Parent's divorce, Are anyone else's parents going through Options

[Markov]

My parents are getting a divorce because my dad cheated on my mom. Technically, it's HIS fault, deserting the family and such, but I ... just... don't know... Is anyone else going through this right now? If so, please.... Share... i guess. and if anyone would be kind enough please give me some advice.
Thank you.

[--x who0ps]

ahh, its okayy (:
well, my parents are still together, but they fight constantly.
and once they were SO close to splitting.
they fought/fight over the most STUPIDEST things ! honestly !
like what are we gunna eat and whos gunna skinn the potato & who was right or who was wrong.
for gawsh sakes, does it really matter?
ehh anyways my advice to you is to try to forget about all this, keep your mind preopcupied with something eles. like homework & studys or something.

if you need to talk, pm me if you want (:
feel better

[KELLYYY]

Sigh. I would be crying all the time if I was in your shoes. I wouldn't know who to go with. I mean, it's too hard. But I hope you feel better about it. If you need someone to talk to, you can IM me on AIM and hopefully, you'll feel better soon.

[freeflow]

im somewhat growing through this for a long time cept my parents didnt divorce because they want my brother to grow up more .. but ne ways i know my dads cheating on my mom forsure ..im positive but i cant say anything because my mom will get mad at me for bringing it up .. and for the past 3 months? i havent been really liking my dad because of the way he is .. soo know im staying in this crappy family were my dads never home and forsure cheating on my mom adn my mom says well move w/out him but we never do .. somewhat relating to you

sorry for the storyy .. just show`n you i can relate somewhat

the best advice i can give you is that you have to stay strong through the whole process .. i know that its really hard and changes are going to occur but you have to do your best to stay up .. even though you know its your dads fault . People make mistakes and maybe your parents like mine werent directly meant to be together maybe they werebut since your going through this tough time i think its best if you be strong no matter how hard it is if you have to cry .. cry dont keep it in because that doesnt do much for you .. i really hope things get better for you .
You may want to talk to your and tell her how you feel about the situation . or talk to anyone that can relate or a counselor it sounds weird and all but it really helps ..trust me .. i hope ihelped you some what

[vampireduster]

mine divorced when i was a month old. so i really dont know. me and my dad are not that close

[onemanshow]

gone thru that b4.... in the end, u will think.. as long as they are happy about it afterall... its none of ur business as they would also tell u that later on... :)

[gladz612]

well divorce is a really common thing now.. i'm not saying that it's a good thing but it jsut happens alot nowadays so don't think that ti's the end of the world or anything.. well when 2 people aren't exactly happy together maybe it'll be for the better to split up.. u'd want the both of them to be happy right? but if u're really not feeling right baout it.. approach them and tell them how u feel.. after all ur'e their child and ultimately i believe your thoughts and emotions would mean the most to them.. don't take it too hard on yourself ok!

[kyuubi319]

Eh, I went through it when I was 5. Literally five. It was February 22nd and my dad and my mom got in a fight. My dad supposedly tried to hit her, according to my mom, which is total bullshit. She called the cops. My dad left. I didn't see him for 3 weeks. Then I saw him saturday night and we drove to a motel [econo lodge]. He cried. It was probably one of the worst times in my life. But then they continuously got together and seperated so it was kind of like a repeating process. They're seperate now but if they get together again.. well, I won't like it very much at all because I'm just extremely sick of going through the same shit time and time again. Since then I've been through several counselors and happy pills. None of which worked, but I guess I am slowly getting over it.
I don't suppose I helped much though. I apologize. I hope it works out better for you. Think of it this way, it's better than them being together and you knowing that your father's cheating on your mom.

[Kneuklid Romance]

parents these days are quite the morons.....and especially the dads..always lazy and being slapped around by the mother who keeps and maintains the stronghold in the family. At least you've seen your father...I have no idea who hell mine is.....nor do I care...I am fine without him. I can do without irresponsibility in my household. Anyway I know you'll pull through with support...and when the dust settles at least you'll have your life.

Cherish it greatly...for life is too short to be doing stupid things like what your dad did...

I can only imagine how you and your mother feel.

Good luck

-Kevyn

[toodlepops.]

I know this sucks right now, but cheer up. ;]
Sometimes, their divorce is for something better.

[krnl0v3r]

i have a storie for yoo guys..

when i was 2 my parents devorced and i had to live with my dad and brother. but my dad cheated on my mother so thats why they divorced. so my dad decided to live with the women he was cheating with. and i didnt really like her even though i was only 2. we had moved down to missouri and they made me sleep in the basement.. and if there was a bug that i saw and i was scared the lady my dad cheated with would make me pick it up... so i was 4 or 5 when everything turned really bad. My dad didnt want me, bcuz he hated me.. so he called up my real mom who was at my grandparents home, and he said to her " i hate girls, i hate your daughter" " im going to send her back to you".. and i over herd him say that and i cried... so i went to a plain by myself even though i was only 5 years of age and when i came to texas my mom and aunt picked me up. i was so happy to see my mom and i cried and i told her all the horrobal things my dad and step mom did to me.. so now me i am 16 and i live with my mother... but yet very sad bcuz i miss my brother who is with my dad....


anyways sorry botu your parents

[__PASS10NAT3]

My parents have been arguing a lot lately. They keep talking about a divorce. My mom's consulting a whole bunch of lawyers.. The only thing that's keeping them from doing it is me && my sis... =\

[Kneuklid Romance]

they fought/fight over the most STUPIDEST things ! honestly !
like what are we gunna eat and whos gunna skinn the potato & who was right or who was wrong.

That's when your responsibility as a son/daughter does...to step in and take control of the situation. (if you dont' do that already.)

The biggest conflicts begin with the smallest of problems..and well that's your cue. Sometimes even grown adults can act childish, and should that arise your attention to bring them down to Earth.

The more people sit back and absorb this tension the bigger the emotional scars will be left...sometimes you just need to take charge and step in. There will be tension but at least there's a bigger chance of apology.

Mainly from the parents for dragging you into it...and all it takes is one sincere apology to mend the tension and start back from square 1.

-Kevyn

[aznangel4eva]

its aiigh...believe me...be happy that they are. better apart than together. i wish my rents were gettin one.

[mistaken_identit...]

Well, I NEARLY went through divorce a couple years ago. My dad was cheating on my mum, like yours. I couldn't help but think he's such an a-hole and I hated him so badly cus he was the one who's breaking the whole family apart. I was really hurt...and hearing them fight all the time was awful, so I sort of get how you feel. I think, if they go through divorce you need to be strong...just hold your head up high even if you don't want to and don't let it get to you. It's all the adults doing the wrong thing and just stay cool. I think maybe...maybe you can start thinking about whether you want to stay with your mum/dad which I think most likely you'll want to stay with your mum but well, maybe you like your dad more. To me, at that time, when we NEARLY had to choose I chose my mum 'cause I just can't trust my dad anymore.

Parents getting divorce is an absolutely terrible thing...to me..it was terrible even though they didn't end up like that now. If it really bothers you, I think it'll be good to focus on a hobbie/sport and take your mind off things for a bit. Just remember it's not your fault at all and it's just stupidity of your parents. Don't worry. Everything will turn out fine and you'll get used to it. Good luck and I really hope this'll help. :)

[cHuNsAbAbIe012]

i havent went through it but i can only imagine wat it would be like. but wat i know for sure is u have stay strong no matter wat happens. dont be in despair or it'll f**k up your life. i mean i've had friends who have parents that got divorced. if u just get depressed n not care about n e thing else that is going on then it'll only ruin ur life in the end. concentrate on things that will keep ur mind off it. n e thing. it will help a lil bit. but stay strong. u can get through this. i know u can.

[Markov]

Thanks to all you guys
Luckily, I was never really close with my dad because he always favored my brother over me. A Lot. Whenever he was going out with a client or whatever to like disneyland or knotts or universal studios, he would always take my brother, and always leave me at home ever since I was 5 *i dont know about before that. I was too young.* And it always meant that i had to make myself peanut butter sandwiches because my mom was at work. And he never told her. So I think I'll be able to...well, cope better than most people going through this.
Thanks again everyone.

[kimmie2204]

my parents divorced when i was 5.........it was really hard on me.....i was so mad that i cut my hair off.......but it was my mom that cheated on my dad.......and i always blamed her.......but now after growing up more.....i realized that my dad was a jerk and that they always had problems........

its really hard at first to deal with it.........but after a while u will realize that they just werent ment to be together......and its ok

[dani41790]

Aww i'm sorry you and your family have to go through that. But anyways no, my parents haven't divorced.

[loljuliana]

i dont know what to say. my parents arent divorced. but i have alot of friends who have divorced parents. i guess they're okay about it now; but when it first happened; a lot of confusion went around and i guess anger? after awhile, it begins to get annoying because yu keep having to visit each parent.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

when i was 4 my mom left me so i stayed with my dad and sister but she comes to visit every so often, my life would've totally changed if they never divorced.

[xRocMaJox]

Well when my parents where going through a divorce it was very complicated for me an both my brother.But you have to stay strong an no matter what your Dad has done you can`t push him away.Stay strong for you an your Mom.You`ll feel all confused cause they`ll both be like "Blah your dad did this" an he`ll be like "Blah your mom did this" they`ll confuse you but you can`t let that get to you no matter what.

[Eryi]

I hope mine don't, but best of luck.

[heyyfrankie]

i'm sorry to hear that but just always remember: IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!

my parents got divorced whenever i was like 5 so i can't give much advice but remember what i said.

[teeners4]

yea... when i was 7ish. my dad cheated on my mom twice. and they're divorced. they still talk and fight though

[Azn_Pryde06]

I've gone through that. It does really feel heavy to come around with, but for as long you don't keep in mind the situation you currently reside in, then it's all good. My parents are still together, but soon though; they'll move on. Maybe when I graduate from HS. At first I never really understood where they stand. Now though, as time passed by, I slowly learned to cope with it. The hurt just faded away. You just gotta understand, if not, try to. I now know where both of my parents are coming from. They just probably got tired of each other, unfortunately they still have to wait, at least to protect our FAMILY name, since my grandparents hated their reputation to be stain. My dad just don't like the idea of destroying his "side"

I just don't understand how rich people go through a lot, just to keep what they value intact.



- [Lalainester] -

[*Weird addiction*]

OMG! exactly what's going on in my family...OMG! i don't know what to do though...

[shawty_redd]

oh my
i hate divorces
my parents are still together but ughh
divorces are just mean nasty things =/

[taintedtrash]

been there, done that.
had the hardships, yada yada yada, who hasn't.
my parents are actually still together, but they're a rare case i guess.

try and remember that our parents are HUMAN too. its kind of like, when you have a bf, and you slowly lose interest in him, and start liking another guy. but that's just a small simile, you know.

try to think outide of the box, rather than whats going on NOW.
try to understand your parents.