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post Apr 16 2005, 11:25 AM
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do you think flirting with other people is cheating? im just curious....
 
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post Apr 16 2005, 11:28 AM
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nope. nope nope. nope nope nope.
 
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post Apr 16 2005, 11:31 AM
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it depends on how far the flirting goes.
i don't think the idea of flirting is cheating...
but it'd probably piss the boy/girlfriend off.
 
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post Apr 16 2005, 11:33 AM
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there was atopic simlar to this...but no it's not cheating...it's just human nature
 
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post Apr 16 2005, 01:42 PM
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uhmm.. i wouldnt exactly consider it as cheating.
but it`s kinda unfair for the other person.
cause like, if my bf was cheating on me, id kick his arse to pluto.
seriously, its jst .. not fair.
cause once you start flirting, you know what will come after it >T
 
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post Apr 16 2005, 02:45 PM
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i dont it would be cheating but it depends how far it goes. but no, its not.
 
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post Apr 16 2005, 02:50 PM
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answer this: would he be mad if he knew you were ___ (flirting, etc.)?
if yes, then i'd consider it cheating.
 
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post Apr 16 2005, 03:06 PM
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i kind of think its cheating..
i mean if they other person doesnt care than i guess its ok...
 
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post Apr 16 2005, 03:33 PM
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it really depends on the way or how far this person is flirting and also just what the boyfriend/girlfriend thinks.
 
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post Apr 16 2005, 04:54 PM
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QUOTE(shanny @ Apr 16 2005, 3:50 PM)
answer this: would he be mad if he knew you were  ___ (flirting, etc.)?
if yes, then i'd consider it cheating.
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I agree with that.
 
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post Apr 16 2005, 05:04 PM
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no. it is not cheating. but i do know alot of people that think it is and get all freaked out whenever their boy/girlfriend start to do it. i don't really see the big deal. if you are comfortable with your relationship, i don't see a problem with it. people that get upset about it are just insecure. ermm.gif
 
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post Apr 16 2005, 05:16 PM
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yeah i think it would be i mean your with that person then you should only flirt with that person otherwise whats the point of haveing a relationship right?

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post Apr 16 2005, 05:21 PM
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No I don't. Well, to an extent. But I get jealuos when my boyfriend just TALKS to other girls which is just oh so sad.
 
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post Apr 16 2005, 05:42 PM
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QUOTE(WrathOfOnigo @ Apr 16 2005, 6:21 PM)
No I don't.  Well, to an extent.  But I get jealuos when my boyfriend just TALKS to other girls which is just oh so sad.
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Yeah me too- I get so jealous when my boyfriend talk with other girls, and I don't like feeling jealous. Eh.
Well, I don't think it's cheating per say. It really depends, like how far the flirting is and how the significant other feels about the flirting. If it went too far, then yes it is cheating. But if it's small or something, I don't necessarily call it cheating.
 
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post Apr 16 2005, 05:51 PM
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^^ same here i get jealous easily. it bothers me

it only depends on how far the flirting goes. but in the first place, your significant other shouldn't be flirting with someone else
 
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post Apr 16 2005, 05:54 PM
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I wouldn't consider it cheating but I'd still feel jealous. You normally flirt with someone if you like them or your bored. Either of them shouldn't come up if your with someone.

There's being friendly.. and being too friendly.
 
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post Apr 17 2005, 03:16 AM
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flirting isn't cheating. doing more than just flirting is cheating.
 
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I don't think it's cheating, but if you are in a committed relationship, it isn't really appropriate.

Having said that, I am a notorious flirt. Even when I was with my boyfriend. While I do think it is wrong, he knew my flirtatious nature, so it was cool.
 
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post Apr 17 2005, 10:11 AM
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pinch.gif of course NOT. we can't help it if we see a hottie..
 
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post Apr 17 2005, 10:23 AM
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QUOTE(strwbrrykiwi23 @ Apr 16 2005, 11:31 AM)
it depends on how far the flirting goes.
i don't think the idea of flirting is cheating...
but it'd probably piss the boy/girlfriend off.
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right.
it goes to a certain extent
 
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post Apr 17 2005, 12:13 PM
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personalii foo me its cheatingg.. because if your going out with someone.. they're suppose to be your one and onlii.. but then again.. thats just me
 
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post Apr 17 2005, 04:44 PM
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no I don't call it cheating unless u have a bf then that's cheating unless ur like flirting with your bf....can you do that? Well o well
 
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post Apr 17 2005, 07:34 PM
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Flirting isn't exactly cheating...unless the person has intentions..and the flirting actually goes somewhere... mellow.gif
 
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post Apr 19 2005, 05:55 PM
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nope its not cheatin....unless ur style of flirtin..iss...uh...yeah....
 
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post Apr 19 2005, 07:03 PM
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if your going out with somebody, yes. =P it's just rude to the person your going out with.
 
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post Apr 19 2005, 07:05 PM
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its not cheating. some it could be conceidered being overly nice. it just depends on how far the firting goes.
 
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ya i agree it really depends on how far the flirting goes but just a lil flirting nothing big or anything is not cheating .
 
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post Apr 19 2005, 10:33 PM
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i dont think u should. i try my best not to cuz wen im with guys i tend to flirt without knowing. its in my nature but wen im aware i try to calm down n stop doing that. i dont think its rite. no its not cheating but i wouldnt appreciate it if my boyfriend flirted with a few girls for fun.
 
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hmm do you mean if you're with someone already? Then I think so.
 
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post May 18 2005, 07:10 PM
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well if yur going out with someone its okay but its just plain RUDE. (i dislike people like that) but if your single FLIRT ALL YOU WANT!!!
 
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post May 19 2005, 04:47 PM
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I guess, if you're already going out w/ someone, then why are you doing it? lol But if you aren't..then..o.O. However, its unfair to the person you're going out w/ when you flirt w/ others.
 
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it's not really cheating, but maybe honestly you should ask who you're with if they're uncomfortable with it. i have a crush on a guy and we used to ALWAYS flirt...and we were really close...not anymore, but we still talk and i still like him and if he talks to another girl i get jealous. -_-

i cant really say though, im not going out with anyone and i flirt with a few people but only two people mainly.
 
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post May 23 2005, 11:08 PM
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yes it is so cheating
 
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post May 24 2005, 05:48 AM
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it depends...
 
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post May 24 2005, 03:39 PM
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well.. if you're hav a bf/gf, then you shouldnt be flirting with someone else. i think thats just wrong.

its not exactly cheating, but its hurting the other person.
 
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post May 24 2005, 06:31 PM
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QUOTE(stephinika @ Apr 16 2005, 4:33 PM)
it really depends on the way or how far this person is flirting and also just what the boyfriend/girlfriend thinks.
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I agree. If you know your boyfriend/girlfriend doesn't like it at all, then it's just best not to.
 
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it's not really cheating, but it's wrong. i really have to stop.
 
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post May 24 2005, 08:06 PM
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umm...i dont really know...it depends on your definition of flirting...i mean if you're verbally flirting or giving friendly hugs then i dont think that's too too bad...now if you're all touchy feely and such....and you're kissing all over some guy...then heck...i'de sey that's cheating...xD only my opinion though...xD
 
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umm...i dont really know...it depends on your definition of flirting...i mean if you're verbally flirting or giving friendly hugs then i dont think that's too too bad...now if you're all touchy feely and such....and you're kissing all over some guy...then heck...i'de sey that's cheating...xD only my opinion though...xD


^ i was just about to write that xP yeah; if they are touching and all that; i'd consider it cheating. but if it was only talking; it's not exactly cheating; but it will piss the gf / bf off badly.
 
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post Jun 3 2005, 02:32 PM
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First, let's explore what exactly a flirt is:

flirt

n 1: a seductive woman who uses her sex appeal to exploit men [syn: coquette, vamp, vamper, minx, tease, prickteaser] 2: playful behavior intended to arouse sexual interest [syn: flirting, flirtation, coquetry, dalliance, toying] v 1: talk or behave amorously, without serious intentions; "The guys always try to chat up the new secretaries"; "My husband never flirts with other women" [syn: chat up, dally, butterfly, coquet, coquette, romance, philander, mash] 2: behave carelessly or indifferently; "Play about with a young girl's affection" [syn: dally, toy, play]

v. flirt·ed, flirt·ing, flirts
v. intr.
To make playfully romantic or sexual overtures.
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IMO, Hugging, play fighting, and other similar actions is not cheating. Kissing (more than a Hello/Goodbye Kiss) would be considered over the top.


From a guy's perspective
I've talked with several women who flirt heavily with their guy friends. Most of them do not think of it as sexual in nature and are not aroused by it. One female only realized what it could have appeared like when one of her friends accused her of being a tease because of her flirtatious ways. She had no idea before then.


From a personal perspective:

I've recently started dating an admitted flirt. She's an awesome gal, but acts totally different in front of her guy friends vs us just going out solo.

Couple that with a long-distance relationship, a very odd situation where it's just better for the both of us right now that no one knows we're dating and imagine how flirting makes a non-flirter feel.

Play-fighting to the point where they are grabbing her ass and groping her, and pulling her onto their lap in a less than just-friends kinda way. Others will massage her shoulders, turning into a sensual caress and even hold hands. All in front of her "significant other" who has to remain silent and essentially be ignored. The thing that gets me is she kept asking if I was ok. It's as if she KNEW it was pissing me off but kept doing it to see my reaction.

Is it cheating? No. Would her friends behave differently if they knew the guy she was dating was right there? maybe.

Is it extremely frustrating? Heck yeah.

I'm not typically a jealous guy. Someone I'm dating has guy friends? Cool. Want to hang out with them? No problem. But confronted with that situation, and let's just say I was like Mount Saint Helens underneath.
 
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if its harmless flirting then its ok, just as long as they dont take it any further then just joking around.
 
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post Jun 3 2005, 03:06 PM
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no unless ure really inlove with a person and it hurts to see them flirt with others then it could be considered cheating or "playing" dem
 
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post Jun 3 2005, 03:56 PM
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Cheating is anything you wouldn't do with your boy/girlfriend watching.
 
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QUOTE(dragyn @ Jun 3 2005, 3:56 PM)
Cheating is anything you wouldn't do with your boy/girlfriend watching.
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no. if your girlfriend had sex with another guy in front of you. you wouldn't call that cheating?


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Is it cheating? No. Would her friends behave differently if they knew the guy she was dating was right there? maybe.


You are saying that it's technically not cheating. However, from a personal pov, it could be considered cheating.
 
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it would be very very close to it but it wouldnt be 100% exactly called cheating.
 
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mm. it depends how far you go with the flirting.
 
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depends how far it goes and how often
 
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