serious wen i say, it'll only get worse. it wont ever get better cuz i've been there. it doesnt matter if he feels bad after he does those things the point is that he's DOING those things in the first place. so get ur act together n look at wat's coming rite in front of u or u'll end up getting ur ass beat by someone who is a really "close friend"
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Apr 30 2005, 03:03 PM
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 *scribble scribble* Group: Member Posts: 1,314 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 119,610 |
he yells at you to let off steam. he pulls your hair and you to the ground. your friends have a right to be worried. his temper control is horrible, and you should get mad at him sometimes when he does this to you, especially when he pulss your hair. that just wrong. none of friends would do that unless we were really angry.
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Apr 30 2005, 03:59 PM
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 ticktock. Group: Member Posts: 1,138 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 118,235 |
I think you should listen to your friends on this one. yeah he trusts you, but that doesnt give him the right to hurt you in that way. you shouldnt be so passive with him. you really shouldnt let him do that. listen to your friends; in a situation like this, they're right.
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Apr 30 2005, 04:01 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 913 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 101,212 |
Ummm, sorry hun, but you are in an abusive relationship.
Either tell the guy to stop doing the abusiveness or you'll report him. I think you have friends for a reason. You trust their decision. Thats the basis of a friendship. Listen to your friends. 
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Apr 30 2005, 08:12 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
it doesn't matter if he apologizes after he hurts you, it's still wrong. you should tell the guy to stop. your friends are actually right on this one, they don't watn to see you get hurt like you are now. i'm sorry to say but you are in an abusive relationship.
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