going behind their back |
 Apr 24 2005, 09:01 AM
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Senior Member  Group: Member Posts: 258 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,101  |
is it right to go behind a gf/bf's back to find out the truth about something? i know that it is always best to ask, but what if they dont tell u the truth? do you think its a bit wrong to be sneaky and go behind their back to find something out?
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Apr 24 2005, 09:37 AM
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 insanitys contagious. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,210 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 99,707 |
I would do it , but watch out if they find out.
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Apr 24 2005, 11:17 AM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
It's always better to confront the situation.....because if they do find out....it doesn't normally end well....
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Apr 24 2005, 11:39 AM
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 Be yourself. Unless you suck Group: Member Posts: 135 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 129,315 |
If they are obviously lying I would try to find out the truth.
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Apr 24 2005, 11:45 AM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
Yah, u just wanna find the truth and if they dont tell u, then u have tht right
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| *mzkandi* |
Apr 24 2005, 12:14 PM
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The truth has a way of coming out, but i will say i have done some investigating at times to find out the real truth of what my friends were hiding. and after i find out we talk about and bond
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Apr 24 2005, 12:20 PM
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 kristin Group: Member Posts: 5,705 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,985 |
No, it's not wrong. If you really need to find out an answer and want to make sure it's right..I think it's ok. But you should comfront them before anything.
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Apr 24 2005, 12:29 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
Well, if confronting them about it doesn't work, then I would do that. I've done it before...
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Apr 24 2005, 12:35 PM
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 panda babe Group: Member Posts: 44 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,694 |
well wouldn't they tell you the truth if you asked them? if you`re in a relationship with someone then you must trust that person and believe that they`ll tell you the truth. just ask before you do anything coz going behind their backs is like you dont believe em`, & you dont trust them, both important in the relationship and it wont end well either
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Apr 24 2005, 01:57 PM
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 jiyOunnn~ Group: Member Posts: 692 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 109,706 |
lols. sometimes it's okay.. but don't let them find out cause they'll probably get mad cause they expect trust from you.. depends how much you really want to find out i guess.
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Apr 24 2005, 04:54 PM
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 rwar (; Group: Member Posts: 590 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,308 |
well.. i guess it would be bad.
but then it really depends on what you find out >< but if you're asking this because your gf and that piano stuff with her ex.. then i would figure not to do it, cause relationships are based on trust. and besides, if she find out, you`re in deep doodoo
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Apr 24 2005, 06:53 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 258 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,101 |
well its becoming more than just going to his house for piano...she visits him at work all the time and talks on the phone wiht him and aim alot too...
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Apr 24 2005, 10:03 PM
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 *scribble scribble* Group: Member Posts: 1,314 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 119,610 |
if they are lying, try to find out. if it seems bad, then confront them.
but if you think shes cheating on you when shes really throwing you a suprise party or something, you shouldnt confront her. i think that was a little off topic... |
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Apr 24 2005, 10:10 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
it really depends...like if it's a present and you want to know what to get them, or some of their favorite foods, and other stuff like that then it's okay
if it's something deeper like cheating then that's just wrong...it's like is this what you're always going to do? ask other people what's going on with the person you're supposed to know best? are you just going to go by the word of mouth everytime? you need to trust your girlfriend/boyfriend, he/she's innocent until proven guilty |
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Apr 25 2005, 04:47 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 258 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,101 |
and thats the thing, i do trust her, which is why ive asked her and totally taken her word for it. maybe its just a bit of jealousy on my part..
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Apr 25 2005, 05:18 PM
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gRaCiE Group: Member Posts: 350 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 96,997 |
its not good to go behind their back. i believe that even if they're lying to u then u should still trust them if u really love them. i mean talking to someone isnt going behind their back but just dont go through their stuff n shit like that u know?
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Apr 25 2005, 05:24 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Designer Posts: 4,591 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 77,305 |
I do it for fun. I call her a whore in front of my friends and she called me a toe sucker LOL.
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Apr 25 2005, 06:16 PM
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 atleast pretend to care? Group: Member Posts: 262 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 104,176 |
If you really love someone, you should trust and believe them. If they really love you, they wouldn't lie or be dishonest.
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Apr 25 2005, 06:24 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
NO BUT THEN AGAIN, WHAT IS THE POINT OF HAVING A RELATIONSHIP IF YOU DONT TRUST YOUR GUY/GIRL --- IN A RELATIONSHIP, YOU'RE COMMITTED MEANING YOU HAVE TO TRUST THE OTHER PERSON...
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Apr 25 2005, 06:43 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 63 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 90,611 |
they'll feel bad that you didnt trust them. you could say "if you dont tell me the truth, im gonna go behind your back and find out"...but not so bluntly....at least you'll have given them a heads up and they cant be angry about it when you do.
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Apr 25 2005, 08:29 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
it's wrong ot have no trust....but you have find that trust first
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Apr 26 2005, 12:39 PM
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 147. Group: Member Posts: 107 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 113,787 |
well.. its up to u.. i mean.. go behind her / his back.. to find out, its either disappointing u or adding trust on him / her. at least u will find out something ya?
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Apr 26 2005, 01:04 PM
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I'm Cattt. :] Group: Validating Posts: 1,722 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,831 |
i dont think its wrong. you have to find out the truth right? even if you gonna have to break sum barriers
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| *iNyCxShoRT* |
Apr 29 2005, 11:08 AM
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it`s better to ask them, and if they lie i say get the news from a friend or so >=)
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