don't judge me you idiot, you don't even know me!! Options

[*Weird addiction*]

Today, my friends and i were talking about random things, fun and bla bla. Then she said:

Friend: Sandra, when i first saw you, i thought you were a slut
Me: excuse me?
Friend: you wore this very short skirt and were chewing a gum
Me: so?
Friend: haha u just looked like a slut
Another friend: Lol yeah, i was wrong, you ain't slutty, you dress like a slut, that's all. hahahaha
Me: *stands up* f**k you bitches.

What's up with that?? They didn't know me and they judged me just by my looks .

Last year my bestfriend said the same thing.

Sylvie: I swore to myself never to talk to you
Me: lol why
Sylvie: because of the way you dress
Me: erm, how do i dress
Sylvie: lol...TOO girly, but i don't care anymore, you are my bestfriend.

I wasn't really angry about that but i don't get it, maybe its me but how do you judge people by their looks?

I never do that, when i see a girl wearing a short skirt, im like "wow, i love that skirt", when i see a gothic girl "cool make up", when i see someone wearing something i don't like i'm like "i don't like the shirt or skirt or blah" but i'm not like "oh my god, she looks like a slut or a bitch or ugly", i don't know but i'm not like that. It hurts when someone tells you that u dress like a slut, and even laughs about it. ...

Anyways, do you judge people by their looks?

[ghjgfkgfk]

it's human

[KELLYYY]

Yeah. My friends say I'm a hooker just because I wore a halter top ONCE to school. Dude, it was freakin' hot that day, you expect me to wear something that I'll sweat in!? Just because they don't have halter tops doesn't mean they can call me a slut.

[racoons > you]

i get the odd tsking for wearing ye olde abercrombie, but otherwise no...

i like your tie, sandra

[Rachel]

You may deny it, but everyone judges.

[*Weird addiction*]

You may deny it, but everyone judges.

I know but not when i don't know you, i'm not like that. Everyone judges, its definately human.

[racoons > you]

^^

everyone judges, but it may not necessarily be about dress.. some people may judge on gender, or on race, or what not

[*Weird addiction*]

^^ exactly but judging just by the looks is terrible, very terrible and wrong. You have absolutely no right to do that.

I have friends that don't dress like i do, or are not in my "league" as many idiots may say. Sometimes ppl ask me "how do you move with her, she dresses like a nerd". I don't care how you dress, as long as i like you that's all that matters. You looks don't matter to me.

[Rachel]

^Even if you don't want to judge, you sometimes will. Hell, I feel horrible when I say "Wow she looks like a slut" but I am not denying judging people.

[racoons > you]

me specifically?

did i do something?

lol i dont think so but i thougt id check

oh. rachel beat me to it. meh

[KELLYYY]

^^

everyone judges, but it may not necessarily be about dress.. some people may judge on gender, or on race, or what not

Yeah, once, I judged someone just because he wore the same clothes everyday, but I found out he was rich. O_o

[*Weird addiction*]

^Even if you don't want to judge, you sometimes will. Hell, I feel horrible when I say "Wow she looks like a slut" but I am not denying judging people.

Yeah but not about your looks or your dressing. Maybe about your attitude but definately not about your physical appearance.

[racoons > you]

but if you judge someone on their attitude, that meanss
you've at least made some attempt to get to know them, so its hardly the same

[*Weird addiction*]

but if you judge someone on their attitude, that meanss
you've at least made some attempt to get to know them, so its hardly the same

That is my point.

[xTINAA]

I think everyone does it, even if they don't admit to it, like Rachel said.

[mouse_3k]

We cant stop it...We can just deal with it

[Negi]

yea we humen,its natural to juge.

[twelveislands]

I judge people by looks the first time I see them but it isn't going to stop me from talking to them.

[*x____duckii*]

I'll admit it. I do judge people by their looks. But then again, it's normal for people to do that.

[starlette]

umm..okay thats rediculous that they said that to you, and may i make an argument for myself? I judge people, like people watching in the mall for example "wow look at him he looks like the type of person who never leaves his house except to buy more video games" but at the same time, I would never let my judgments go as far as to keep me from speaking to someone. If he walked up and was as suave as ever, I'm not going to say oh you are a geek who plays too many video games bye. I think people who judge like that are awful. Me personally, I love people watching, but I also dont mind being proved wrong either. I don't care what the hell people say about me, as long as when they speak to me, they let my words and actions speak for my personality, not how I walk, who I talk to, or how I dress. My band teacher said I was a horrible person because I changed my hair color all the time. HE told me I didnt know who I wanted to be so I changed my hair color to get attention cuz I was unsure of myself. I was like hey moron, the hair color I usually buy doesnt exist anymore, so I'm trying new things. I get bored and change my hair. You dont know shit about me. So yeah. Judging is stupid. Everyone does it, but dammit, you dont have to let that dictate how you feel about a person.

[*jooleeah*]

Yes, I judge people from their looks, but that doesn't make me hate them. I'll talk to them anyway....and eventually it'll change my perspective of that person.

[xMayleex]

Well i do judge people sometimes, when i get to know them better my view of them will change. I only judge people, if what they are doing or wearing is like really like over the top but everyone does it.

[heyyfrankie]

yeah, well, kinda. i will probably base my first impression of how i think the person will act as a person based on how they look. i know that it is not a good thing to do but i won't hold my sterotypes against someone just because of what i how i think they are going to be. i will usually get to know them before i share my opinions.

[iheartjohn]

Stranger: Aww, what a cute little girl you have!

Me: Thanks.

Stranger: Is that your sister?

Me:No.

Stranger: Niece?

Me: No.

Stranger: Cousin?

Me: No. That's my daughter.

Stranger: Slut.

[sammi rules you]

EVERYONE judges on looks. you make first impressions of people based on their looks, and you know it. how ever badly you don't want to admit it, EVERYONE does it. then you get to know the people and know the truth. everyone makes judgements, it's how you use them that count.

[KELLYYY]

Stranger: Aww, what a cute little girl you have!

Me: Thanks.

Stranger: Is that your sister?

Me:No.

Stranger: Niece?

Me: No.

Stranger: Cousin?

Me: No. That's my daughter.

Stranger: Slut.

People have called me a slut, too. You're not alone. Don't let that person ruin your life. Be happy with what you have.

[xhiddenemotion]

i dont judge ppl by their looks but it does give me an impression. i try not to think "oh shes a slut cuz of that short skirt." instead i might think "hm, thats a pretty short skirt, i hope she isn`t a slut; maybe i could be friends with her" or something. i ono.

[swe3ttemptasian]

You may deny it, but everyone judges.

yeah i agree. I'll say if I don't like something, but not someone.. if I don't know them that is

[aznxdreamer]

meh..no one has ever called me a slut. but they have called me "depresser..suicidal girl...gothic...stuff liek that, just because i wear alot of black. stupid people..

[LiLaZnGirL122]

GUrl they jus JELOUS.. lol u shouldnt b dat mad at dem cuz like they was jus saying wut they was thinkin u should of been well u look like a hore dat goes out at night and blah blah ...

[SMUSHiENESS]

mm its totally wrong but people do it anyways.

[*mzkandi*]

people judge. simple as that, i catch myself doing it all the time even though i try my hardest not to.

[Chii]

i judge people the way karamelle does, sure i have an initial thought but it doesn't stick in my head, i won't be like "eww you freak i don't even want to be near you" i'll just shrug it off because i wouldn't want them to stick to their first impression of me

i rarely wear t-shirts, most of my wardrobe consists of tank tops, halter tops, and other clothing like that, that show a lot of skin. even in the winter but i wear hoodies to keep warm in class. i'm the silent type so it's odd that i would wear these types of clothes but hey, i like it. i can just imagine what people say about me but i don't care, if you're not going to take the time to get to know me then go ahead and believe whatever you want to believe, plain and simple

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

my friends right now were intimidated by me cos i look "hard" and like i gangbang or something. but then they got to kno me and [we`ve talked about this , me&my frineds] and they said i turned out to be funny spontaneous loud crazy blabla..

but they say i still look tough most of the time. but im usally smiling ALL the time now so, not much no more.

[yuna*]

looks can be deciving.

learn to live with the fact many people DO judge others by their looks...

[*stephinika*]

^^
i agree, it sucks, but its true. i do at first sometimes, but then i get over it pretty quick. my first impressions do include the physical, but mostly its what i first see out of their personality that sticks in my mind.

[shortiiex]

sometime the way your dress determines who you are...like an identity

[Ballpointpencil]

People may claim to not judge others by appearances, but it is not true. It's human to judge. However, I think that many people let the first impression fade away, which is the way it should be.

[Shattered_Hope]

We're all human...we all judge someone at one time or another....it depends on the situation and the person that you currently are looking at..

[to-devastate]

True; we're all human. It's mean. But we all do it.
I do it.. but I don't tell it to their face.

[danishcookiez]

no matter how much ppl deny it, we all judge ppl initially
eh, even my best friends thought i was really stuck up and prissy before they knew me. they said i had a "stuck up aura" about me...

[lolthissiteisfun...]

I try not to, but I do

[ItzOnlySydney]

people judge other people. it's been that way since the beginning of time. it's so unaviodable.

[whomps]

Yeah it's human.. But you can sort of.. understand them right? I mean if you DRESS like a skank, then it's.. only obvious for someone to think you as one. Just be happy that now they know you for who you really are.

[inthemudhole]

I used to a little bit, but not anymore.
I guess sometimes if someone's wearing a band shirt and I enjoy the band, I'll be more likely to speak with them, but I don't really think that's judging.

I hate it when people judge others for what they're wearing though. I get that shit everyday.

[*basick*]

You mighta seen me in the streets but nigga, you don't know me
When you holla when you speak, remember you don't know me
Save all the hatin' and the poppin', nigga you don't know me
Quit tellin' niggaz you my partna, nigga you don't know me
Don't be a groupie, keep it movin', nigga you don't know me
Hey I ain't trippin' pimp, the truth is really, you don't know me
Yeah, you know they call me T.I., but you don't know me
You be hatin' and I see why, cuz you don't know me

!!!!!!!

[*salcha*]

I guess I'll admit that I judge someone by their looks sometimes, but I would feel bad about it at the end when I personally get to know them. :/

[*wind&fire*]

makes me think... prostitutes are people too.. i know youre a nice person...

[jackizzle]

people judge me almost everyday because of the way i look..i suppose u get use to it. sometimes it makes me really sad, but i know it's only because of my enormous glasses.. sometimes i even get mad at myself, but then i;n just like screw it.. wow i hate my glasses (which is only because of stupid cataracts and glaucoma might i add, but eh) lol.. once you get to know me i am actually really funny

[FoOd]

Erm.... I didn't bother to read the posts before, but how did they become your friend if they thought you were a slut?

[WhiteLotus*]

I try not to, but..eh I do occasionally.

How we dress and how we walk/talk, is how we present ourselves to the world I suppose.

Eh...

[kryzcoak47luv666]

every one is judged at some point, its not your fault, its society, its just the way thinks are and yeah that sucks, but we are stuck in a rut.

[yukichan]

i agree..everyone judges..something like that happened to me before...someone thought i was really mean...idk how they thought i was a mean person..lol...

haha, it doesnt matter. you are who you are. if people dont know who you are, they dont know you well enough. but since they do, good.

[gelionie]

Aww, that's mean.

I usually don't make a conclusion of how someone is like just by their looks... but you can't deny that your appearance is the first thing people notice about you.

[*Weird addiction*]

EVERYONE judges on looks. you make first impressions of people based on their looks, and you know it. how ever badly you don't want to admit it, EVERYONE does it. then you get to know the people and know the truth. everyone makes judgements, it's how you use them that count.

Not everyone judges on looks. I DO not dress your dressing, i can't do that...i might say i hate your pants but i'm not going to call you a slut for wearing hot pants...i won't call you a slut for wearing short skirts...to me its not natural

[*paul murphy*]

Ah, who cares? Other ppl think a lot of crap. Kcuf (read backwards) them. Other ppl think that they want 2 go parachuting of the Ifile Tower, but that doesnt mean anything 2 u (unless u want 2 ) But seriouly, if other people piss u then just fite with them. Whats with all this ignoring crap I hear so much? WHo cares bout gettin in trouble, it's always worth it.
Great advice.

[Eryi]

1. Judge
2. know the person
3. Reject or befriend.

[innovation]

you can't force someone to think tolerantly; everyone judges.

[juliar]

no offense, but if i saw you, i'd have this tiny little nagging thing that said "she's a slut"

But usually, even if people in my school trigger the little nagging thing, i don't care. so it's all good. i mean, your friends dont seem to care anymore.

[Tung]

hmm. people judge me as a "gangsta" wannabe. just cuz i sag my jeans and wear blue all the time. -_-. i like wearing blue whats wrong with that? and i have a habit sagging my pants. damn people and judging ways

[gOODpIRATE]

i know that people like to say that they dont do it, but its human nature that they do saddly (everyone) . even i do it sometimes. well of course when i see a girl in a short skit, i dont think slut. thats not the type of person i am. and thats too harsh, and mean.

i would probably think "wow...wish i could pull that off".

no joke.

it counts whats on the inside, not the out. and not too many people have realized that yet.

have a good day everyone

[SKDMNLE]

._. people think im weird cuz i wear the same hoodie everyday. but i wear differnt other stuff underneath and differnt pants. and theyre still like, uhgz why do you wear the same thing everyday? >_>.


anyways nope i dont. doesnt matter what other people wear to me.

[surfhottieoffcoa...]

dont worry i wont judge ppl by their looks!

but...somtimes i'm sarcastic (but totally not mean) and i point to like.....a bull dog or a piece of mud and i say LOOK ITS YOU!!! my friends laugh, but other ppl are like OH NO U DI INT GURFRAND I'M GONNA SLAP U UPSIDE THE HEAD

[miss barnes]

i do it to people and they do it to me. no big deal. i'm not even trippin over it

[demolished]

Yeah, its all natural, thats how people make friends by judging what kind of person. its all about clinque.

[xxruinedsoulxx]

i guess everyone does that. even me. but not to the point that i say "she's a slut" or any other bad thing. i'd just say "she show too much skin" because i think there's proper way to say things like those.

[toodlepops.]

It's natural to judge.

[literemix24]

well yeah like everyone else said..its human nature..

[DanielleMaria05]

I agree with karamelle. Yeah, I judge people. Everyone does I think. I don't let it keep me from talking to someone. I dont' go that low. I talk to everyone. If I don't talk to someone, thats because I got to know them, and I didn't like their personality, or something like that. I try no to judge, but it happens. I know people judge me.

I had to do an interview about my future job, and the lady that I was talkign to said, "in design, you have to pretty much sell yourself. People judge you on your appearance. If you can't even dress yourself presentable, and nicely, how do you expect people to think that you can decorate their homes?" And she had a point. People judge on first implused, weather you think you do or not.

[IamRad]

Stranger: Aww, what a cute little girl you have!

Me: Thanks.

Stranger: Is that your sister?

Me:No.

Stranger: Niece?

Me: No.

Stranger: Cousin?

Me: No. That's my daughter.

Stranger: Slut.

ew why would a STRANGER say that to someone? thats so rude.

and yeah i think its wrong to say that. i mean when i see a girl with a short skirt, i just say "wow thats short" i dont go assuming that shes a slut. thats just wrong. but hey u cant change peoples ideas and thoughts

[Heathasm]

well the first time i read your sig it said some thing about having so much sex. yeah, i thought the same thing as your friends

[*Weird addiction*]

^ and you are telling me? God don't you just suck...

[parallel]

It's only natural to judge someone by the way they look. But when they become your friends, doesn't that make them 2 faced or something?

Well yes. I've judged someone before due to their looks AND attitude though. So I knew the person. She goes to my school. A lot of people (including me) thought she looked like a bitch and she is. She's cool sometimes though. But she acts like a hussy.

[angel-roh]

Yeah I judge people by their looks.

I don't know if that's really a good thing or a bad thing. But I think it's both.

[*Weird addiction*]

Well yes. I've judged someone before due to their looks AND attitude though. So I knew the person. She goes to my school. A lot of people (including me) thought she looked like a bitch and she is. She's cool sometimes though. But she acts like a hussy.

Well...you knew the person...it's normal...

I don't know if that's really a good thing or a bad thing. But I think it's both.

How in the world is judging someone by their looks a good thing? Jesus

[Heathasm]

^ and you are telling me? God don't you just suck...

i dont know..im just saying maybe they had a reason for thinking that in the first place, because your first impressions leave that judgment to people. alot of the time first impressions are every thing a wise judge once told me

[me1issaaaa]

I think it's just human to look at someone and try to figure out what they're like, make assumptions about them and everything. That's just kind of what people do, right?
Of course, most people don't (or atleast shouldn't) hold what they think against them... because that's just not very nice. Obviously, you need to get to know the person before you come to a conclusion of what/who they are.

[*Weird addiction*]

I think it's just human to look at someone and try to figure out what they're like, make assumptions about them and everything. That's just kind of what people do, right?
Of course, most people don't (or atleast shouldn't) hold what they think against them... because that's just not very nice. Obviously, you need to get to know the person before you come to a conclusion of what/who they are.

*sniff* ... i adore you melissa

[yellowgurl]

welll i dont exactly i might take a few seconds to think about how the person is on the inside and then i realize i shouldnt be judging a person by what they look like. I think what is important now, is that when u gave ur reaction to ur friends it would immediately get them all annoyed because they wouldnt no they did sumthing that ticked you off. So.. you should go tell them, and if u think that being thought as a slut or anything else because of the way u dress dont dress that way then. But, dont change who you are as a person =) i hope i made SOME sense

[me1issaaaa]

*sniff*  ... i adore you melissa

*Insert more cool smilies here*

[NgocQuyen]

i dont really judge people immediately...i get to know them myself or something first..i mean i dont really care how other people dress because i dont think their clothes really affects their personallity...ill comment at their clothes why but of course...but not them...like if you're wearing a skirt in which i can see your buttcheeks hanging out...you bet your bottom dollar im gonna scream out "EWWWWWWWWW!!!!" in the middle of the hallway.....muwhahaha....but just eww about the skirt...and perhaps the buttcheeks also....x_X

[jue]

that happened to me too; this friend of mine thought i was a shy girl and a "nerd" but then we got to be friends.

--neways i dont judge someone and call them ugly or a bitch or soemthign liek that just by the way they dress; all i do is say wuht you say

[Angel_Cece]

Stranger: Aww, what a cute little girl you have!

Me: Thanks.

Stranger: Is that your sister?

Me:No.

Stranger: Niece?

Me: No.

Stranger: Cousin?

Me: No. That's my daughter.

Stranger: Slut.

thats just mean. wtf. i hate when strangers do that. but for sandra, i agree with you... they didnt even know you but yet judged you. that sucks. but what did you do after that... are you still friends with them?