Smart Guys Don't Get The Girls, 10 Reasons Why. |
 Apr 21 2005, 06:54 PM
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 You can call me Jon  Group: Duplicate Posts: 878 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,806  |
10 Reasons Why Intelligent Men Don't Get Women
Now now, I know what you're all thinking. cB is dominantly mature enough and (ahem) intelligent enough to take this seriously. The author here has published his writing, and he too, also has had exceptional experience; so no need to bash his credentials. So...I was wondering. Any guys get some answers? 
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Apr 21 2005, 07:29 PM
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B-rex Group: Member Posts: 149 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 128,689 |
well i wouldnt know im not exactly the smart type, im not dumb, just not super smart
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Apr 21 2005, 09:05 PM
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 The Hooded Warrior Group: Member Posts: 40 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 124,833 |
wow that sounds just like me 2 years ago
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Apr 21 2005, 09:27 PM
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 former member Group: Member Posts: 706 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 122,339 |
i really dont know....im smart and i dont do that stuff....course i havent had a girlfriend so it must be true
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Apr 21 2005, 09:32 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 1 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 128,947 |
(im new) well im smart but those things are what i try not to do and im usally wrong. but im smart...... its kinda wierd...
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Apr 22 2005, 10:25 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Designer Posts: 4,591 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 77,305 |
I don't know if it's true 'cause i get girls and I'm smart. Lol.
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Apr 22 2005, 02:43 PM
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 WEASEL Group: Member Posts: 62 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,294 |
Hmm... I'm Quite Inteligent... Yet I Have No Problems When it Comes To Women ...
 THough The Fact That I'm A Poet , I Own A Mercedes, And I'm A Romantic At heart Seem To be The main Reasons For This... Or Its Just My Wit , Charm, And Well Rounded Sense Of Humor...  No, No, Its The Mercedes...  
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Apr 22 2005, 03:18 PM
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 I can't believe its not "Ryan" Group: Member Posts: 1,981 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,368 |
im smart and i get chicks. not always true.
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Apr 22 2005, 04:14 PM
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 I have no life Group: Member Posts: 1,119 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 66,675 |
Gah I hope thats not true...i can get girls...just as long as I ask them out...
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Apr 22 2005, 04:43 PM
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 dripping destruction Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,282 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,929 |
hmmm...
well i guess i'm lucky i'm failing math. |
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Apr 22 2005, 07:01 PM
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 SCHGEB!SCHGEB! Group: Member Posts: 1,786 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 66,217 |
i kno a really smart guy and he's had quite a few girlfriends. he currently has one
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Apr 22 2005, 08:39 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 913 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 101,212 |
Hmmm, this has been brought to my attention.
 Not many of the smart dudes have a girlfriend...  Well at my school anyway
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Apr 27 2005, 09:13 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 62 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,984 |
u want ten reasons why inteligent guys don't get girls. here's my top 5
5. school is always first 4. GIRLS? no time for girls 3. does my mom count? 2. don't talk sweet 1. weird. |
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Apr 27 2005, 09:16 AM
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I can't believe its not "Ryan" Group: Member Posts: 1,981 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,368 |
maybe yal are talking about nerds! lets define this, because there are a lot of smart people and a lot of girls are attracted to smart guys. Or, maybe you guys are talking about smart guys.
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May 7 2005, 02:01 AM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 1 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 135,682 |
REASON #3: POOR SOCIAL SKILLS
wow, that is somehow true, don't you guys think so? Without any social skills = hard time to meet anyone |
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May 7 2005, 03:00 AM
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 yeah. i'm kevin. Group: Member Posts: 1,399 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 38,782 |
lol how smart are we talking about, some of the reasons i can relate to
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May 7 2005, 03:40 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
how sad. the guy i like right now fits 100% into that list. perfectly.
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May 7 2005, 03:54 AM
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 .bubblicious inspirations. @ www.bubbliciousoul.com Group: Member Posts: 466 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 112,228 |
hahahhaha i hf to agree with that esp - REASON #6: THEY FOCUS ON LOGIC INSTEAD OF EMOTION. how true!
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May 7 2005, 10:41 AM
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 WWMD?! - i am from the age of BM 2 Group: Member Posts: 5,308 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,848 |
i love smart guys.
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May 7 2005, 10:49 AM
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 Another ditch in the road... you keep moving Group: Member Posts: 6,281 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,152 |
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and smart guys love you, my dear. yeah. so. thats not really true... i mean, it makes sense... but you cant just group people like that. its stupid |
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May 9 2005, 05:35 PM
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 The Best Thing Since Instant Soup Group: Member Posts: 815 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 104,928 |
Bullshit.. Depends what type of smart you are. If you're smart enough to tell a girl what they want to hear, then you'll get all of them. Like me. I'm a friggin' genius and a damn pimp. 147 = I.Q. Thank you
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May 9 2005, 07:06 PM
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 Faster. Harder. Better than the average bear. Group: Member Posts: 59 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 136,783 |
of course all brains isnt gonna get you any women. XD u need to be hot rich n funny. but um, being smart is not going to deter tha ladies. most all the girls i know want a smart guy.
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May 9 2005, 10:21 PM
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 sang loves hayden. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,373 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 5,687 |
Some smart guys in my class are the ladiezz man.. i am also, but im not that smart. Some ladiezz like smart students because they probably dont want a dum and dimwitted guy. Girls who don't choose smart guys, they may go for the looks? just an opinion.. xD Personality on the guy's is the best way to get//meet ladiezz..
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May 10 2005, 02:44 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 226 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 117,662 |
i think reason #8 is definately true...at least it applies to me in some way. haha
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May 23 2005, 02:03 AM
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 There is no cure for the heart of tearless eyes. -James Hall Group: Member Posts: 67 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 141,536 |
Here I go again to spill my heart out to a bunch of people I don't know...
Ok, first we are talking about "intelligence", while I don't think that is really the guy that don't get the girls. There are intelligent and attractive guys and they get the girls. Nice guys usually don't get the girls, but guys with WISDOM I think more often do not get the girls. Guys with wisdom have a knowledge of life and are very distinct from other people, although often they are also very intelligent. Although no one fits this system rigorously, let's look at the people as balanced. Very attractive people are popular. They get dates, their social skills are being like everyone else that is popular. They might have intelligence, but usually lack wisdom and/or kindness. If conformity means being stupid, then they act or are stupid. Then, you have your somewhat attractive people. They get dates, they have decent social skills, but also have their own values and will not conform against what they value the most. They are probably from average to high intelligence, have some wisdom, and are probably nice. Last, you have your intelligent and wise people. They are probably less attractive and although they might not be ugly, they usually feel they are and are treated as if they were ugly because they are not popular. Their wisdom and higher system of values will not allow them to conform to everyone else, They may have poor social skills and might be very shy and quiet. They are usually introverts, and therefore may have a deep potential for passion. Although these people may not always show to be the nicest people, they may have the greatest potential for kindness and usually enjoy helping others. These are people that you can have an interesting talk with for hours, these people are usually very understanding, their ability to give advice and understand your deepest feelings is unparalled. So for the top 10 reasons why the last group doesn't get the girls: 1. They are not popular. 2. They are different from most people. They are more individualistic than anyone else. 3. They are usually not as attractive. 4. They usually lack some social skills and are probably shy. 5. Especially in their teenage years, they act in a much more mature manner, although when pressured into a stressful situation by their peers, may act completely ignorant. 6. They want it too much. As I said before these guys are very passionate (Don't confuse that with LUSTY). I know this one well from experience. I have a very passionate desire for intimacy, I want it more than the life that I have and need it more than the air that I breathe. And the more I want it, the more it eludes me. I've learned to ignore it though, which helps. 7. They put on masks. They have often been hurt by people they opened up to a bit and prejudged for their differences. After awhile, they are afraid to show who they really are. These people may show two completely different personalities while at home and school. 8. Learned helplessness is a psychology term that describes how an animal or human can be conditioned to be down and feel like nothing they do can make a difference. Like when a mouse is given electric shocks at random times, they end up with learned helplessness because they have no control over their environment, the shocks that is. If the mouse gets shocked everytime he pushes a button, he just won't push the button, so learned helplessness also comes because our environment is unpredictable. I think the last group may suffer from learned helplessness. Where most people would be accepted for a given social act, these people will always be rejected. Learned helplessness develops because they feel like they have no control over their environment, the response people may give to a given action are unpredictable, yet always negative. They begin to feel like nothing they do really matters, they feel like they don't have any control over what people think about them. 9. Logical approach, rather than emotional. That is not to say that these people aren't as emotional, they are, they just don't know how to approach women this way. 10. I agree with the top ten reasons in a few cases, but I think I am describing people that are a bit different that just intelligent. |
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May 23 2005, 08:05 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 243 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 101,570 |
:\ To much to read, I just read the bold parts [I am a girl by the way] and I was gonna say "I've liked smart guys before!" but... I haven't? All the guys I liked were just funny and that's why I liked them. *gasp* I don't like smart guys...
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May 24 2005, 08:36 PM
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 iuvenesco Group: Member Posts: 427 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 101,221 |
aw man, i usually crush on this type
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May 25 2005, 09:56 AM
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 ^_^ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,141 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,466 |
I've run into this problem slightly but the intelligence issue is quickly overshadowed by a few simple facts...
1. I'm good with money. I only work at Express and somehow can make a grand a just a few pay periods. How? Hell, I'm not even sure. 2. Did I mention that I'm a straight guy with good fashion sense who works at Express? Women seem to dig that. 3. I'm a nice guy. I'm genuwinely kind hearted when it comes to those of the opposite. Normally this is a huge pitfall because girls will stampede on a gentle heart, or just take it as 'getinthepantss' scheme, but its worked. And when it hasn't... 4. I have a motorcycle. There's the "bad boy" to balance out the equation. 5. I'm somewhat knowledgeable when it comes to exploring the pleasures of eroticism and I know how to do it without being forthright. Women seem to enjoy this as well. What did we learn? If you are a nice guy with an edge, you have money, dress well and know how to "please" a woman, it doesn't matter how smart/dumb you are. |
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May 25 2005, 10:26 AM
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yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
QUOTE(robb0 @ May 25 2005, 10:15 AM) my simple answer: highly intelligent men dont get the ladies because... they make the ladies feel stupid.  it's the same way for highly intelligent girls. my friend's counselor told her that most harvard guys don't look for girlfriends in their own school, but go to their sister school, simmons (all girls college) to get girlfriends. why? simply because harvard guys are too intimidated by the girls at their own school. |
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May 25 2005, 07:39 PM
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 Senior Itis Group: Member Posts: 806 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 121,007 |
QUOTE(SoManyTearz @ Apr 21 2005, 8:29 PM) well i wouldnt know im not exactly the smart type, im not dumb, just not super smart Same with me. They only problem I have is when girls suffer from the "paradox" - thinking that they're always right and the best around. |
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May 25 2005, 07:41 PM
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 Unlock the Darkness Group: Member Posts: 305 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,967 |
I agree with a couple of those, but others I don't
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May 25 2005, 09:41 PM
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 ^-^ Group: Member Posts: 1,676 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 107,668 |
weird.
I like smart guys...then they can help me with my homework!! wheeeumm, but ya I guess if a guy corrrects you all the itme and makes you feel stupid that's no good...I donno, I don't think it really matters wether you are smart or not, jsut how you act. just my opinion. |
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May 25 2005, 09:50 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,498 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,711 |
I don't think it just depends on like, their intelligence. I think it's whether if their open-minded or not, because all 10 reasons are because the guy is close minded.
Well, it is true that this only applies to the HIGHLY intelligent people of our society, so they have the point that smart guys' strong points are in intelligence and solving logic and etc., but their weakness is in emotions. |
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May 25 2005, 10:12 PM
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mood: content Group: Member Posts: 2,063 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 42,325 |
What about Donald Trump and Bill Gates? =( Money-hungry ladies are lining up outside their door, bling bling!
>_> |
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May 26 2005, 03:20 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 228 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,294 |
hey, guys.....theres smart girls out there too! i might be blonde haired and blue eyed, and i may appear ditzy outta the classroom, but i've got one of the highest averages in gr.9 at my school, and most of the above 90 averages in gr.9 are girls averages...
just sayin, all that talk about the burden pn intelligent men because they are always right made me sick, im smart, i get used to being right, but that doesn't mean i lack in social skills, and i cant stand being around people who are dumb....come on, if this really is how intelligent men think, we should put a hole in your egos! oh and ditch the pocket protectors and hiked up pants, im smart and i do not look nerdy so you dotn have to either:P ps. the top marks in gr9 at my school are also not nerdy looking people....the more eduacationally challenged among us tend to be the nerdy looking people with big egos... also, might sound like i have a big ego here, i really dont im just annoyed and attempting to make a point :D |
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May 26 2005, 05:36 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 7,048 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 22,696 |
If you are talking about the girls that overload on the makeup and slut themselves all their life and giggle like ravaging chaotic beasts, then I must agree with you.
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May 26 2005, 05:40 PM
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 original member. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,825 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,460 |
I love intelligent guys. =P I really can't stand stupidity or immaturity.
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May 26 2005, 05:54 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 7,048 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 22,696 |
Mireh, [a little off topic] I thought you were a male.... Since when did your sign change? :P
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May 26 2005, 06:17 PM
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 E=Fb Musicians Theory of Relativity Group: Member Posts: 711 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 109,045 |
"Women don't feel ATTRACTION for men who make them THINK."
Uh, not necessarily. My boyfriend and I first became friends because we had debates on band trips. He made me think, and we had fun together. 'Course, we might get along so well because I am smarter than him. ;) Just kidding (or not, heh). :P The article is off for many intelligent guys. Way off. |
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May 26 2005, 06:38 PM
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 tell me more. Group: Official Member Posts: 2,798 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,640 |
that thing was pretty stupid. like, i didnt even want to finish reading it. ur smart..ur smart....ur stupid? go find a stupid girl.
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May 26 2005, 08:42 PM
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 ^^ 2005 Suzuki rm125 2-stroke. My baby... Group: Member Posts: 309 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 94,737 |
Im smart in all but half of thoes don't apply to me.. I am very social.. I play sports have non geeky friends so why don't I get the girls?
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May 27 2005, 10:58 AM
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STOP THE WAR Group: Member Posts: 298 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 92,182 |
eh.. iono.. im not smart
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May 27 2005, 01:27 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 78 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 110,391 |
oh, puh-lease. i've dated a lot of smart people. and sure, maybe i crush for nerds. but you know what? it is not completely impossible for the nerd to get the girl.
Travis is proof of that.  even though we're not exactly dating anymore...
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May 27 2005, 03:37 PM
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 -Officially Insane- Group: Member Posts: 870 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 117,293 |
I usually go for the smart guys.
I like it when we're on about the same level of intelligence, & I'm pretty advanced in school, so..yeah. Good looks are just an added bonus  Trust me, it IS possible for very intelligent guys to get girls..just go for the ones that are smart, like you! Try to be nice, & funny, & such...
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May 27 2005, 04:27 PM
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^_^ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,141 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,466 |
I think the list referred to the guys that are so incredibly intelligent, that they are intellectual elitests and have a hard time socializing with others. Not just smart guys in general.
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May 28 2005, 03:47 PM
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 yeah, whatever. Group: Member Posts: 10 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 144,147 |
is some kind of joke?
i have a 4.0 gpa and have had at least 10 girlfriends since the 7th grade and even did it with on of 'em. |
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Jun 10 2005, 04:24 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 142 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 82,183 |
I am smart, like really smart, like 97.4 avg this past year and taking advanced sophmore classes as a freshman.... however i do not agree w/ the majority of the points in tht article.... no social skills??? I have a ton of friends, not all necessarily my age, but a ton anyway, and i don't kno about other smart guys but the major reason i don't have a girlfriend isn't b/c im chicken or afraid or don't kno how to act, or think i am superior at everything ect.... it's b/c I don't see wht the hell i am going to do with a girlfriend at this point in life.... I am 15, i don't have a car, my parents would freak out and I def. don't want them involved in my private life , i mean other than talk at school (cause i go to a private school where they like segregate the girls and guys at assemblies and stuff and have teachers walking around making sure noone is closer than 6 inches @ dances ect. it's really scary...) and maybe hang out, what am i gonna do with a girlfriend??? i'd rather just hang out with my friends, both guys and girls.... build up real relationships with real friends than one tht is just gonna break prolly within a year..... i don't see the point
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Jun 11 2005, 09:14 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,098 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 143,687 |
yup that sounds right, I went out with a really smart guy and he was no fun it was all about useless facts and blah blah blah it was like watching the titanic his ship had sunk since the start =D
^^ I hope that made sense |
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Jun 11 2005, 11:58 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 205 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 19,970 |
The problem is not that they're intelligent. It's that they're not intelligent enough. The people this article is talking about are the ones with the intelligence level just below those that are smart enough to acknowledge that they aren't always right. It takes some form of intelligence and observation to realize that you aren't perfect. This article isn't talking about the most intelligent people, just the fairly intelligent people.
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Jun 13 2005, 07:41 AM
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 chauvinist? Group: Member Posts: 73 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 151,392 |
no comment......
i'm smart fo my age, bt i hav my gurl steady... |
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Jun 13 2005, 08:53 PM
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 whaaaaaaat? Group: Member Posts: 2,293 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,660 |
QUOTE(malsnave @ Jun 13 2005, 8:41 AM) no comment...... i'm smart fo my age, bt i hav my gurl steady... of course u are. that explains the brilliant perfect spelling. i don't really agree...i'm pretty smart and have had gfs.. |
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Jun 13 2005, 09:14 PM
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^_^ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,141 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,466 |
QUOTE(malsnave @ Jun 13 2005, 6:41 AM) no comment...... i'm smart fo my age, bt i hav my gurl steady... Your intelligence just radiates from your posts, right?  This list will never apply to you. Did I say that? Yes, yes I did.
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Jun 14 2005, 12:30 AM
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well not all smart guys cant get girls,
im all honors .. currently have a gpa of 4.0, but im really popular[which i hate] my friend he's african american, honors and way smarter and way cooler.. their are smart guys that dresses hella nice and hella cool |
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Jun 15 2005, 09:11 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 142 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 82,183 |
QUOTE(michelina~kudelka @ May 26 2005, 3:20 PM) ps. the top marks in gr9 at my school are also not nerdy looking people....the more eduacationally challenged among us tend to be the nerdy looking people with big egos... Tru Dat |
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Jun 15 2005, 10:32 AM
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^_^ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,141 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,466 |
This post is also directed to those of a more mature dating atmosphere.
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Jun 15 2005, 11:32 AM
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 My name's Katt. Nice to meet you! Group: Member Posts: 3,826 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,674 |
QUOTE(BrandonSaunders @ Jun 13 2005, 8:14 PM) Your intelligence just radiates from your posts, right? This list will never apply to you. Did I say that? Yes, yes I did. Ahahaha. Brandon, you rock. Everyone is DIFFERENT. Being smarter than your age could make you think that you're RIGHT all the time (look, I'm doing it like the author), so you think other people are INFERIOR. It's naturally harder for a genius to get along with people his/her own age or get along with anyone at all. Smart guys can't get women? Where did that come from? I, as a woman, would not want to date someone that was a dimwit. Unless he was completely self-centered and arrogant, I wouldn't mind someone a bit "superior" to me. I don't mind being wrong and I probably can learn from someone smart more than an idiot with the IQ of 50. 
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Jun 15 2005, 01:35 PM
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i love smart guys and i hate dumb guys. most of those things listed on the top 10 list are falseee.
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Jun 15 2005, 02:15 PM
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 The Texan Group: Member Posts: 430 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 136,431 |
QUOTE(Vozedale @ May 23 2005, 1:03 AM) Here I go again to spill my heart out to a bunch of people I don't know... Ok, first we are talking about "intelligence", while I don't think that is really the guy that don't get the girls. There are intelligent and attractive guys and they get the girls. Nice guys usually don't get the girls, but guys with WISDOM I think more often do not get the girls. Guys with wisdom have a knowledge of life and are very distinct from other people, although often they are also very intelligent. Although no one fits this system rigorously, let's look at the people as balanced. Very attractive people are popular. They get dates, their social skills are being like everyone else that is popular. They might have intelligence, but usually lack wisdom and/or kindness. If conformity means being stupid, then they act or are stupid. Then, you have your somewhat attractive people. They get dates, they have decent social skills, but also have their own values and will not conform against what they value the most. They are probably from average to high intelligence, have some wisdom, and are probably nice. Last, you have your intelligent and wise people. They are probably less attractive and although they might not be ugly, they usually feel they are and are treated as if they were ugly because they are not popular. Their wisdom and higher system of values will not allow them to conform to everyone else, They may have poor social skills and might be very shy and quiet. They are usually introverts, and therefore may have a deep potential for passion. Although these people may not always show to be the nicest people, they may have the greatest potential for kindness and usually enjoy helping others. These are people that you can have an interesting talk with for hours, these people are usually very understanding, their ability to give advice and understand your deepest feelings is unparalled. So for the top 10 reasons why the last group doesn't get the girls: 1. They are not popular. 2. They are different from most people. They are more individualistic than anyone else. 3. They are usually not as attractive. 4. They usually lack some social skills and are probably shy. 5. Especially in their teenage years, they act in a much more mature manner, although when pressured into a stressful situation by their peers, may act completely ignorant. 6. They want it too much. As I said before these guys are very passionate (Don't confuse that with LUSTY). I know this one well from experience. I have a very passionate desire for intimacy, I want it more than the life that I have and need it more than the air that I breathe. And the more I want it, the more it eludes me. I've learned to ignore it though, which helps. 7. They put on masks. They have often been hurt by people they opened up to a bit and prejudged for their differences. After awhile, they are afraid to show who they really are. These people may show two completely different personalities while at home and school. 8. Learned helplessness is a psychology term that describes how an animal or human can be conditioned to be down and feel like nothing they do can make a difference. Like when a mouse is given electric shocks at random times, they end up with learned helplessness because they have no control over their environment, the shocks that is. If the mouse gets shocked everytime he pushes a button, he just won't push the button, so learned helplessness also comes because our environment is unpredictable. I think the last group may suffer from learned helplessness. Where most people would be accepted for a given social act, these people will always be rejected. Learned helplessness develops because they feel like they have no control over their environment, the response people may give to a given action are unpredictable, yet always negative. They begin to feel like nothing they do really matters, they feel like they don't have any control over what people think about them. 9. Logical approach, rather than emotional. That is not to say that these people aren't as emotional, they are, they just don't know how to approach women this way. 10. I agree with the top ten reasons in a few cases, but I think I am describing people that are a bit different that just intelligent. I already like you man, you described my state of mind a few months ago in a nut shell. It's not the fact that someone is intelligent, it's the fact that someone is intelligent and uses it a little too much. (David DeAngelo, I've read a little bit of his work, he knows what he's talkin about and if he doesn't he found someone who does.) See, I was intelligent and logical. I actually shoved myself from everyone else for TWO YEARS because of what happend to me before. I had spent that time to observe people, I actually TRIED to learn why people were the way they were. This is why I was stuck in this funk. Anyways, it wasn't a waste, I can actually predict people now. But that's beside the point. The point is, this "Smart Guy" Described is just someone who thinks TOO logically when it's not needed. I mean, in thier mind it makes total sense, and it took me 3 years to discover that the human mind is NOT LOGICAL. This book is correct to an extent, the key point is it's not "Intelligence" that is the problem, it's the SKILL to know when to use them and when to not use them. |
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Jun 22 2005, 01:07 PM
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Tensai Group: Member Posts: 91 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 154,183 |
Smart guys do get girls, the ones who know how to use their intellignece the right way, plus it depends what type of girl ..... so many hypothetical possibilities to consider.
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Jun 22 2005, 01:09 PM
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Wrong.
<---Smart. <---No problem not getting women. |
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Jun 24 2005, 11:23 AM
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 oh look its emily! Group: Member Posts: 512 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 158,226 |
ok. i have to say. smart poeple ONLY get chicks if they're RICH!!!!!!!!!!! and then the chicks will use them
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Jul 20 2005, 11:16 PM
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QUOTE(malsnave @ Jun 13 2005, 7:41 AM) no comment...... i'm smart fo my age, bt i hav my gurl steady... hahaha what you said just contradicted itself! and btw.. i like smart guys.. im pretty smart myself.. im in the advanced classes and i get the better grades.. i guess i havent been really sucessful with guys yet seeing as how ive never had a boyfriend.. but i like a guy who is smarter then alot of people at my school and im pretty sure he likes me too
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Jul 21 2005, 02:33 AM
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QUOTE(d0nchikit0 @ May 9 2005, 6:35 PM) Bullshit.. Depends what type of smart you are. If you're smart enough to tell a girl what they want to hear, then you'll get all of them. Like me. I'm a friggin' genius and a damn pimp. 147 = I.Q. Thank you whoa... 147? none of the "smart" guys at my school has girlfriends or anything... by "smart" i mean people who many people think are smart. but in my opinion, these "smart" people are complete idiots. they may be a genius, but in truth, i can't bring myself to respect them. i think if "smart" people weren't so arrogant and dropped the "i'm smarter than you so therefore i'm your superior" attitude they'd have a better chance with women. i only know one person who i can say they are a genius and that i can respect them... somone that i know, that is. |
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Jul 21 2005, 10:00 AM
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I like smart guys.
The ones I've met don't act like that. Plus I have a thing for needing intelligent conversation instead of "hey whats up" all the time. But that's probably just me...
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Jul 22 2005, 03:35 PM
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whatch beauty and the geek, the show by ashton kutcher
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Jul 22 2005, 03:48 PM
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I personally that article is highly flawed. First of all, his definition of a intelectual male is just being a smart ass.
These are some of his reasons and my responses: REASON #1: THEY'RE WRONG, BUT THEY CAN'T OR WON'T SEE IT OR ADMIT IT - Again, someone who is like that is a smartass REASON #2: THEY'RE BLIND AND ARROGANT - Arrogance comes from personality, not intelect. REASON #4: THEY PSYCH THEMSELVES OUT - that just froms self-esteem Reason #10: THEY CAN'T DEAL WITH FEAR AND OTHER EMOTIONS - If they have lots of fear, it's not because of their intelligence |
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Jul 31 2005, 09:53 AM
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 straight as a rainbow and twice as colorful Group: Member Posts: 523 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 112,415 |
I like smart guys... It's the dumb ones that annoy me
 I need intellegent conversations every once in awhile... |
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Jul 31 2005, 10:29 AM
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 They Set Us Up With The Bomb Group: Member Posts: 269 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 166,761 |
SMartg guys always get that for some reason, and I hate that
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Jul 31 2005, 11:01 AM
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 it's our chemistry Group: Member Posts: 1,151 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,775 |
Hmm yeah I don't go for really smart guys anyway...
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